We have a rule that when we go on dates that we try to stick with as much as possible. Austin and I make sure that we do not talk about kids, work, and other obligations. That is why we are huge fans of conversation starters.
Over the years, we have used books and decks of cards to help us come up with things to talk about out of the ordinary. I think it is so important to escape from the things that are going on in your life and retreat into your spouse.
Austin and I have teamed up together to create a set of free printable conversations starters for your next date night. All you will need to do is sign up and you will receive the free printable in your inbox.
Why Conversation Starters Are Important In Marriage
Our souls crave deep conversation and intimate connection. Remember back to your dating life? When you were getting to know the other person, it seemed as though there wasn’t a shortage of meaningful things to talk about.
When you’ve been married for a few years, you might find that your conversations have digressed to to-do lists, work and kids. Sure, those conversations do need to take place, but it is important to take a break from it.
Retreat Into Your Spouse
I’m a huge believer that you should retreat from the world and lose yourself in your spouse. How can you do that if you talk about things that require action, planning, and concentration?
When you take time away from the world to stare deeply in one another’s eyes, hold hands, flirt, smile, and have intentional conversations, you will connect on a deeper level.
It is so important to take the time to run away with your spouse, even it if is just to the kitchen table.
Don’t Assume You Know Everything About Them
One mistake that I see, is that people who have been married for a long time tend to think they have the other person all figured out. The truth is, no one stays the same. Over time, you will grow and change in the way you think.
You need to have conversations that allow you to dream and discover new things about your spouse. I think you can even learn new things about yourself when you are asked questions you have never had to think through.
Be a student of your spouse! They can be the most fascinating subject you’ve ever learned!
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.