Entering into a marriage relationship is different than being in a dating relationship. While a lot of things stay the same, your responsibilities to one another increase drastically. I invited Dana Harding on to share with us some of her observations about how your relationship changes.
Here’s what she has to say-
Marriage is a time-consuming change of lifestyle. Some could even describe it as a full-time job, and they wouldn’t be wrong about it! It is about prioritizing your marriage over other appointments, about choosing your spouse over a night out with friends.
It’s not always easy, but it is worth all the money on earth if you can work through the hard times together, as this will make your couple a lot stronger. Being married also means being able to work as a couple together and as parents too if you choose to have children. So, yes, the saying is correct, it is a hard job to be married. But thankfully it’s not all about difficulties and compromises. There are a lot of subtle mindset changes that happen when you get married and that help you to find the happy times together.
The Ring Is A Symbol Of Your Union
You probably know that the ring is widely accepted as the symbol of your union. However, it’s more than buying the most beautiful of all wedding rings, as vanity has no role here. Wearing a ring is an ancient tradition that already existed at the time of the Pharaohs.
The exchange of rings was considered a symbol of eternity, as a ring has no beginning nor end. However, in some cultures, the hole at the center of the ring symbolizes a gateway to a place of known and unknown events which are awaiting the couple.
This symbol of never-ending and immortal love has been in human cultures for thousands of years. According to Roman tradition, the ring is also a proof of ownership, which may seem a little insulting at first, as this almost describes the person as an object. However, this idea of belonging together remains for all marriages.
Interestingly enough, the wedding ring is supposed to be worn on the left-hand ring finger because the Romans believed that there was the vein of love running through the finger. But even though you may not be aware of these historical elements, they are passively accepted across all cultures so they would be part of your perception of a “happy forever after” life.
You Care For Both Of You
Getting married suddenly creates a unit out of you and your spouse which replaces most selfish interests. Naturally, you continue to have your own thoughts and hobbies, but you also begin to work towards the best solution in every matter for you and your partner together.
Everything you do is now for the both of you. While this is a big change of mindset, it actually happens without you noticing. You naturally will be looking at common projects to enhance the well being of your couple, such as home renovation, holiday trips, etc.
You Build A Future Together
As a result of these mindset changes, you find yourself looking for the best route to a common future, whether it is starting a family, buying a house together, or maybe changing your career so that you can have better quality time together. This natural instinct of protecting your common future also leads to naturally learning to work better together and to continuously improve yourself and your relationship.