Are you self-conscious about your body, the way you look, how you send, etc. when you’re having sex? It can really kill the mood and make it hard for you to get into it. I like to encourage people to do things that can help them feel sexier and more confident while they are having sex.
Here are a few great ways that you can get more aroused with your lover.
1. Believe You Are Sexy
Feeling sexy starts in your mind. Tell yourself every day that you are attractive and desirable. Sometimes, you just have to fake it till you make it.
I know how hard it is to do this if you struggle with body image issues. If anything, remind yourself that your spouse loves the way you look and that they enjoy being physically intimate with you.
Stand in front of the mirror each day and say, “I’m Sexy”, while looking at yourself. Start training your mind to believe that when you see yourself.
2. Use Mirrors To Watch Yourself Have Sex
A few strategically placed mirrors that you can look on while making love is a great way to feel good about your body. It is very stimulating to see what is going on between you and your lover while being intimate. You will feel very aroused by watching yourselves be intertwined with one another.
Also, watching each other in the mirror, gives you something to daydream or fantasize about later on.
Now, I know that if you already have body image issues, this can be really scary. But I want you to try it several times before you give up on it. Seeing yourself be sexual is a great way to associate your body with being sexy.
3. Cast The Right Glow
Casting the right light in a room is a great way to feel sexy about the way you look. Soft lighting makes your skin glow and looks incredible. Play around with different types of lighting options to see what works best for you.
Personally, I like to plug in a few strands of white Christmas lights around the room. This is a quick way to cast soft lighting without having to light candles.
4. Let Your Spouse Please Your Penis or Vagina With Their Mouth
Allowing your spouse to please you with their mouth is a very sensual thing. You can let them kiss, lick, or suck any part of you that they desire. As they pleasure you, keep your eyes open and watch what they are doing. Seeing their love on your body will go a long way in boosting your confidence.
Oral sex is very intimate and can make you feel sexy, especially if you watch what is going on. If you’re a husband, here are oral sex tips for you to give your wife oral. Wives, here is an article to help you with giving your husband a blow job. And, if you are someone that has a hard time feeling comfortable with oral sex, you can check out this blog.
5. Develop a Bedroom Language
Come up with a bedroom language that you and your spouse use while making love. These are words and phrases that you say during your times of intimacy. Use these words to tell each other how much you are enjoying what your spouse is doing with you.
Moaning and making noises, in general, can really excite your mind. Many women find that it is essential to make at least some noise in order to reach the height of physical pleasure. Use your words and sounds to communicate your pleasure and heighten the experience.
Need some help coming up with words that turn you on? Check out my bedroom language worksheet here.
These are a few ways that you can feel sexier and more confident while making love. Don’t forget, you are sexy!
