Have you searched the internet for ways to spice up the bedroom and been left with either unhelpful advice or immoral advice? Yeah, me too. That’s why I talk so much about sex on Love Hope Adventure. I think that sex can be fun and exciting. But, it’s also really hard to find trusted resources that help you feel really excited but also are God-honoring.
In this article, I want to give you a lot of tips and resources that will help you experiment and enjoy sex more.
Which One Describes Your Sex Life?
I think we all have different expectations when we are looking for ways to get steamy in our sex life. Which one of these describes your sex life?
- Your sex life is rocking! All you need is the right prompts, and you’ll be running full steam ahead and trying out things. You’re here because you want the spiciest thing you can find to take it up a notch.
- Your sex life could be sexier. You’re having sex regularly, but it seems routine. Maybe you and your spouse are bored and looking for something new to shake things up.
- Your sex life is on life support. A lot of couples really struggle with sex in their marriage; some are even in sexless marriages. You are looking for anything that may interest your husband or wife in sex.
I wanted to give these different categories so you can scroll down to the section that is right for where you are in your marriage.
Your Sex Life is Rocking
If you’re in a great place in your sex life and you want to take it up a notch, here is a round-up of resources that will really get you excited.
Bedroom Games
Here is a list of spicy bedroom games that are meant for couples that are enjoying a really adventurous sex life.
- Sexy Advent Calendar – Black Label Edition
Sex Positions
Looking for new sex positions? The trusted site we go to is Christian Friendly Sex Positions. It’s nudity free and has hundreds of positions. That’s why I put together a few round-up posts because I think it can be a little much to wade through
Oral Sex Tips
I’ve received a tremendous number of questions about oral sex and how to give great head to a husband or oral sex to a wife. Check out these tip posts:
Sex Toys
If you are new to sex toys or you’re not sure what’s out there, here are a few recommendations I have:
Those are some of the things you can do to work toward building intimacy.
If your biggest reason for wanting to spice things up is because you are not orgasmic during your intimate times, then there are things you need to do. I have written two articles HERE and HERE that might help you out.
Your Sex Life Could Be Sexier
There are so many great ways to take a routine or boring sex life to the next level. Here are some resources you can check out!
Foreplay
Spending more time on foreplay is a great way to feel sexier during sex and to enjoy it more.
Mirrors And/Or Cameras
Incorporating mirrors or cameras (or both) into your bedroom will give you visual stimulation that can help you feel more aroused. Also, it helps you have visual memories to rely on later on when you want to fantasize about your spouse.
Lingerie
If you want sex to be sexier, then work on feeling sexier. You can do this by wearing lingerie or sexy outfits.
Your Sex Life Is On Life Support
If you’re in a place in marriage where sex is barely happening, I recommend that you spend time working on intimacy in your marriage before going any further. For many people, I know that sex is what helps them feel connected and intimate but if that’s not happening, focus on emotional intimacy.
- Plan regular dates (even if it is at home)
- Understand why there is a lack of intimacy in your marriage
Other Tips To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Looking for tips on how to get in the mood? Here is a list of resources you can check out from me and other marriage bloggers I follow.
Jay Dee From Uncovering Intimacy: How to Spice Up Your Sex Life
J From Hot Holy and Humorous: Why Try More Than One Sexual Position
Lisa and Stu Grey From Stupendous Marriage: More Variety in the Bedroom and a Tip You Can Use Tonight
Julie From Intimacy in Marriage: Boring Sex? Here are 3 Tips
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19 comments
David D
I am 62 now and altho I still have strong drive the saying … doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result … is the definition of insanity. I am tired and can’t see the reason to go thru all that again. As they say the juice is just not worth the squeeze! I ‘ll just work … I need another Porsche!! ha ha
David D
Thanks for the links! Ya, I didn’t find out that sex was OK til I was 56 and divorced by my Christian wife who was from a different church. I had read the scriptures but thru the lens of my upbringing. I will check out Jay Dee’s checklist but just so you know, from my perspective, he has some strange ideas.
“Ultimately, I think it would be really beneficial for you to get comfortable talking about sex, and a really easy way to do that is when you’re not in a sexual relationship already. Honestly, I think conversations about sex before you enter into that kind of relationship takes some pressure off.” I agree but who do I speak with!?
Keelie Reason
Hahaha…yeah Jay Dee has some different ideas that are not for everyone. When I say talk about sex ahead of the marriage, I mean to have open conversations with your potential wife before you get married. But if you are looking for a community of men that talk about sex, I know Jay Dee has a community on Facebook. You’d have to fill out his contact form and ask how to join it because I’m not 100% sure.
David D
gotcha, thanks
David D
Question for Keelie. My Christian wife of 21 years has always demanded that I perform oral on her but she never returned the favour … maybe she thought that because she was attractive she didn’t have too. I became bored with her and now she is an ex. I am curious as to what you think as to why why she never reciprocated … it obviously wasn’t a moral issue. Tx
p.s. if I get re-married is there any way to determine before we tie the knot that is an issue?
Keelie Reason
Hi David! Man, that’s tough. I’m not sure why she wanted it but was never willing to give it. Although, I know there are a lot of people that feel that way. My guess would be that she had a mental struggle or hangup with giving oral sex. And if she was never honest with you over the real reasons, I don’t know if you will ever truly know. But before you get remarried, I think it is important to discuss your expectations around sex. My husband and I were virgins when we got married, but we went through a book called, Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start and it prompted us to ask a lot of questions about sex. It really did help us in advance of getting married because we knew what the other person expected. I mean…not 100% but we had a good idea.
David D
Tx Keelie.”she had a mental struggle or hangup with giving oral sex.” … but she liked receiving!! The issue with me discussing with a potential new wife is that it is kinda creepy and I was brought up that sex was evil and disgusting and only to be used for procreation and at my age women are long past their child bearing years!!
Keelie Reason
Yeah…I know that some people were raised in a way that taught them sex was bad. But, I don’t believe that’s what the Bible says at all. There are a few ways for you to start those conversations that might make it less uncomfortable for you. Here’s the book I was talking about https://amzn.to/3DcWoE9 which has pages where you fill out your thoughts on sex. Also, my friend Jay Dee put out a sexploration list that you can print out and you both fill out a copy of what you do and don’t like on the list https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/our-sexploration-list/. Ultimately, I think it would be really beneficial for you to get comfortable talking about sex, and a really easy way to do that is when you’re not in a sexual relationship already. Honestly, I think conversations about sex before you enter into that kind of relationship takes some pressure off.
Anonymous
I think a lot of women feel that way about 69. I liked just exploring her anatomy (her vulva and lips) with my hands while getting a handjob at the same time. A great sensation!
Keelie Reason
great idea!
Anonymous
Keelie
Great job with your articles, especially the Tips for 69 position. Love the 69 position but wife doesn’t want to do anymore because of back issues 😔
Jill
69 is so uncomfortable. I really don’t get anything out of it. My husband prefers taking turns too thankfully.
Keelie Reason
That’s great you both are in alignment on this!
Keelie Reason
that’s tough. I’m sorry to hear that.
Stallion Lifestyle
Your work is too good. i read this article thoroughly it is very informative. and describe about the best position for the sex. and provide the satisfaction about the bedroom. If the sex position is not comprehensive then it will not provide you satisfaction.
Keelie Reason
you’re welcomed
Dan
Keep up the good work, Keelie. Women need to know they too can take an active role in ramping things up in the bedroom.
nyasha
Its wonderful knowing all these tricks but the crux of the matter is if everyone is at par.