We have a rule on dates- avoid talking about work, kids, and stress factors. For years, we have relied on Love Talk Starters. Then, a friend gave us a box of conversation starters that we have used for a while. Now- we have our own book of questions to go through.
I highly encourage you and your spouse to adopt this same rule when you are on dates. It is so important that you and your lover escape normalcy and engage with one another.