I didn’t get to dance at my wedding, even though I desperately wanted to. We got married at our church and did the reception in the social hall. They were not in favor of us having any dancing at all. I would have loved to do this with Austin.
Since I have no experience with dancing at my wedding, I invited Ashley Lipman on to share with us her top tips to create a memorable night. Here’s what she has to say-
Your wedding day is one of the biggest days of your life. From walking down the aisle to saying “I do,” you want everything to go perfectly from start to finish. For most couples, one of the most intimidating parts of the wedding day is the first dance. If you’re not experienced, getting up in front of a crowd of friends and family to move together can be a scary thought.
However, you don’t have to have any professional training to make your first dance a romantic experience worth remembering. Just start with these 5 tips below and you’ll be light on your feet in no time.
1. Practice Makes Perfect
While it’s true you don’t need any formal experience to hit the dance floor with your new spouse, that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth investing in a little bit of practice. Taking the time to practice at home or even at a local studio will build your confidence and help you put your dance moves to work.
Some couples choose to go highly coordinated with their first dance. If that’s the case, consider investing in some private dance lessons to have an expert help you out. You don’t need that many sessions to master the basics, and the right dance instructor can craft a routine that’s perfect for your skill level. From there, it’s up to you to practice on your own time to make sure you’re ready for your big day.
2. Do a Costume Change
You might be absolutely in love with your wedding dress, but is it really dance appropriate? Long, poofy dresses look great walking down the aisle and in your wedding photos, but they’re not practical for moving around during a routine. If you’re planning to go all in for your first day, consider investing in a costume change.
You can opt for a reception dress which you’ll wear during the entire reception or just one of these dance performance costumes for your first dance number. Having a special dress just for your first dance will make you feel more comfortable out there on the floor.
3 Include Your Wedding Party
Who said this time has to be just the bride and groom? Feel free to include your friends and family or your entire wedding party if that suits you. A surprise performance number with your entire team of bridesmaids is truly a sight to behold, and you’ll wow all of your guests. Make sure you choose casual bridesmaid dresses that won’t get in the way during your epic number.
4. Pick a Song that’s Special
Your song choice will play into how much you remember your time. Don’t feel pressured to choose a song because it’s “in right now” or it’s what someone else wants. Choose a song that’s uniquely you and your partner. You don’t have to choose something traditional or popular, just go with something you both love unconditionally.
Think of this as sharing a bit of your personality with your guests. Let them know that you’ve chosen a song that’s memorable, and they’ll swoon at the romance of it all. Having a musician play the first song live can also help set the mood.
5. Start with Something Romantic
You don’t have to jump right into the first dance. Some couples prefer to lead up to it with heartfelt speeches or even a video montage. These small touches help create an atmosphere of love and excitement. These are the moments you and your guests will truly remember forever. Having something romantic fall before your performance will bring all the focus back on you and your partner, as it should be.
If you’re not sure you want the focus on you for the entirety of the time, opt for the “snowball method.” This is when you welcome others onto the floor during your dance. You can do this by inviting parents, the bridal party, and other family members. Remember, it’s about everyone coming together and celebrating.
If you’re getting married soon, congratulations. No matter what you choose to do for your first dance, it will be memorable because you’re spending time with your partner. These tips above help you remember that it’s the little things that matter. You don’t need to be an experienced dancer to create a first dance worth remembering for decades to come.
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.