10 Ways to Make More Time For Intimacy in Marriage

I am often asked how you and your spouse can make time for intimacy, especially if there are kids in the house. If you don’t invest in your relationship now, you may find it’s not there for you when the kids move out. Don’t take your relationship lightly at any stage of life.

These are my top tips:

1. Limit what your kids are involved in.

Don’t let your kids be involved in after-school activities every day of the week. If they have to be involved every day of the week for a season, make sure there are months out of the year they are off.

2. Limit what functions, groups, and things you say yes to.

Just because you were asked to do something doesn’t mean you need to say yes. Pick a small number of things you can feel passionate about and give your time to that. Say no to the rest.

3. Take a team approach to housework.

Give everyone a daily or weekly chore list so no one is slammed with work.


4. Don’t be afraid to hire help.

It’s ok if you need to pay someone to watch your kids a few days a week or come in and clean your house. Maybe you pay a grocery delivery service to bring your groceries once a month or do curbside pickup. Maybe you should send your laundry out to get cleaned once a month. Do whatever you can afford to free up some time. 

5. Make your bedroom off-limits to the kids.

Teach your kids that when you are in your bedroom, they should leave you alone. Start when they are toddlers and by the time they are old enough to be out in the house alone, they’ll leave you alone. This makes it easy to steal away for a short period to re-connect. 



6. Be intentional about date nights.

Whether you stay at home or go out, take time to put your phones down, limit the distractions, and talk to each other. 


7. Create a schedule for sex.

Decide each week what nights you are going to make time for sex. 


8. Laugh together.

Find ways to make your spouse laugh and enjoy spending time together. 


9. Have a slow day.

Pick one day a week and just slow down. It might mean you need to re-evaluate your life and say no to some things. But be intentional about having a day where you don’t have much to do. 


10. Go to bed together.

Do the best you can to head to the bedroom at the same time. Give yourself extra time to talk and connect with each other before you go to sleep.

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