What is Dry Humping And How to Do It

While I don’t like the term, dry humping, I know that it’s the slang term for what is otherwise called, outercourse. This can be a great idea or option for a married couple that wants to try new things to spice up their sex life. Here’s what you need to know. 

What is Dry Humping? 

With dry humping, you are rubbing your genitals on a part of your spouse’s body while wearing clothing. You can do the same type of rubbing without clothes as well. But essentially, with dry humping, you are stimulating yourself without penetration. 

You can do dry humping in a couple of ways. For one thing, you can take turns rubbing against each other and reaching orgasm. Another idea would be for you and your spouse to rub against each other at the same time. 

Also, you can take your clothes off and rub them against each other for added stimulation. Next, I’ll give you a few ideas on how you can incorporate outercourse into your sex life. 

Use Dry Humping to Spice Up Your Sex Life

There’s a few ways you can use dry humping in your sex life to spice things up and add variety. Here are a few to try:

1. Use it As Foreplay

Start your time of foreplay with your clothes on and engage in a heavy makeout section. You can do this while standing up against a wall and grind on each other. The wife can sit in her husband’s lap while they make out and you both can rock to stimulate each other. 

You can also rub against each other with your clothes off. Put a little lubrication on yourself so that you can glide across their skin or whatever part of their body you are rubbing against. 

A few ideas for this could include: 

  • Breasts- a husband can rub his penis between his wife’s breasts for foreplay or to orgasm. 
  • Butt- both a husband or wife can rub against their spouse’s butt. If hair is an issue, just keep your underware on for this. 
  • Legs- a wife can straddle her husband’s leg and stimulate herself that way. Or a husband can stimulate himself between his wife’s legs. 

2. For Sex Outdoors

Worried about taking your clothes off to have sex outdoors or in a parked car? Dry humping is a great way to stimulate yourselves to orgasm without exposing any part of your body. It would make this much easier to conceal and recover from should someone pass you by. 

3. For a Quickie

Want to have sex fast? Dry humping can help you both reach orgasm pretty quickly. There’s still going to be clean-up, so definitely count for that in your time. Keep your underwear on and be ready to change it when you’re done. 

4. When You Want to Try a New Sex Positions 

Have you ever wanted to try a sex position, but couldn’t actually get the right angle to get inside? Dry humping can solve that issue because you can still stimulate one another even if you can’t fully reach each other. 

5. When You Want to Tease Your Spouse

Start off by lightly rubbing them through their underwear to tease them and get them excited. Then move to harder stimulation with your hand or dry humping. 

Sex Positions For Dry Humping

There’s a lot of great sex positions you can get into if you want to incorporate dry humping into your time of intimacy. Also, I’d like to mention that I often hear that a lot of different sex positions would only benefit a husband. With dry humping, a wife can get behind her husband and use his butt to stimulate herself. When you’re looking at these positions, don’t rule out ones that are meant for a husband to get behind the wife. Try and reverse it and see if you like it. 

Here are a few you might consider: 

Bouncing Spoon Sex Position

bouncing spoon sex position

With this position, you get on your knees and sits on top of your spouse while facing away from them. I wouldn’t say this is an easy position to get into if you’re trying to penetrate, but it could work well for dry humping. 

I’ll Be Back Sex Position

i'll be back sex position

You will lay on your back and arch your back so that your spouse sits on your lap and leans forward to stabilize themselves. Then you will rub up against their butt or they can move up and down for you. 

A husband may like to do this position without underwear with a little lubrication to help him glide between his wife’s butt cheeks. He can push her butt cheeks together and rub his penis between the checks that way. If you are a couple that is ok with anal play, he can rub his penis on her anus. Make sure there’s a lot of lubrication when you do this to keep from irritating your sensitive areas. 

This position can also be really great for a wife if she puts a vibrator on herself and uses the pressure from her husband’s butt to stimulate herself. For a vibrator that will stimulate inside and out at the same time while staying in place, check out this wevibe vibrator. It’s designed to be inserted into the vagina and can be squeezed tight enough to stay in place. A wife can do this position with the vibrator in and her underwear on, or she can take it off. Although, I will say that hair can really irritate you, so it may not be a good idea to go without underwear.  

Edgy Sex Position

edgy sex position

One person will need to get on their knees on the bed and squat down so that their butt is accessible to their spouse to rub on. This is a great position if you can get in front of a mirror to see what’s going on. I recommend that you strip down to at minimum your underwear so you can see each other’s naked bodies in the mirror. 

Mastery Sex Position

Mastery sex position

With this position, one person is going to sit on a chair, couch, or bed, and the other will straddle them. Both the husband and wife can move together or they can take turns moving. If you’re going to take turns, I recommend the wife move first and reach orgasm before the husband. Otherwise, he may be too sensitive for her to continue rubbing on him after he orgasms. 

Bridge Sex Position

Bridge sex position

You’ll have to be fairly athletic to make this one work, so it might be fun to do it for a few seconds or minutes before you can’t hold yourself up anymore. The husband and wife can take turns for who is on top and who’s on the bottom. 

Full Back Sex Position

full back sex position

One person will need to sit down and while the other person will sit on their lap facing away from them. Then, they will reach forward until they can get their hands on the ground and legs behind them. They can use their spouse’s leg to stimulate themselves. It could be a great position for a wife to get into while using a vibrator. It might be a bit more difficult for a husband to get the right stimulation with this. 

Hopefully, some of these ideas will help you incorporate dry humping (outercourse) into your love life. It can be a lot of fun if you’ve never tried it before. 

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2 Responses

  1. Thanks for another great post. Would you agree that ‘dry jumping’ is really a form of mutual masturbation?
    I also don’t get why it’s called ‘dry’ humping, especially if both man and woman have an orgasm. It’s probably messier than PIV sex. I know it’s not very spontaneous but, especially if you’re not at home doing it, the man could put a condom on to catch the semen? The girl will still probably have to change underwear depending on how wet she gets but at least the guy won’t have semen in his clothes. Dried up semen in your underwear is not pleasant!

    1. Yeah I don’t know why it is called dry humping. Unless the idea is that you don’t actually orgasm, but just stimulate. You’re going to have to clean up if one or both of you orgasm for sure.

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