Who else wants to yell obscenities at the Ashley Madison campaign? Or is it just me? Their slogan is, “Life is short. Have an Affair”. That concept turns my stomach.
If I thought it would help, I would write all sorts of mean things about that website. Here’s the problem though, it isn’t the website that is the problem.
It’s Disturbing To Me That There is a Market For Affairs
I’m a content creator and it is my job to come up with engaging copy to help market business. Know what though? All of these businesses exist, because there is a market for it.
If there wasn’t a market for spousal affairs, then the website wouldn’t have gotten any traction. It would have died in the water like so many other website startups I’ve been a part of.
There are a lot of people out there that are entertaining the thoughts of having an affair, and now there is a platform that will help them do that.
What Does This Say About The State Of People?
We live in a fallen world and we are all sinners. All of us have temptations to do the wrong thing. In marriages, one, if not both of the spouses are liable to have fleeting thoughts about having an affair.
What you think about and dwell on will eventually become your actions. Remember the whole idea of garbage in, garbage out? We cannot fantasize and entertain sin without eventually falling into it.
Your Marriage is Susceptible to Affairs
What’s that you say? My marriage? Affair? Never! Oh yeah…I hear ya on this one. You think that you and your spouse have this amazing marriage and maybe you do. That doesn’t change the fact that your marriage is susceptible to affairs.
Sexual immorality is a temptation that we all have to face in our lives. We all can get caught up in sins that have the potential of destroying our marriage. At the very least, damage it.
You need to recognize that just because you are happily married, does not mean that you won’t fall into sin.
Always Be On Your Guard
My mom told me over and over again when I was growing up to always be on my guard.
1 Corinthians 16:13 says: Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be strong.
Mom constantly pointed to this verse and told me that I should never think myself above sin. She told me that in my marriage, I couldn’t take the position that affairs and sexual sins were beneath me or my husband.
In order to stay true to God, we have to constantly be guarding ourselves. Always working to do what is right and fleeing from temptations.
God Has Provided a Way Of Escape
The Bible is pretty clear on this one. Temptations are going to come your way, but God has provided you a way of escape.
If you are giving into the temptations, it is on your own free will. No one has forced you to do the wrong thing. No circumstances have “made” you sin. You choose to sin and you choose to obey.
In your marriage, what will you choose? Will you choose sexual immorality? Will you let your guard down and meander further away from Christ? Or will you run towards Him and be obedient?
Not Everyone Who Thinks About An Affair Follows Through
There are a lot of accounts on Ashley Madison of people that may have not chosen to have an affair. The website does not have an email verification system, so that means that some people are signed up, but may not have been responsible.
However, there are a lot of people on there that did sign up on purpose and have flirted around with the idea of having an affair. It is important to know that just because you have a thought, does not mean you will act on it.
If you entertain thoughts of having an affair or anything, then you will likely come to a point where you do act on it. You can’t fantasize about something for too long without it becoming your reality.
Put Your Guard Up
I hope that the situation with Ashley Madison has brought to your attention that we are all in need of accountability.
Over the course of my life, I have witnessed people’s sins get exposed. In some cases, I knew the people, and they didn’t seem like the kind that would have engaged in such sin.
One situation in particular, rocked me to my core. The couple was found out and their sins were made known to a lot of people. Their actions devastated me and many others.
During that time, I was brought to my knees in prayer. Not only that, God used it as a wakeup call in my life that none of us are too good for sin. The most unsuspecting people will do things that are imaginable.
I hope that you use what has happened to others in this hack as a wakeup call to check yourself.
It is Not Our Job To Condemn
I learned some important lessons about how to respond to people who greatly disappoint you when that couple’s sin was exposed. Their story was plastered on the news, and everyone knew what they did.
We’ve all seen people do some heinous things on the news. How many times are you ready to hang them for what they did?
Until that situation, I was like that. I saw people on the news everyday doing unimaginable things. This time, though, it was people I knew and loved. My perspective on things changed during that time.
It was probably the first time in my life where I really had to learn to love the sinner and hate the sin.
It’s very hard to separate sin from who the person is.
I learned that the person in sin needs compassion just as much as those they hurt. During that time, this song was very popular and I had sung it in church often.
It took on a new meaning for me, and it always comes to mind when I talk to someone whose life has been ruined on account of their sin.
I don’t know if you were affected by this site or not. I hope you and your spouse are not at the point in which an affair is lurking around the corner. If you haven’t been affected, I urge you to be compassionate to those that have…both sides.
Everyone needs compassion, the kindness of a Savior, a love that is never failing.