I was on talking on Facebook Live and Periscope today about why I get dressed every day and my new makeup routine. I had a reader ask me a question, “How do you find the time to get a shower and dressed with a 7 month old?”.
Oh believe me, I’ve been there. My oldest two are a year and a half apart. Getting showered and dressed in the morning was a true challenge. I can’t say I was able to shower 100% of the mornings, but I did more than I didn’t.
Why I Get Dressed Everyday
Many of my education years were spent being homeschooled. My mom never let us stay in our pajamas to do our work. She said that we needed to get up and get ready for the day.
That habit has carried over for me into my adult life. I’m so much more productive when I get up, shower, and get dressed. I venture to say that is true for everyone.
How I Was Able to Shower and Get Dressed With Young Kids
The simplest things become the most difficult things to accomplish once you have kids. Never in the world did I think that finding a way to take care of my most basic needs would be so challenging. Sleeping, eating, showering, pooping…seriously, those things became such an undertaking when the kids were small.
Here’s how I was able to shower and get dressed for the day when my kids were young:
1. Find a Safe Place For Them
Depending on the developmental stage that the kids were going through, I found safe places for them to be while I took a shower. Some of these places included:
Crib in their room
Playpen in the living room
Exersaucer in the bathroom or in the hall outside the bathroom
In the shower with me
Sitting on the closed potty seat
When I Had Two Young Kids
When I had two kids, I had to separate the two while I was in the shower. The one that was more mobile stayed in the bathroom with me, while the younger one was put in the crib or playpen.
As they got older, I could cut the television on and know they would sit there. We only let them watch a limited amount of television a day, so they wanted to watch it.
2. Let Them Cry
I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but I let my kids cry. Where they happy to be left in their crib or the exersaucer in the hall while I showered? No. However, ever since they were little, I’ve let them express their emotions.
So often, as parents, we shut down our kids negative emotions too quickly. It’s ok if they are mad or upset at me. They are even allowed to let me know it.
3. Fall Behind On Housework
If it had to come down between housework and me having a chance to take care of my basic needs, the housework suffered. I’m not talking about those lofty house cleaning goals like wiping down baseboards and crap. I’m talking about real house chores that make difference from having dishes to eat off of and laundry to wear and going without.
It is that important to me to get up and get ready for the day. If I don’t take the time to shower, put on real clothes, and do my hair, I’m not as productive. Not only that, I don’t feel as good about myself. Confidence is so important when you are a mom.
Here’s the products that I talk about in the video in case you want to check them out.
What have you done that has worked to get ready with kids underfoot?