When you have been married for years, sometimes the things you used to do when you were dating falls by the wayside. The daily grind just gets in the way of being romantic and flirting with the one you love. I know that for myself, I’m three kids down the road and have been married for 11 years.
By the end of the night, I just want to sit on the couch in exhaustion and watch something on tv. My husband feels the same way after putting in a hard day of work, and then coming home to help out around the house and spend time with our children.
That is why I thought that a snuggling date night idea was really a fun. It gives my husband and I a chance to connect, but relax at the same time.
How to Have a Successful Date Night at Home
I think the key to having a successful date night at home is to put some effort into it so that it seems special. One of the biggest challenges to at-home date nights is making the event different than normal. I have a very hard time unplugging from all the work I have to do, since I work from home in every aspect.
I’m always mom, which brings a wealth of responsibilities. Then you add in that I make a paycheck while I sit on my couch and write. For me to feel like we are having a date night in our home, I have to make a conscious effort to do something special and out of the ordinary.
What You Need to Build a Snuggling Date Night
This is where you can be creative for your own personal dating relationship. Whatever kinds of things you enjoy having to snuggle can be placed in a basket. If you don’t have a basket, then you can use something else to hold the items.
For me, I really like having a blanket and pillows. Throwing in a hot drink for the winter or something cold for the summer is another essential. Lighting candles and bringing down the lights in the room allow me to relax.
When you build your date night basket, add in the things that make snuggling fun for you. A movie that you both would enjoy might be a nice idea. If you would rather talk while cuddling, I suggest bringing out some old photos of you and your loved one.
The thing that can ruin an at home date night the fastest is to talk about work, kids, or responsibilities. If you want to be successful dating in relationship with your spouse, you have to figure out other things to talk about that will put you in the mood. It gets your brain fired up to talk about responsibilities and you have a hard time unwinding from it.
Why is Dating Your Significant Other Important
Dating in relationship with your spouse, or a significant other shouldn’t go away once you get married or build a home together. My mom always told me that one day all of her kids would be out of the house and it would be just her and dad. For that reason, she and my dad have continued to date each other.
She told me the saddest thing that could happen is that after building a life with someone for many years would be to get to the golden years of life and realize you didn’t do what it took to still like each other. She is certainly correct in that.
Hopefully you are able to find some inspiration for a date night at home. Even if you don’t like cuddling, then you can build a different idea that will meet your needs. Relationships and dating can both be a challenge.