We all go through our fair share of struggles in marriage. Today, I invited Laura on to share her thoughts on how to help your relationship when things are not going well.
Here’s what she said-
There will come a time in your marriage when problems start to happen. That could be way down the line after years and years, or it might be on the night of the honeymoon. Whenever it happens, it is important that both of you make the effort to try and improve things, rather than simply giving up or getting frustrated with each other. No relationship is perfect, and that is certainly true of any marriage out there. But what can you do to ensure that you are improving your struggling marriage?
Let’s take a look at some of the most effective strategies there are.
1. Go to Counselling
One of the most effective ways to improve things in a marriage is to seek out and undergo some decent couples counseling. There are online programs like the ones offered by Melody Evans. Or you can check with your church to see what they offer.
If nothing else, this is something that you should think about trying before you give up, and you might just find that it is all you need to do. As long as you both approach it with care and attention, it should be a massive help.
2. Figure Out How to Communicate Better
More often than not, when something goes wrong in a marriage it has something to do with poor communication. When you don’t understand each other, it is impossible to know exactly what the other person is thinking.
That then means that each individual starts to make assumptions about the other, and before you know it you are in a situation where neither of you fully trusts the other. The simple remedy is to talk, as hard as that can be. The more you talk, the sooner you will be able to work out what you are doing wrong, and the easier you will find it to come together in harmony again.
3. Focus On Your Own Problems
At the same time as doing all that, it can also be helpful if you are both working to focus on yourselves as individuals a little more. Many relationship problems arise because the people within it fail to respect themselves as they should.
This easily leads to a number of problems, and before you know it you are resentful of each other. That resentment is dangerous for any marriage, so you need to avoid that happening in the first place – and the way to do that is to focus on yourself a little more. Ultimately, each individual is responsible for their own happiness, even within the context of your marriage, and that is something that you might want to try and remember. Focus on yourself, and your marriage will likely improve
If you can do these three things, your marriage is probably going to be in a better position at the end of it.