Do you ever have those times where you crave hot sex? Maybe you feel super sexy and want to express that. It could be that you deeply desire to prolong your lovemaking session to savor the moments with your spouse.
There are many different flavors of sex, like funny, comfortable, or slow sex. Then there’s hot sex. It’s the passionate lovemaking that makes you go after pleasing your lover with everything you’ve got. It’s the kind that drives you wild when you think back about it. The kind that makes you excited thinking about your sex life.
If you’re in the mood for hot sex, here’s a few things you can try.
1. Try Edging
Edging is when you bring your spouse to the verge of orgasm and then back off. After they have calmed down a little bit, then you start again. When you bring your spouse to the edge a few times, it can make the orgasm even better.
You will have to practice at this one, because edging too many times can kill it for you. Overstimulation can occur, making it impossible to orgasm. That is disappointing. The first few times, only delay it once or twice to see how you do.
2. Try For Multiple Orgasms
Men usually do better with edging than women. A better idea for a woman could be to have multiple orgasms. Each consecutive orgasm actually gets stronger and feels more intense than the one before. Here are my tips to help a woman achieve multiples. And these are the tips for a husband to help his wife have multiples.
I highly recommend that if you can, try for multiples every time you have sex. It makes your body feel good, makes your partner feel good about pleasing you, and helps make sure the sex is more fulfilling for both you and your partner.
3. Play a Sexy Adult Bedroom Game
One of the easiest ways to have hotter sex is to spend more time on foreplay. The longer you take to get to orgasm, the sexier you will feel. Playing adult bedroom games can help the desire build up.
Here are some of my favorite games:
- Sexy Truth or Dare – Get a free version of my sexy truth or dare by signing up for the newsletter here. Or, go to my shop and grab my sexier versions here.
- It’s Getting Hot in Here – This is the first game we ever created. It takes a little preparation, because you have to print out the game board and foreplay move cards ahead of time. You’ll need to cut up the cards.
- Behind Closed Doors – This is a physical board game you’ll need to order ahead of time.
- All Night Love Affair – This is also a physical board game you’ll need to get ahead of time. I trust this seller and these are approved games that do not recommend porn or threesomes like some boardgames recommend.
For the rest of our printable games, you can check out the shop here.
4. Use Prompts To Create a Sexual Adventure
If you are really creative, you can use word prompts to create a sexual adventure. Married Christian Sex has an online sex adventure generator that will give you the prompts needed. Or, you can check out their naughty story generator.
I think that a sexual adventure is something that will take a bit more planning, so make sure to explore this option ahead of time. If you’re someone that can think things up on the spot, then go for it. But, if you’ve never done role playing of any kind, then you may want to put some creative thinking into it earlier in the day.
5. Use Sexy/Dirty Talk While Making Love
Many people call this dirty talk, but basically, you will use a language you have agreed upon ahead of time to turn each other on. If you and your spouse do not typically use this kind of language, then you need to figure out which words are ok and which ones aren’t. You can use this Bedroom language worksheet that I created to decide which words you like.
Play around with sexy talk. It might feel weird at first, but the more aroused you become, the more natural it will be for you and your partner.
To help you get used to dirty talk, I created this sexy bedroom game called Lover May I. After you fill out the bedroom language worksheet with the words you both feel comfortable with, you use those words on the playing cards. Then, you each take turns drawing a card and asking your lover if you can do the sexual act to them. You’d be surprised at how new and exciting this can make your sex life feel.
One thing that is great about the Lover May I game is that it gives you the sexy phrase to say, so you feel confident. Then, you build up anticipation waiting for your partner to say, “Yes, you may”. This game is like the old “Mother May I” game you used to play as a kid, only with a sexy twist.
6. Moan and Make Noises
Moaning in your lover’s ear can be a huge turn-on for them and you. In fact, making noises and moaning can lead to a stronger orgasm for both you and your partner. Be intentional with making noises while you are having sex. Purposefully moaning and breathing heavily can get your mind where it needs to be.
This is really important for women to do. Moaning and making noises is often key in their ability to orgasm. This also helps your partner know they’re doing good. If you like using sex toys, enjoy foreplay and touching of your body, make sure to let your partner know by sound. Check out my orgasm guide for more tips for women to have their first orgasm or multiples.
Pro Tip – Record Yourself Making Noises to Play Later
If you are worried about being heard, you can always consider recording the noises ahead of time and playing them while you are making love. Or better yet, when you have sex, you can record the noise to play next time you are together. Then you can make sure that the sound is low enough that it won’t be heard, but it will give you the same effect.
I encourage you to not play soundtracks with other people making sexual noises. You should get turned on by your spouse and not others. This is very important for your sex life. That is why making your own soundtrack can be a good idea.
7. Get In Front of a Mirror And Have Sex
Find a way to incorporate mirrors into your room so you can see yourself from the bed while having sex. You can also use the mirrors in your bathroom while standing up to have sex or giving your spouse oral. Being able to see how your partner touches and caresses your body can work wonders on self-confidence. Your partner loves every part of your body, you should too!
If you don’t have a mirror hung in the house in a way you can use them, try using a handheld mirror or the camera on your phone to get other angles of your spouse giving your oral. Or you can set up your phone on a tripod to record your lovemaking session. Just be sure to put your phone on airplane mode so it doesn’t back up your videos or images.
Here are other tips for using mirrors during sex and foreplay.
8. Put on Lingerie or a Sexy Outfit
Put on something that makes you feel sexy. Lingerie and sexy is as much for you as it is for your partner. This goes for both the husband and wife. But the key is, don’t just get into it and then immediately rip it off. Seeing most, but not all of their body can be just as arousing as completely naked. Instead, spend time together in your sexy wear and enjoy foreplay, a sexy striptease, or a sexy lap dance.
Here are some ideas of what sexy outfits a husband can wear.
Here is my favorite porn-free lingerie shop for women.
9. Try More Than One Position During Your Lovemaking
Instead of staying in one position the entire time, try two or three different positions during your time together. Need inspiration? Check out Christian Friendly Sex Positions for porn-free sex positions. Also, they sell a deck of cards that makes it really easy for you to pull out a few random positions to try.
I highly recommend that whatever positions that you try, the wife is able to orgasm first. It will make other positions feel better. Also, if she doesn’t have a chance to orgasm during the new positions, she’s at least had one before trying new things.
10. Tease Each Other With Manual or Oral Stimulation
You can either use a vibrator, fingers, lips, tongue, or another body part to tease your spouse’s erogenous areas. Start out slow and gentle before working your way up. To really tease them, you can focus on the inner part of their leg before stimulating them on their erogenous area.
Want to try a hotter oral sex position? Check out these ideas on Christian Friendly Sex Positions.
These are some of the ways that you can have hot sex when you are craving it. Take time to slow down and savor your lover.