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How to Love Living Together Right From The Start

Take it from any married couple- getting on the same page with living together can be difficult. I brought on Mary Donnell to share with us a few tips she has learned about preparing to live with your spouse.

Here’s what she has to say-

It’s safe to say that I was ridiculously excited about living under the same roof as my spouse. After a brief period in which we continued to try to be these perfect models of ourselves, a few struggles started to creep up. Before you get married and move into together, here are some things to consider.

Assuming that ‘someone’ will do the housework

I thought we’d just live together in a happy bubble of bliss and the house would stay looking fab. Either that or that my spouse would sort things out. Being a somewhat pampered type who has a history of looking fabulous whilst surrounded by total chaos, I wasn’t too worried.

When you want to enjoy a romantic meal together and there is not a clean dish in the house, tempers can flare, and before you know it – you’re having your first full blown row.

It sounds awfully boring and responsible, but deciding who does which chores and creating a rota can save you a lot of frustrated arguing and allow you to make the most of your love nest.

Choosing everything for the house on your own

Choosing to think about what’s the best coffee grinder for you, or what furniture you’d like in the bedroom, is like deciding that your partner’s opinion doesn’t count. Living together is a partnership, so you need to work as a team.

Make a list of everything you’re going to need and divide it between you. For large, expensive purchases, talk it out and do your research until you find something that you are both happy with.

Thinking you have to be joined at the hip

No matter how much you love each other, spending every single second of every day together will chip away at your relationship. Psychologists say that couples who enjoy happy, fulfilled relationships make a point of spending time apart.

Taking a break from each other means that you will enjoy the time you do spend together much more. It also encourages you to develop more respect and appreciation for each other as individuals. Most importantly, what sort of love affair is it if you don’t get the chance to miss your other half sometimes?!

Living together is a great rehearsal for taking the plunge into marriage. If you already know not to speak to your partner before he has his morning coffee, or that he can’t stand mushrooms in your pasta sauce, or even that he likes to listen to cheesy pop music on a Thursday evening; you’re already on the right road to a successful marriage.

Take a Break From the Craziness With Your Spouse

Over the last week, we’ve had both our vehicles in the shop, had or oven go out on us, had or water heater die, and had our heat go out. It’s been discouraging to have so many repairs and expenses come up…but God is providing.

Instead of allowing yourselves to get so wrapped up in everything, find small ways to take a break from the things that stresses you. Doing this as a couple is a great way to keep the connections strong.

Fortunately, we were able to get our hot water heater replaced a few hours before the heat went out. This morning, a dear family from church blessed us with a small space heater and a porch full of wood. It’s been frustrating, but there is so much for me to be thankful for.

Austin is so sweet. In the midst of all this crap and frustration, he set up a place for us to eat our lunch in a warm spot in the house. He cut on some jazz music and we took a break from the madness.

While we sat there, I thought about how important it is to take retreat into your spouse. Even when life is raging around you with all of its crap, you can find ways to take mini breaks with your lover. If it is just a few minutes in front of the fire while you eat a meal or at the table with a cup of coffee, you will feel refreshed.

Instead of allowing yourselves to get so wrapped up in everything, find small ways to take a break from the things that stresses you. Doing this as a couple is a great way to keep the connections strong.

Other things on my mind this week-

365 Done for you flirty text messages for your spouse from The Dating Divas

Do husbands like to use mirrors during sex

Why sleeping without your clothes on is good for your marriage

 

Make Your Healthy Lifestyle Work For You

Last year, I made some radical changes to my diet and it caused me to lose 14 pounds. I’ve been blown away by the way I feel and how my health has improved. It can be hard to make the necessary changes and stick with them. That is why I brought on Angela Godfrey to share with us a few tips on how to develop a healthy lifestyle and make it work for you.

Last year, I made some radical changes to my diet and it caused me to lose 14 pounds. I've been blown away by the way I feel and how my health has improved.

Here’s what she has to say-

It’s a fact of life that we’re all different – it adds interest and diversity to the world, but it doesn’t help when we’re trying to find a diet we can stick to. All the dieting advice is written by someone for their own bodies, or an imaginary perfect person whose body works in exactly the right way.

In the real world, we’ve all got our nuances and interesting features that mean that every day dieting advice doesn’t necessarily work for us. It’s important that we learn to tailor healthy lifestyle advice to suit ourselves and help us to obtain our desired end goal.

If you’re struggling with weight loss or anything to do with following a fitness regime, this advice is for you.

Listen to your body

You know your own body better than anyone – you know when you’re pushing yourself too far, when you could push yourself further, and when you’ve had enough all together. When you’re following any sort of fitness regime, don’t follow blindly.

Listen to the way your body is responding to what you ask of it, and try to learn how to interpret those signals to enhance your routine. Similarly when you’re dieting, listen to your hunger pangs, energy peaks, and huge crashes, and try to interpret how your food intake has directly influenced those things.

You’ll start to work out which foods work for you and which should be avoided at all costs, in such a way that nobody else can.

Be aware of food intolerance

Many of us experience hold backs on our fitness journey, but one thing that can really put us back a few steps is food intolerance. When our diets are changing, and our bodies are going through a period of transition, it can put a lot of pressure on our digestion, causing intolerance to become more obvious.

Many of us experience hold backs on our fitness journey, but one thing that can really put us back a few steps is food intolerance. When our diets are changing, and our bodies are going through a period of transition, it can put a lot of pressure on our digestion, causing intolerance to become more obvious.

This is why it’s so important to listen to our bodies. Dietary intolerances aren’t the end of the world, and shouldn’t hold back any progression as long as they’re properly diagnosed and managed.

One of the most common is lactose intolerance, which causes difficulty and discomfort when it comes to digesting dairy products. Once this is diagnosed, the sufferer can easily substitute milk with lactose free milk, and knows to try to avoid the products which cause them discomfort.

Consider your calorie to activity ratio

While many diet plans and fitness regimes will recommend your calorie intake and your workouts, most don’t take into account your original size or your day to day activity. If you lead a relatively sedentary lifestyle, such as an office job and drive to work, you may find you require extra exercise or fewer calories to see the desired effect.

Similarly, people who work active lifestyles as laborers or similar may find that the level of exercise required is too much, or the recommended calorie intake is far too low. Again, this is where it’s important to listen to your body and make adjustments based on how you’re feeling, not just blindly following a fitness regime. It’s important that you count your calorie intake and usage, and an app like MyFitnessPal is perfect for this.

Take into account your end goal

Everyone is aiming for something different, so it’s impossible for there to be a one size fits all policy when it comes to exercise and dieting. Some people are aiming to bulk up and become stronger with more muscular definition.

Everyone is aiming for something different, so it’s impossible for there to be a one size fits all policy when it comes to exercise and dieting. Some people are aiming to bulk up and become stronger with more muscular definition. Those people will probably choose to eat high protein and fat diets and keep carbohydrates to a minimum.

People who are aiming to lose weight will eat a calorie controlled diet and stick to mostly cardio and high-intensity training. It’s important that, whatever your goal, you keep it in sight at all times. This will influence what you eat, how you train, and how you live your life.

Don’t be afraid to take dietary supplements if you think they’re needed, but be sure to understand their uses first. Vitamin and mineral supplements are always a great idea when you’re on a calorie controlled diet, as it can be particularly tricky to ensure you’re getting everything you need. Protein shakes and bars should only be used with advice from a specialist beforehand, as they can cause weight gain when not used correctly.

It’s important to remember whenever you’re changing anything to do with your fitness or dietary regime that you listen to your body, and don’t push yourself too far too fast. Small, regular changes will be a lot easier to stick to than overhauling your entire life, so start slowly, keep track of your progress, and enjoy the changes.

 

Feel Closer to Your Spouse By Doing This Each Day

Many people ask me how to feel closer to their spouse. I brought Angela Martin on today to share some of her thoughts on this subject. She has some great ideas that will help you to feel more intimate with your spouse.

Here’s what she has to say-

Staying close to your spouse is important, if you want to be with them forever. You must make an effort to feel close to them every day. Here’s a few ideas on what you can do every day to feel closer:

Touch Each Other

Touching one another is really important. Even if you just sit next to one another on the sofa, this will help you both to feel closer and develop more intimacy. Some couples allow their children to sit in between them, but having your kids sit around you while you and your partner sit together is better.  

Kiss Often

Kissing one another every day is important too. It’s all too easy to get out of the habit of kissing one another, and before you know it, you can’t remember the last time you kissed. Get into the habit of kissing every day and you’ll feel a lot more intimately connected.

Kissing one another every day is important too. It’s all too easy to get out of the habit of kissing one another, and before you know it, you can’t remember the last time you kissed. Get into the habit of kissing every day and you’ll feel a lot more intimately connected.

Spend Quality Time

Spending quality time together is a must every day. You probably both lead busy lives, but ensuring you spend even just a little quality time is crucial. This could be a genuine, uninterrupted conversation about how your day has been. It could be over a nice cup of coffee made with an espresso machine like those shown here www.shopgourmetkitchen.com. Eating your meals together is another brilliant way to spend quality time.

Establish The Same Night and Morning Routines

If you can both get into the same routine when it comes to waking up and going to bed, you’ll feel far closer. Of course this isn’t possible for everybody, as it depends on what you do for a living. However, if you can both get up together and enjoy some breakfast and have a goodbye kiss. It’s a great way to start the day.

If you can both get into the same routine when it comes to waking up and going to bed, you’ll feel far closer. Of course this isn’t possible for everybody, as it depends on what you do for a living. However, if you can both get up together and enjoy some breakfast and have a goodbye kiss. It’s a great way to start the day.

Going to bed together gives you a chance to read together and have a cuddle before dozing off too.

Look For The Best In Your Spouse

Each and every day, look for the best in your spouse. This isn’t to say you should ignore serious issues, but you should definitely ignore imperfections that don’t matter. Always think about why you are choosing them today. It’ll make you appreciate them so much more. Too many people look for the worst in their partners and, of course, this leads to trouble!  

Say Something Both Nice And Creative

Saying nice, genuine things to one another is crucial. However, try to think out of the box a little. Don’t just stick with the usual ‘I love you’, or ‘you look nice’. Get creative with your compliments, tell them why exactly you love something about them. It’ll be so refreshing and make you both feel great.

Do these things each and every day and you should both feel closer than ever. Getting into these good habits is really important if you want to keep the spark alive! What do you do every day to keep your spark alive and feel close to your spouse?

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Healthy Cooking Tips

Are you trying to get healthy, but not sure what you need to cook that way? Here’s a few tips from Jenny Lawrence on this subject. You know that I have changed my diet and made many differences in my health. I think she has some good insights to share.

Here’s what she has to say-

Good health is something that many of us take for granted, especially the young. Often, we only address this when something goes wrong. Somebody close to us becomes ill, or we realize we’re getting a little older and need to pay more attention.

Health starts in the home. It encompasses many different areas including food, exercise, cleanliness, and our spiritual well-being. Food is one of the areas that will impact our family’s health, not just right now, but in years to come. It’s not about starting a fad diet in January, which we ditch after a few weeks. It’s about setting up healthy, achievable habits. It’s something that everyone can get involved in, even the most reluctant cook.

Improve Your Confidence

Many people are reluctant to cook because they don’t know how. So, instead, they rely on ready meals and processed food. However, cooking is something that is available to everyone. There’s no alchemy involved or trade secrets that you have to discover. In fact, most of cooking and baking is made up of a few simple tried and tested techniques. All you have to do is learn them. Sites like https://www.buzzfeed.com can help you get started.

Keep it simple in the early stages. Forget about souffles and showstopping cakes, opt for food that is nourishing, tasty and easy to prepare. A one-pot meal will provide your family with proteins and vitamins and will taste delicious. And what’s more, it takes no time at all.

Save Time

If your problem with cooking is that you simply don’t have time, there are many ways to overcome this. Unless you love being in the kitchen, the majority of people don’t feel like cooking an elaborate meal at the end of a busy day. But rather than reaching for a ready meal or phoning for take out, consider the following approaches.

If your problem with cooking is that you simply don’t have time, there are many ways to overcome this. Unless you love being in the kitchen, the majority of people don’t feel like cooking an elaborate meal at the end of a busy day. But rather than reaching for a ready meal or phoning for take out, consider the following approaches.

The problem with processed food and takeout is that it is full of unhealthy ingredients. But what if you could create your own that combines tasty, healthy ingredients with the convenience of processed food? All it takes is a little planning. The next time you make a meal for your family, make twice as much. It may take a little longer, in terms of chopping and cooking time, but we’re talking minutes.

When you come to serve the food, freeze half of it for a later date. So, when you get home from work after a busy day, all you have to do is defrost it and heat it up.

Having a good microwave helps. There are many models now which combine a microwave and a conventional oven. The benefit is that food is hot, tasty, and browned to perfection. Finding the right model is easy, if you take a look at review sites such as http://whatmicrowave.com/best-convection-microwave.

Invest In The Right Tools

Any job is made easier if you have the right tools. You don’t need anything fancy like high-end blenders or mixing machines. Just make sure you have the basics. This includes:

It’s possible to create delicious and nutritious food for the whole family, without spending all day in the kitchen or being a professional chef. It can be as simple as investing in the right tools, a little planning and brushing up on your basic techniques.

 

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The Perfect Meal For A Romantic Night In

I highly encourage you to have regular date nights at home. If you are looking for a great meal to cook for your next at home date night, then check out this recipe from Tammy Lenard.

Every now and then it's nice to make a home-cooked, romantic meal for you and your husband. He will certainly appreciate the effort, and you both get to sit down and enjoy some delicious food and spend some quality time on your relationship.

Here’s what she has to say-

Every now and then it’s nice to make a home-cooked, romantic meal for you and your husband. He will certainly appreciate the effort, and you both get to sit down and enjoy some delicious food and spend some quality time on your relationship.

Popular choices for these sorts of dinners include your spouse’s favorite dishes, or why not try some food that has aphrodisiac qualities? Check out my suggestions and recipes below.

Appetizer: Dressed Crab Salad

When most people think of an aphrodisiac starter, oysters immediately spring to mind. But not many realize that crab, because of its high zinc levels is a great aphrodisiac too. That is why you should go for a delicious dressed crab salad for your starter. It is super simple too.

First get a hold of a fresh crab. Then steam until cooked. Then remove the crab meat from the shell. You can find a tutorial here.

Once you have the crab meat, flake the white meat and set aside. Then mix the brown meat with lemon juice and a little creme fraiche to make a sauce.

Then sprinkle the white crab over salad greens, try arugula as this has aphrodisiac quality too. Then dress with the brown meat creme fraiche and serve with a wedge of lemon and some lightly toasted bread.

Entree: Italian Pulled Beef With Pine Nuts

pulled beef with pine nuts recipe

When deciding on the main course, it can be easy to go for steak or beef, because we know that it what our other half would like. But how about doing something a little more interesting with it this time?

Instead of serving the tradition steak and fries try this old Italian recipe instead. You get a joint of beef and cook it in a big pot of pasta with garlic and herbs. Then you add pine nuts, again being full of zinc they are the perfect aphrodisiac.

Once cooked to your liking you can shred the beef similar to pulled pork. Serve with the passata sauce over pasta for a filling and delicious entree.

Dessert

Chocolate Truffle Recipe

Everyone know that chocolate is an aphrodisiac, but not many people realize it is because consuming it releases dopamine into the body, which is the pleasure hormone.

But after such a big meal you won’t want too large a dessert otherwise; you will both lose your enthusiasm! Instead, try your hand at some homemade chocolate truffles. All you need is some good quality chocolate and some double cream.

Add the cream and a small amount of chocolate to a plastic bowl, then microwave for 30 seconds. Remove and stir and continue the process until all of the chocolate has dissolved.

It is worth mentioning that the point, that stirring the mixture can help you melt the chocolate without cause the cream to over boil, so always do that before you put it back in the microwave.

Then pour the mixture into a tub like a food tub or one use for ice cream. Allow it to cool and then refrigerate for 24 hours. These are great because you can make them beforehand, so you have less to do on the night.

Once chilled use a melon baller or a teaspoon to get a dime sized portion of the mixture out roll into a ball and coat in cocoa powder or desiccated coconut and serve.