I’m a firm believer that God created sex to be enjoyed by both husband and wife. It should be mutually beneficial. But…I think this idea is really prevalent in our culture and teaching in the church. I’ve been to more than one conference and heard more than one speaker say that I should meet my husband’s needs in the bedroom.
Now…don’t get me wrong, I think that a very important part of sex is to meet your spouse’s need. You should want to do things that will bring them satisfaction. The problem is when you’re really not feeling it, but you have been taught all your life that it is your “duty” to have sex. It goes from being this shared experience you are both meant to enjoy to one more thing on your task list.
So, how do you take sex off the to-do list and desire to be with your lover? You have to change your mindset. Tomorrow, I’m interviewing Rebekah Hargraves from the Hearth and Home Podcast about this very topic. She’s really passionate about teaching women that sex is for them, too.