Are you looking for fun things to do with your spouse that will help you enjoy each other’s company and building connection? I put together a long list of ideas that you can consider. Sometimes you can get in a dating rut, and spicing up that part of your relationship can lead to deeper intimacy.
Here are my top ideas of fun things to do with your wife or husband.
Fun Things To Do Table of Contents
1. Dress Up In Costumes
Austin and I love dressing up every year for Halloween. We spent a lot of years in kids’ and youth ministry, so we had many occasions to dress up in costumes. Here is a round-up of some of our favorite couple’s costumes.
You don’t have to wait for Halloween to dress up. Turn it into a sexy date night, and both of you dress up as part of your foreplay before sex. I wrote this post with ideas on inviting your spouse to a sexy party after Halloween, but you could do this any time of year.
2. Watch Clips of Stand-up Comedy
Finding ways to laugh together is really important in any relationship. Many comedians put out shows on Netflix or post clips of their routines on YouTube.
Here are a few comedians and fun channels you can check out if you’re looking for recommendations:
This can be a fun activity because you’ll be laughing and enjoying the time with each other.
3. Redecorate a Room in Your House
Well…maybe not redecorating a whole room in one day, but you can certainly work on parts of the project over the course of a few weeks. Austin and I have had a lot of fun creating art, upcycling old furniture, painting the walls, etc., together. The best place to start with this idea is to look online for ideas to inspire you to update the room in your house.
4. Volunteer Together
Volunteering together for a purpose that you’re both passionate about brings a lot of satisfaction. Over the years, we spent a lot of time volunteering at our church, food pantries or food banks, and more. Put together a few ideas of where you can volunteer and then pick one or rotate them.
5. Drive Around a New Part of Town
Whether you have lived in an area your whole life or just moved somewhere, it’s always fun to drive around parts of town you’ve never been in. You can even park and walk around a neighborhood you’ve never been in.
6. Snuggle Under a Fort Made of Sheets
When is the last time you made a fort out of sheets? Well, I can tell you this was something we did all the time when the kids were younger. Building a fort doesn’t have to be something that you do with your kids. Anything you do that’s out of the usual or ordinary can spark excitement.
7. Plant a Garden
One of the best things about planting a garden together is that you get to watch it grow over the season. Of course, it takes time and attention for it to stay healthy, but it can be worth the effort. If you want to take the romance up a notch, create a seating area so that you and your spouse can spend time in the garden.
8. Have a Squirt Gun or Balloon Fight
Grab your kid’s squirt guns or fill up balloons and head outside. Did you ever do this as a teenager? If you did, then I’m guessing it was a lot of fun to shoot the person you had a crush on. It’s no different when you’re married. This can be a great way to flirt with each other.
9. Take Turns Reading Out Loud
By taking turns reading out loud, I’m not necessarily saying you have to read the same thing out loud. If you and your spouse have read something interesting during the week, save it and read it out loud on your next date night. Take turns sharing something you learned or enjoyed.
10. Do Uber or a Delivery Service Together
We haven’t tried this yet, but we are going to! Austin read an article in the NY Times about a couple that does Door Dash on their date night. Check out the article here. Now, a lot of people chimed in and said that would be a nightmare of a date for them, but Austin and I think it’s brilliant!
Look…we spent a lot of years with no money to go out on dates. If we could’ve loaded up in our car and spent time together while earning money, we’d of done it. In fact, he used to drive Uber and Favor, so he reactivated his accounts, and we’re going to try this for a date night.
11. Go For a Walk on a New Trail
We love getting outside and walking on trails. It makes the summer bearable because of all of the trees (assuming it’s shaded). Even if you have to drive a bit to get to a new trail, pack a picnic lunch and go exploring. Getting fresh air and being outside helps you feel relaxed and less anxious. There are a lot of benefits to doing this with your spouse.
12. Find Live Music or Go to a Play
Is there a local restaurant that brings in live music on the weekends? Maybe there’s a high school or community college that’s putting on a play. Either of these types of entertainment can bring you a cheap date night.
13. Visit a Museum
Most areas have free museums or free parts to their museums. Pick one that you’ve never been to and check it out. Or, splurge and pay for a museum that’s been too expensive to take your whole family to. Honestly, interactive children’s museums are a lot of fun, even for adults!
14. Google Exotic Places You Wish You Could Visit
Can’t leave your house? Get on your computer and Google places you wish you could visit. The Travel Intern has 17 free virtual tours you can take. Tech Radar published this post with 10 places you can visit virtually.
15. Scroll Through Old Social Media Posts
Well…this one could get you in trouble if you’ve had social media longer than you’ve been married. Just filter it, so you’re not looking at old posts with past girlfriends or boyfriends.
16. Go to a Historical Part of the Town and Walk Around
Walking around historic districts is one of my favorite things to do. The houses are so beautiful, and I love seeing architecture from different time periods. Whenever we do this, we stop somewhere in advance to go to the bathroom so we can walk around the neighborhood without having to cut it short. If walking isn’t an option, you can always drive through the neighborhood.
17. Cook a Meal Together
Cooking together can be a great way to get your next at-home date night started. You can begin in the kitchen by cooking something new or sticking with an old favorite. If you don’t usually cook together, then this can also be an exercise in communication. Communicating in the kitchen is a skill that takes time to build.
18. Do a House Project
It doesn’t have to be a big project that costs a lot of money…a small house project can help you, and your spouse connect. Pick something that is small and inexpensive, like updating an old piece of furniture or re-arranging a room.
19. Sing or Dance Together
Whether you go out for a night of karaoke and dancing or do this at home, it can be a lot of fun to do this with your husband or wife. You can put on a YouTube karaoke playlist like this one and sing along or dance.
20. Take a Painting Class
Paint and sip classes are pretty much everywhere these days. This type of painting class is designed for beginners. We’ve gone to painting classes for date nights with our friends a few times, and we all walk away happy with our pictures.
21. Look at Your Wedding Album
Want to bring back romantic memories (assuming your wedding day was romantic?) then pull out your wedding album. It’s always a lot of fun to look back at old pictures of you and your spouse when you were first in love.
22. Eat at a New Restaurant
Is there somewhere new in town or a place you’ve never been? Why not experience it together? You don’t have to go on big adventures with each other…small ones, like to a new fancy restaurant, can bring excitement.
Now…in full disclosure, I have gluten and dairy sensitivities, so eating at new restaurants is often annoying to me. But, it’s always a nice surprise when I try a new place that someone suggested and I find something I can eat.
23. Play Board Games Or Video Games Together
Pull out a deck of cards, a board game you enjoy, or set up a video game you can play together. Game nights can be a lot of fun as a couple because it allows you to focus on each other. Of course, you will have to choose a game that’s best played with just two people.
24. Go on a Double Date
Have friends you both enjoy spending time with? Some of our favorite things to do on couples’ dates are to do a painting class, go bowling or to an arcade, listen to live music, do an escape room, etc. Here’s a post we wrote on double date ideas.
25. Go Through a Photo Experience
Photo experiences (also known as selfie museums, Instagrammable, places, or interactive art galleries) are a lot of fun. We’ve seen this type of venue popping up all over the place. Basically, it’s a walk-through exhibit that has different stations that are perfect for taking pictures of each other. The ones we’ve been to have cameras set up that are on timers so you can both be in the picture.
26. DIY Photo Shoot Day
If you can’t find a photo experience near you, then look for fun places around town where you can do a photo shoot. Maybe there’s an area in town that has murals painted on the buildings. Or you could look for old buildings, open fields, interesting statues, etc., and do your own photo shoot. Take turns taking pictures of each other.
27. Take a Workout Class or Dance Class Together
Find a workout class or dance class that you are both interested in and sign up to go weekly. Having a weekly class, you are committed to going to can be a great way to make date night a priority.
28. Go To an Amusement Park Without The Kids
I don’t know about you, but going to a theme park with my kids can be pretty exhausting. However, Austin and I have been to Six Flags without our kids, and it was so much more relaxing. We were able to do the things that interested us and not worry about keeping up with our kids all over the park.
29. Find a Hot Air Balloon Festival
If you’ve never been to a hot air balloon festival, then you’re missing out! It’s so beautiful, especially at night when they light up all of the balloons. Most of the time, they have hot air balloon rides as well. Not the kind that leaves the area, but a balloon that just goes up, and they keep it from floating away by anchoring it to the ground.
30. Turn Left
Next time you’re walking through the neighborhood or driving around town, go down a street or path you’ve never gone down before. We went for a walk one night and turned left instead of right and found a wildflower garden in our neighborhood we never knew about before! Try something just a little different and see what kind of adventure you can find!
31. Be lazy!
Do you ever just sit on the couch or lay in the bed next to your spouse? Sometimes it can be fun doing nothing at all, just being in each other’s company! You’ll probably end up having a fun conversation; just give yourself the time to explore it.
32. Go to The Local Library or Have a Bookstore Date
We spent a lot of time at the library or Barnes and Noble in our dating years. That carried on into our married life. It was free, there was usually internet, and we could browse books or magazines we liked.
If you want a creative idea for the bookstore, you can check out this free printable over at The Dating Divas. They put together a bookstore scavenger hunt. Be sure to check out their website for other cute date ideas.
33. Go See Christmas Lights or Any Area With Lights
During the pandemic, we were always looking for fun things to do that allowed us to distance ourselves socially. Sure, we’ve always looked for Christmas lights during the holiday season. This past year, I stepped it up a bit by making hot cocoa for us to drink while we drove around or walked around.
You don’t have to wait until Christmas to do this idea. Is there an area in your town where they have a lot of lights set up year-round? If so, find that area and walk around or drive through it. Lights are so romantic and a lot of fun to do with your husband or wife.
34. Take Personality Tests
Want to really understand your spouse? Consider taking different personality tests and comparing. A few that we’ve taken include the free version of the 16 Personalities test and the enneagram test. We took these years ago, but I remember it being very eye-opening for us to see our difference and how they play out. It made a lot of sense!
35. Create a Progressive Dinner
I feel like progressive dinners were big in the 90s, but no one seems to do them anymore…at least not in our circles. You could organize a progressive dinner for a couples’ date night idea or do it with just you and your spouse. A progressive dinner is when you do horderves at one restaurant, the main course at another, and dessert at another. It can be done at people’s houses or at restaurants.
36. Recreate Your First Date
Our first date was at a place called Funscape….it’s kind of like a Main Event or Pinstack. We actually went to that place a few years in a row for our anniversary to celebrate. When it closed down, it was hard to recreate it, but I still feel reminiscent of it when we go to places that are similar to it.
37. Create a Romantic or Fun Music Playlist
Why not put together a music playlist of songs that you both love to set the mood when you’re out on a date? You can create the playlist, and both of you add songs to it. Maybe you create a few playlists so that you can set a romantic mood, playful mood, or exciting mood.
38. Take a Horse Carriage Ride
Horse carriage rides are pretty common in cities. Go out to dinner and then book a carriage ride to take you through the city streets. This type of fun activity can be done in the winter or summer.
39. Go on a Spontaneous Road Trip
Ok…so maybe you have kids, and this is not feasible. Why not plan a weekend and make the spontaneous part that you come up with where you’re going when you get in the car? You can set a mile radius you want to stick within and then essentially throw a dart at the map in which direction you want to head. Drive that far and get a hotel.
40. Do The Grocery Shopping Together
This may not sound like fun…because it’s kinda not. But you can make it fun by grabbing Starbucks at the front of the store and turning it into a mini date.
41. Have a Tech Free Date Day
It’s hard to remember a time without phones. Step back in time and go on a date without your tech like you did when you were dating (well…if you’re 40 like us, you had dates without technology). So, what do you do? Take a book of conversation starters and go someplace to talk. Soak in the scenery around you and enjoy the world.
I hope this list of fun things to do with your spouse will help you get your creative ideas flowing and you find some new things to try. Maybe you’ll create a new tradition or favorite thing you like doing. Ultimately, you should always be looking for new ways of spending time together, so your relationship doesn’t get boring or stagnant.