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Yesterday, I wrote about what it took for me to become a money making mom. I’ve stayed at home with my boys for the last 9 years. Only in the last 2 years have I been able to earn an income from home.
The Influences I Grew Up With
My mom stayed home with us and worked very hard every day. In addition to taking care of us and the house, she found ways to earn extra income from home.
I benefitted in so many ways, because my mom was home with me. My dad worked all over the U.S. for his job and we had the ability to travel with him. Mom was also able to homeschool us at different parts of our education.
What I Loved Most Was The Flexibility
Since my mom didn’t work outside of the home, we were very flexible. I was homeschooled off and on until the 8th grade. I spent the rest of my education at home.
We lead a very flexible life and I had the ability to be a part of so many things. If my mom had worked, we wouldn’t have been able to go out of town with Dad.
Our Flexible Schedule Helped Our Relationships Thrive
My dad left early on Monday morning and would come home late on Friday evenings. We never knew where he was going to work more than a few weeks in advance. In fact, he dealt with last minute schedule changes all of the time.
Having the flexible schedule in our home is what helped my parent’s marriage to thrive.
Keeping our home life flexible allowed my parents the ability to spend more time together. It also allowed us to spend more time with my dad. If mom worked outside of the home and we were in childcare or school, we wouldn’t have been able to go out of town with him.
Is Your Schedule Keeping You From Healthy Relationship?
Going without money is not an option. All of us have to figure out how we are going to bring in enough income to meet our family’s needs. Some things in life are non-negotiables.
Where you work is negotiable. You get to decide who you will work for. If an employer is taking all of your time and you can’t spend time with your family, then it might be time to re-evaluate.
Here are some things to ask yourself to determine if your relationships are going downhill:
- Am I able to spend at least a little time with each person in my family every day?
- Are my family members complaining about my work schedule?
- Am I missing out on important events in my family’s lives?
- Do I have the time to find out what is going on in the lives of those I care about on a regular basis?
- Are the people in my family acting distant from me?
It is very important that you talk with your spouse and determine together if your work schedule is negatively affecting the relationships in your home.
Find Creative Ways to Loosen Your Schedule
Maybe you can’t quit your job right now. I get that. It doesn’t mean that you have no other options to loosening your schedule.
- It might be time to say no to some of the extra curricular things in your life or your kids lives.
- It could be necessary for you, your spouse, or both of you to change your work schedule.
- It might mean going to be a little later or getting up earlier to have time together.
Find creative ways that you can loosen your schedule. A job change may be absolutely necessary and something that you can work towards.
How I’ve Kept My Schedule Flexible
Like I mentioned earlier, I have been a SAHM for a number of years. Also, I’ve been a homeschool mom for the last many years. Now, I am a money making mom that homeschools my youngest child, soon to be all of them again.
Even when I did work outside of the home for short periods of time, my obligation to my jobs were very part time. I have worked hard to keep a flexible schedule so that the kids and I could be available to spend time with Austin.
Austin’s schedule has varied over the years. There were a number of years where he worked and went to seminary. My flexible schedule was very important to the health of our relationship during those years.
Now, we all have pretty flexible schedules that allow us to spend time during unconventional hours of the day. It works for us as a couple and a family.
The Biggest Resource I’ve Benefited From to Stay at Home
I don’t want to paint a rosy picture here that being a stay at home mom is easy. I’m an extrovert, so staying home with my children is hard enough on me. Combine that with the challenges of being with your kids all day, homeschooling, and drawing an income is enough to make me go insane some days.
For the last 7 years, I have followed the blog of an amazing lady named Crystal Paine. She blogs over at Money Saving Mom.
Over the course of the years, she has provided me with so many valuable resources. I can honestly say that it was her resources and inspirations that have kept us afloat financially as well as my sanity intact.
Crystal has taught me how to coupon, budget, and pay cash for things. She provided many homeschooling resources that have kept me from having to spend a lot of time researching helps. Also, the resources she shared on her site are the reason that I became a freelance writer.
Money Making Mom is Helping My Business
Crystal is in the midst of launching her latest book Money Making Mom. I am reading it right now and let me tell you, she has given me a lot of helps on my business.
Not only is she helping me through her book, but every afternoon she is Periscoping with business helps. I encourage you to check out the free resources she provides on her website as well as her Periscopes.
If you are interested in purchasing her latest book, you can use my Amazon affiliate link below.
She is taking pre-orders until November 2. If you preorder the book through Amazon, you can head over to the Money Making Mom Book website and claim your free offers.
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