I think we all crave feeling sexy while we make love to our spouse. Not everyone feels sexy, though. Here are 5 ways that you can boost the way you feel about yourself while being intimate with your spouse.
1. Tell Yourself You Are Sexy
Feeling sexy starts in your mind. If you don’t believe that you are hot, then you won’t act that way. Start telling yourself every day that you are attractive. Look at yourself in the mirror and say the words, “I look hot”. This is one time that faking it till you make it is a good idea.
2. Use Mirrors While Being Intimate
A few strategically placed mirrors can help you feel hotter while making love. Don’t be afraid to open your eyes and see what’s going on. Look at you and your spouse in the mirror while you are being intimate with one another. While you are having sex and watching what’s going on, tell yourself you both look hot.
3. Cut on Soft Lighting
Soft lighting can cast a beautiful glow on your skin. If you aren’t comfortable with the lights all the way up, this is a great alternative. You can light candles, plug in Christmas lights, or cut on a low lamp to get the right lighting.
4. Ask Your Spouse to Give You Oral Sex
Watching your spouse give you oral sex can be a huge turn on for you. It is an intimate act that will help you feel hot. Be sure to keep your eyes open while they lick and suck on you.
5. Use Sexy Language
I’ve talked before about developing a bedroom language with your spouse. These are specific words that you both agree upon using during your time of intimacy. On a practical level, these words help you tell your spouse what you need out of sex. Also, a bedroom language allows you to feel sexy.
Related: Get my sexy talk worksheet to help you and your spouse determine which words work for you.
Other things on my mind this week:
I’m so excited to share with you that we released our second ebook this week! Be sure to check out our Creative Conversation Starters For Couples and let us know what you think.
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