How To Determine The Signs of Negative Impact of Social Media on Marriage

With social media comes the good, bad and ugly. There are many positives, but also some negatives. I invited Jeremy Raynolds on to share with us some of the negative impacts.

Can it be that social media is actually ruining your love life? It seems like such a great idea, that at every moment you can be connected to the world and easily access information but what about when that all becomes too much? Technology has become so advanced that in a click of a button we can shop, catch up on our favorite shows and share our feelings – good or bad.

Here’s what he has to say-

Can it be that social media is actually ruining your love life? It seems like such a great idea, that at every moment you can be connected to the world and easily access information but what about when that all becomes too much? Technology has become so advanced that in a click of a button we can shop, catch up on our favorite shows and share our feelings – good or bad.

We may find that there is too much information everywhere around us. Today we’re going to discuss the negative side effects of social media on relationships.

So what exactly is the connection between Facebook and your marriage? You could log onto your significant others page and be completely enamored. You look through and see shared connections, groups, and interests. You might find a joke, meme or witticism that you adore but you can also come across connections and thoughts you may not find favorable.

So what exactly is the connection between Facebook and your marriage? You could log onto your significant others page and be completely enamored. You look through and see shared connections, groups, and interests. You might find a joke, meme or witticism that you adore but you can also come across connections and thoughts you may not find favorable.

There was a study released by the Journal of Cyber psychology, Behavior and Social Networking in 2008 that actually points to the fact that over-sharing of information on Facebook causes divorce. It stated that regular users of Facebook, “experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners.”

In addition to that, as cited on HB Legal Resources it was also found that a doctoral student at the University of Missouri School of Journalist, and his fellow students at the University of Hawaii at Hilo and St. Mary’s University which is in San Antonio, surveyed 205 Facebook users aged 18 to 82. Of those surveyed, 79 percent reported being in a romantic relationship. That means a lot of people are online all the time. The greatest part of Facebook and the biggest downfall is that it allows people to manipulate how they want their lives to be seen for mass consumption.

In the event that an argument happens one status update can send a small dispute spiraling into the hands of the internet which can take even the simplest topics into extremes. You learn by watching the world and the news around you that a first reaction opinion can be set in stone.

Even in a more simple tone it just takes one passive-aggressive update that can be seen by the wrong person to comfort your significant other without your knowledge. This may also grow into an intimate conversation and in more extreme cases leading to an intimate action on the sidelines.

We live in a world where if you’re not smart about how you choose to present yourselves you can see the ramifications of your actions. Your online decisions never truly leave the cyber world. Even lack of communication has been known to cause distress in relationships. A lot of us have heard the term “good morning text” and it’s been the ultimate way to show someone that you care. You wake up with a smile on your face but what about when those good morning texts diminish.

We live in a world where if you’re not smart about how you choose to present yourselves you can see the ramifications of your actions. Your online decisions never truly leave the cyber world. Even lack of communication has been known to cause distress in relationships. A lot of us have heard the term “good morning text” and it’s been the ultimate way to show someone that you care. You wake up with a smile on your face but what about when those good morning texts diminish.

These are all things that happen on Facebook itself but addiction to the internet is a whole other minefield. Do you find that you lost the ability to hold a conversation with your partner because they are constantly buried in their phone? Do they wake up and immediately check their inbox for notifications and updates. Relying on the world that lives in a tiny device in their hands? Of course, as with everything even this has been taken to an extreme.

So what can you do about making use of technology without tearing apart your relationships? Do the opposite of everything you have read above. I have a rule of thumb. I wait 24 hours before I post anything or even in general before I respond to anybody when I am upset. Immediate reactions to unfavorable things can often be rash and have lasting effects.

If you take a moment to cool off you may find that you found a way to work through it without embarrassing yourself or others. Another thing you may want to do is look at your posts now. Take a moment to step back and view them through the eyes of other people. Is this somebody you would think is collected or do you sense frenzy in their life. I’m sure we’ve all discussed in secret questionable posts that somebody else has made so don’t be the person making them.

Be smart, choose wisely, try better practices, and watch the time you spend online. Don’t do anything to your partner you wouldn’t want him or her do to you.

Jeremy Raynolds who works as a freelance writer UK Edubirdie. His lifestyle credo is “The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege

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