I Gave Up On How I Thought Life Was Supposed to Be

I don’t know about you, but I had this idea of exactly what my life was supposed to be like. Some of these ideas came based off of the way I grew up. Other ideas came from what I believe God promised me.

Over the course of a few months, everything I thought my life was supposed to be like- changed. Slowly, but surely, Austin and I were both making choices that radically altered the trajectory of our lives.

I hit crisis.

Embrace Pain in Marriage

I hit a crisis point in this time, because my very identity was being challenged. Whether I had tried to or not, my identity was wrapped up in my husband, my kids, my roles at home- and when those core things changed, I didn’t know who I was any longer.

During that period of time, I was very mad at God. I called Him a liar. I felt He had promised me certain things in my life and He was taking them away from me. All this time, I had been obedient to His direction, and He was pulling it out from under me.

I went through a period of rebellion against God and trying to do things my own way. Basically I was throwing a temper tantrum with my heavenly Father, because He wasn’t giving me what I wanted.

My attitude was indignant at points and apathetic at others. One moment I was yelling out in anger at God and the other I took on an “I don’t care” attitude. During both of those times, I had no intentions of listening to what God was trying to tell me.

Eventually, God brought me to my knees and my heart changed.


I had to make a conscious decision to be content with my life just as it was. Even though there were things going on that didn’t line up with how I thought my life was supposed to be, I was going to figure out how to be content.

For the last two years, I’ve gone through a journey of being content. One thing that really helped me was reading The Happiness Dare. This is the one book I read this year. I went from just being content with actively seeking joy in the world around, even when things were crumbling.


Jennifer says that we all have our own happiness style. Usually, you have a primary and a secondary style of happiness. My style was the relator and doer. I draw my happiness from being with people and doing things that are productive.

I become very intentional about moving away from just contentment and pursuing happiness. Even though the world can be falling down around me, there are things I can do in a day that will bring me happiness. Don’t underestimate the importance of doing small things in a day that makes you smile.

Other things on my mind-

I have a big announcement. Austin and I have been working on our next book called, Conversation Starters For Married Couples. We are about to release the ebook version in the next few days. The next part of the plan is to make it available in print. I’ve already given a copy of the book to some friends and other bloggers. We’re getting great feedback! I can’t wait to show it to you.

Here’s a question from the book to get you started.


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