The other day, I read a Facebook post from Marriage 365 about wives being careful to not nag their husbands. I love what Meygan had to say. Unfortunately, she came under a lot of fire in the comments section. She shared her personal struggle with this and how she handles it. Many of her commenters weren’t happy with her insights.
Listen in to what I have to say about nagging and what you can do instead.
Here’s what I cover in this video-
Why I think women are prone to nag
What your spouse is communicating when they don’t clean up after themselves
How to handle it when it seems your spouse isn’t taking care of their things
Reader Question- How to Handle Spouse Leaving Clothes in the Floor
I had a reader ask this question on the video-
It is humiliating, when someone drops by and there is a pile of dirty laundry in the guest bathroom that my hubby left that morning and I didn’t know about… How do I “cover” my spouse with grace in that situation without looking like a bad housekeeper? Any thoughts?
Here’s what I shared with her-
I have had to stop taking the way the house looks as a personal reflection on me. There are 5 of us that live here, and even though I’m the main one responsible for managing the house, it doesn’t mean that I’m a bad housekeeper because someone else in my house left their stuff out.
Also, I’ve had to stop being so stuck on the house being perfect for people to feel welcomed. I think people will feel welcomed even if they walk into the bathroom and see a pile of clothes.
As for your husband, I would just mention to him that when random friend stopped by that you noticed his underwear was chillin’ in the bathroom floor. It might make him more mindful in the future.
Otherwise, you just have to accept that you are sharing a home with other people, and what they do isn’t a personal reflection on you. If anything, it reflects on them. It is likely pretty obvious that the clothing isn’t yours…or toys, or whatever.
Another solution is to just put a basket in your bathroom. I’ve actually done that a lot around the house. If I find that an area of the house ends up with piles, I put a pretty basket or box for the junk to go in it. It would probably make you feel better if the dirty clothes are in a basket rather than straight up on the floor.
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.