When you are married, it is always good to look for ways to delight your spouse. I invited Cheryl Whiler on to share with us 5 ways to make your husband happy.
Here’s what she has to say-
Let’s get real for a moment; marriage can be tough. There are good days and bad days, but the good days over shine the bad days by a mile. One of the great things about being in a committed relationship or marriage is being able to make each other smile.
There are a million and one things that you can do to make your husband happy. We are going to focus on the top five. After all, it is all consuming to be in a marriage where you are the only one keeping the other party happy. These tips transcend man and woman, and we are sure that your husband will reciprocate these tips.
Let’s get the balling rolling and look at five ways to make your husband happy.
Tip 1: Listen
One of the biggest things that we all fail to do is listen to our partners. Children, work stresses and often just ‘life’ can often get in the way and many of us fail to listen to our partners. Ask him about his day and listen intently. You don’t have to respond with a ton of advice, you just need to listen and comfort him where appropriate.
Listening to your partner, whether that’s their hopes or dreams or what a rubbish day they have had at work, makes them feel appreciated. What’s more, it opens the lines of communication in a much more meaningful way.
Tip 2: Surprise him
OK, you don’t have to go all out and surprise him with a weekend in Venice, although that would be awesome, but you can surprise your husband with the little things. Run him a bubble bath, grab him a beer or get him a surprise gift.
Your husband may not want anything but there are some seriously cool gifts for men who have everything. Surprise him with something small. A token of your appreciation and your love.
Tip 3: Mutual respect
Life can be tough, and it’s easy to snap at your partner when you have had a rubbish day yourself. One of the key things that you can do is show respect. After all, you wouldn’t want your husband talking down to you or not being mindful of your feelings. A simple thank you when he does something small in the house can be all that he needs to make sure that he is happy. People don’t like to have continuous or false praise, but thanking your partner for completing a task, or surprising you with a gift is respectful.
Other ways that you can show respect is by being encouraging. If your husband is having a hard time, gentle encouraging words of support are vital to ensuring his happiness, and your own. Don’t talk down to your husband or dismiss his feelings; mutual respect goes a long way. Think about how you would like to be treated, and emulate that.
Tip 4: Put your phone down!
Phones are a serious stumbling block in any modern marriage. In fact, 75% of women have said that smartphones are ruining their relationships. It’s time to put the phone down. While social media and the internet are great past times and time-wasters, when you’re with your significant other it’s time to put the phone to one side and concentrate on your marriage.
No one wants to be in a relationship with their screen. Simply taking some time out to talk, without a smartphone in sight, is an excellent way of ensuring long lasting happiness in any marriage. Don’t get caught in the smartphone trap.
Tip 5: Make time for dating
Date nights are becoming increasingly popular with couples that are going steady, but many of us can forget about arranging that special night out. Life can be all consuming, but don’t forget to make time for the both of you. Spending time together is so important to being happy.
So, book a cinema trip, a meal out or even just a walk around a local park. It doesn’t have to be a lavish affair (or it can be if you want it to be!). Just spending time together away from the stresses of modern life can be all it takes to make your husband elated. Of course, if you want to take a second honeymoon, we’re sure he won’t mind too much!
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.