3 Tips on How to Please Your Wife Sexually

 I’m so excited to have Brent from Christian Friendly Sex Positions on today to share with us ways that you can sexually please your wife. I’ve really enjoyed getting to know him and I love his websites. He has some great advice to share with us today.  

Here’s what he has to say-

Tip 1: Help Her Get Ready for Sex

Men in general don’t need much to get them ready for sex. A simple “you wanna?” look from their wife is all they need to get in the frame of mind to have sex. It takes more effort than that for a woman to be ready for sex. Here are some of my tips to help you please your wife sexually.

Sex Starts in the Kitchen

No, the secret to getting your wife in the mood for sex is not to make your first move in the kitchen, although you could, wink wink. What I mean by the phrase, “sex starts in the kitchen,” is help make sure chores around the house are taken care of. This will help ease her mind and relax. My wife has told me that she finds me the sexiest when I’m washing the dishes. I thought she was just telling me that so I would keep washing the dishes until other wives told me the same thing about their husbands. I wash dishes all the time now!  

 So, make sure the dishes are clean, clothes are picked up, trash taken out, kids are bathed and put to bed, and any other things that need to be done around the house, and she’ll find it easier to clear her mind and be ready for sex.

Keep a Clean Organized Bedroom

Your bedroom should be a place of rest and a sanctuary for your marriage. A clean organized bedroom helps ease her mind. Some people go as far as not having a TV in their bedroom. We haven’t gone that far, but there are many nights we never turn it on so we can focus on each other instead of the TV.

Set the Mood

LIght candles for mood

Help your wife feel confident and beautiful by turning off the lights and lighting a few candles on each side of the bed. You’ll be amazed at how candles can set the mood. Turn on some relaxing music that helps her get in the mood. If kids are still living at home, especially teenagers, turn on a loud fan to help mask any love-making sounds.

Tip 2: Don’t Go Straight for Home Base. Take Your Time.

take your time

Okay, you’ve done the dishes, helped fold and save the clothes, bathed the kids and put them to bed, and now you and your wife are in bed relaxing. Although you would probably love it if she reached over and went straight for your genitals, that probably won’t go over as well if you tried that with her. Here are a few tips that will help her get ready for sex.

Give Her a No-Strings-Attached Massage

If you want to know how to please your wife, give her a long sensual massage and watch her melt into a relaxed state of body and mind. Don’t just squeeze her feet a few times and say “let’s get it on!” Think long, slow, and relaxing. Ladies, it helps a lot if you concentrate on his hands massaging you instead of the problems of your world. This will help center your mind and keep it clear of anything but your husband.   Notice that I said a “no-strings-attached” massage. Give her the massage without expecting anything, including sex, in return. This will alleviate any pressure she may feel to have sex and help her to relax. Sure, you might not end up giving a massage with a happy ending every time, but you will get that happy ending more often than not.  


I occasionally like to cuddle with my wife, but she gets hot really quickly, so she only likes to cuddle during the winter. Cuddling makes her feel loved and safe and will often lead to lovemaking. Take time to hold your wife so she feels loved and safe.  

Circle In

So now things are progressing, there’s touching and kissing going on, and you both know where this is heading. Don’t reach in her pants and go for the gold. Take a very long windy trip there. Start by kissing her on the lips, then move to her ears and neck. Gently rub your fingers down her arm and back up over her breasts. Kiss her nipples and slowly move your kisses down her belly.   You get the idea? Take time to build anticipation by showing every part of her body attention while keeping her most sensitive areas for the end. This will build up sexual tension that will hopefully be released as an orgasm or two later.  

Tip 3: Secrets to Orgasming Together

For us, the best love making sessions are when we orgasm together or really close together. It doesn’t happen all of the time, but it’s definitely possible. Here are a few tips that might help you and your spouse orgasm together.  

Foreplay Foreplay Foreplay

I said foreplay three times because it’s that important. It takes many women much longer to reach orgasm. Most men can’t last long enough to give her an orgasm from intercourse alone.  I’ve written a great detailed guide on Giving Your Wife Great Cunnilingus. You can use these cunnilingus techniques to bring her to the edge of orgasm and then quickly switch to intercourse and finish together.  

Sex Position Combinations

Make love in one of your usual sex positions. When he’s gone as long as he can, switch to a sex position with a lot of clitoral stimulation like the Reverse Grinding the Corn. This will hopefully stimulate her enough to orgasm, and well… it won’t take much for him either.  

Use a Vibrator

A simple traditional-style vibrator can work wonders at helping both of you orgasm together. The easiest way to do this is by having her press the tip of the vibrator on her clitoris while making love to her husband in the missionary-style sex position. It helps if he supports his upper body with his arms so that she can comfortably hold the vibrator in place. The intense clitoral stimulation from the vibrator will most likely bring her to orgasm fairly quickly.  

Brent runs ChristianFriendlySexPositions. com, and writes at MarriageBed.tips about topics that help couples have more fulfilling intimate love-making. Brent and his wife also own MarriedDance.com – A Christian-friendly marriage toy store.

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