9 Tips For Giving Your Husband a Blow Job

Giving your husband a blow job or oral sex is a very intimate thing to do. It is not always easy to have the confidence to pleasure your husband with your mouth, which is why I put together a few tips to help you. 

You can watch this video I did about it, or you can read below for the tips I share. 

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1. Communicate Ahead of Time

It’s really important that you and your husband communicate expectations ahead of time of how things are going to go. A few things you need to talk about include: 

• Will he orgasm in your mouth? 
• Will you swallow? 
• Are you going to give him oral for a few minutes and finish him another way? 
• If you are going to bring him to orgasm another way, what is that way?
• What position do you want to be in? 

The reason I say you should start out with communication is that the key to a good blow job is for your husband to feel comfortable enough to tell you what he wants during. You aren’t doing a bad job if he has to tell you to change positions, go faster, slow down, or whatever he needs. Every time you give or receive oral sex, the sensations are going to be different, so he has to be able to communicate what he needs to get there. 

2. Choose a Position You Both Will Feel Comfortable In

I recommend that you check out the fellatio oral sex section of Christian Friendly Sex Positions for ideas on different positions you can get in. Pick something you will feel comfortable in. For example, if getting on your knees hurts, you should avoid a position that requires you to kneel in front of him. You could alter this by sitting on the bed or a chair. 

Since you will likely be in this position for a while, you don’t want to get worn out. It’s ok to tell your husband you need to move or take a short break and do something else if you are wearing out. Giving oral sex takes a lot of energy and motions. 

Also, if you and your husband haven’t done this very often, get in a position where you remain in control. What I mean by that, is you want to be on top of him or in front of him where you can move your head back if you’re about to trigger your gag reflex. Until you both get an idea of what works for you, I wouldn’t get underneath of him where he is in control of the motions. 

3. Use Your Hands to Keep From Triggering Your Gag Reflex

A simple way to keep from triggering your gag reflex is to use your hands around your husband’s penis to stop how deep he can go. Your hands can also be used as a form of stimulation while you are giving him fellatio. 

4. Ask Him to Show You Where it Feels Good

Like I already mentioned, communication is a very important part of giving good head. Ask your husband to show you the areas on his penis that feel best when stimulated. These will serve as areas that you stimulate more when he is ready. You likely won’t want to stimulate those areas first thing, since it can lead to irritation. It will really depend on how excited he is to start with. 

5. Avoid Using Your Teeth

You’ll have to train yourself not to use your teeth during oral sex. Cover your teeth with your lips of you need to. This is not to say that your husband won’t be able to stand some amount of teasing or biting with your teeth, but you need to be very careful in general. When you are sexually excited, you can stand a little bit of pain, but before that, it can just kill the mood.

6. Try Different Stimulation

Every time you give him oral sex, you’ll likely need to do different things to stimulate him to orgasm. A few types of stimulation you can try includes using: 

• A flat tongue – this is similar to what it would be like to lick an ice cream cone. This is a good motion if you are trying to warm him up to greater stimulation. 
• A pointed tongue – when you point your tongue, you can focus on the highly sensitive areas of his penis, like the frenulum. Use light flicks of your tongue and then work your way up to more pressure when he is able. 
• Lips – you can use your lips in many ways to stimulation your husband. The easiest way is to kiss him or rub your lips over the sensitive areas of his penis. You can also tighten your lips for a harder stimulation. 
• Full mouth – put your full mouth over him and move up and down or side to side. You can keep either tighten your lips to stimulate him or incorporate your tongue. 
• Your hands – you can use your hands to pull the foreskin up or down during oral. Also, you can massage his scrotum. 

7. Start The Blow Job Out Slowly and Ask For Feedback

Unless your husband is already really excited, you should start out slowly and lightly with your stimulation. Even if he is really excited, it can be a great way to tease him a bit at the beginning. Use lighter stimulation and then get progressively harder. Follow the signs of his body as much as you can, but if he’s not being real expressive, then you stop and ask him. It’s ok to stop and see how he’s doing or if there’s anything he wants you to do differently. 

If your husband has to tell you to move a different way or try something else, this is not a sign of it being a failure on your part. Make sure you both agree that feedback is welcome. 

8. Create Different Sensations With The Temperature of Your Mouth

Changing the temperature of your mouth to create different sensations for him. You can do this by sucking on ice for a minute ahead of time or drinking something warm. Also, you can use mouthwash to give a tingling feeling. 

9. Decide How He Will Finish

It’s best to decide ahead of time how to handle it when he is ready to orgasm. If you are going to keep your mouth on him and let him orgasm there, what will you do with the semen? Let him know what you plan to do, whether it is swallor or spit it out. Or, if you plan to help him orgasm some other way, he needs to know to tell you when to change positions. 

These are my top tips for giving your husband a blow job. Keep practicing at it and don’t get discouraged if you have to stop before he reached orgasm for one reason or another. Simply choosing to give him oral sex is a gift.