Most men crave blowjobs because it is a very intimate way to receive intimacy from their spouse. But, a lot of women struggle to give a bj for a few reasons. For one thing, they are concerned about the sanitary aspect of putting their mouth on their husband’s penis. I’ve written a lot about getting over the gross factor of oral sex, and this one is my favorite. But in this post, I want to give you a few tips on giving your husband an amazing blow job.
Let Him Teach You
You can read 100 different articles about giving good head, but your best bet is to listen to your lover. Ask them to teach you what feels good to them. There is no way you will automatically know what they need or like without them sharing it with you. I wrote some tips around this time last year, and even then, the very first tip was about communicating with each other.
Don’t be afraid to ask your man to gently tell you what he likes and what he needs more of. If he enjoys a specific motion you are using, ask him to make a noise that lets you know you’re doing it right.
Hold Onto His Shaft
There is only so far you can go down on him. For that reason, hold his shaft firmly with your hand, based on how far you intend to go down. Also, you can use your hands to rub or hold his balls.
Grab Other Parts of His Body
While you are doing this for your lover, rub your other hand over parts of his body. You can pleasure his nipples, grab his butt, or stroke your hand over his chest. He will really enjoy this full-body experience.
Also, you can rest your body on one of his legs to apply pressure on him. Allow your chest to rest on him wherever you can.
Change the Angle to Enhance the Experience
After he really gets into it, pull him down towards you while you suck on him. Bend him down slowly and watch his reactions. You will need to be careful not to overextend him while you are going down on him, or it could hurt him later.
Changing this angle of his member will give him a different feeling. Once he starts cumming, you will need to pull him back up.
Look in His Eyes
I know it can be hard to look up while in this position, but do what you can to look up at him for at least a minute. If you can’t keep looking up the entire time, make a point to catch his stare a few times. This is a great way to build more intimacy through this activity.
He will enjoy watching you please him. This is a visually exciting thing to do with your man and make him feel loved and cared for.
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14 comments
Laura Beth
I agree with these girls. I can’t imagine having sex without giving a blow job and drinking sperm. I’m so sorry for those guys who can’t have that pleasure and for those misguided females who won’t give blow jobs. They don’t know what they are missing! I’ll never forget my first blow job. When my boyfriend at the time was about to cum he felt ashamed or scared and tried to pull out of my mouth. But I held his legs so he couldn’t because I wanted that cum in my mouth. I had to know what it tasted like and felt like to swallow. It was a strange and pungent taste but I gulped down every drop. Right afterward, I was so turned on by what I did – I sucked a cock and made a guy cum in my mouth and swallowed – that I blew him again! I bet he will never forget that either. Great tips by the way.
Keelie Reason
That’s great you enjoy oral sex. I’m happy to hear that!
Rachel
I completely agree with all of Nina`s comment (practice). I enjoy giving my husband oral sex but I wasn`t always that way . I had to work through some issues that seem silly to me now and I am glad that I did. I also want to say that sometimes it can be a treat to add condiments. Maybe for a birthday or holiday, adding chocolate, jelly or cool whip (any topping) can be fun and delicious.
Keelie Reason
Yeah I hear you. I had a hard time with blow jobs for a long time. Seems silly now to me as well. And I love the idea of treating yourself with some sweet things on occasion. That is super fun.
Nina
Practice , Practice , Practice… We were virgins when we married and it took us almost a year to start oral sex and enjoying it in our marriage bed. A lot of it was because of religious upbringing. Now I cant imagine having intercourse without oral sex. I love giving my husband a nice BJ before he is inside me. One tip, is if you get tired of sucking, you should take a break , licking on shaft and kissing is also fun.
Keelie Reason
That’s really great feedback! Thanks so much for sharing.
Teddybear70
Learn how to finish the act. How does He like to finish. What makes this a mind blowing experience.
Keelie Reason
great tips
J Cricket
These tips are good for those people that can accept them. However, this is fantasy for many of us. ONE ten second beginning of a BJ with no finish, in 20 years of marriage. Never again since. Also no affection, intimacy, or any sex of any kind at all, In 18 of those 20 years. Be grateful if your wife has any interest in any of this. You are blessed more than you know.
Keelie Reason
I hate that for you.
Dan Purcell
…and I’d add enthusiasm goes a long way!! We make love with our hearts, not just our bodies!
Keelie Reason
great addition. 😀
J
I would also add that the wife should be naked also, or at least naked on the top half so the husband has a nice view. (Unless it’s a quickie) in which case he can just drop his pants or unzip them.
Keelie Reason
those are great tips!