There will be plenty of days when you’re in the mood for sex and you want your husband to know it. I’ve personally tried many things to get my point across and none of them worked. There’s only been one thing that has. Here are some ideas to help you efficiently achieve your goal.
I used to think that I could subtly tell Austin I was in the mood and get him to come after me. I had a few go-to moves that I thought would send him the signals that I was hot and ready. To my surprise, he rarely ever got it! What was I doing wrong? Finally, I figured it out, but it took a long time to get there.
Here are 3 ways to not ask for sex from your husband.
Don’t put kids to bed early and wait for him to get the hint
Calling it an early night is a great way to get started on lovemaking if you’re in the mood. I used to think, “If I can just get these kids in bed, then we’ll be able to spend some alone time together”. Seems like the perfect time to be romantic right? That certainly can’t happen when you’ve got kids draping off of you.
However, simply putting the kids to bed early isn’t going to cut it. Your husband may just think you’re tired and headed to bed. He may even assume you’ve got work you need to do.
Don’t come between him and what he’s doing
If you think standing in front of your husband while he’s busy doing something is going to end in you both rushing to the bedroom, think again. You’re thinking, “He’s going to get the hint and jump me”. He’s thinking, “Why is she standing in front of me while I’m trying to watch tv?”.
Getting in his line of sight between his favorite show isn’t going to send the signal, “I need your body”. This one of the worst ways to try flirting with your spouse. Likely, you’ll both end up frustrated because he will ask you to move, and you’ll take it that he’s not in the mood. Your communication is not clear and both of you will end up upset and frustrated.
Don’t dress in something sexy and expect him to get it
Chances are, your husband thinks you always look sexy. So, you taking the time to put on something sexy, still may not hit home yet. While you may think he’ll totally get what you want, that may not be the case. Again, he could just think you’re ready for bed.
I used to put on my most revealing clothes and come sit beside Austin. I would think, “certainly he will know that I want him”. What ended up happening, is he would just cut on the tv like usual. Why didn’t he get it? Because he couldn’t tell the difference between what I considered to be my “sexy” clothes, and my “regular” clothes. They were all sexy to him.
After 15 years of marriage, here’s what I have determined is the best way to ask for sex from your husband-
Do make it crystal clear. Ask him!
It is no secret that women are known for “beating around the bush” to get what we want. This is a complete waste of time. Here’s a spoiler….your husband doesn’t get it.
If you want some intimate time with your husband, just tell him. Let him know, give him a few sweet kisses, and he’ll totally understand what you want.
When I finally came out of my shell and actively pursued Austin, it made a HUGE difference! We had no more miscommunications. He gladly welcomed my simple “come get me” statements over the other actions. I know! I know! It doesn’t seem so romantic to just say, “hey, you wanna have sex?”. But believe me, it’s much more effective.
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.