My parents are huge advocates of getting away as a couple on a yearly basis. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant to be effective. You just need time away from life to reconnect and bond with each other.
Mom and Dad are very forward-thinking people. My mom told me over and over that you have to focus on your relationship with your spouse. One day, all of your kids will grow up and move away. It is very important that you make sure you and your spouse have something left once the kids are gone.
Austin and I have prepared romantic getaways over the years. Yes, it’s hard to do when you have little kids or even teenagers for that matter, but it’s important that you do this every couple of years at the minimum.
Preparing For A Romantic Getaway Takes Planning
I know that life is very busy, and taking the time off to go away for a weekend can be challenging enough. Don’t ignore making some plans for your trip. You don’t want to show up with different ideas from your spouse of how the weekend will go.
Unless you are surprising your spouse with the getaway, take some time to plan out things together and set the expectations. But, if you’re handling it from start to finish, they likely won’t come into it with expectations, because it will be a surprise.
Here are some things you should consider when planning your trip:
- Choose a place to stay that has a nice bed and room decor.
- Plan one recreational thing to do so you have time to bond with each other.
- Allow plenty of time in the schedule for sexual intimacy.
- Give yourself a chance to sleep in and feel rested to enjoy your time together.
- Keep it relaxed and fun. If you start stressing out, then regroup or cut things out of the schedule.
A successful romantic getaway combines enough planning to give you direction, but enough free time for spontaneity.
It is important that you take time to rest, be intimate, and do fun things together. Make sure that the plans for your weekend encompass all of these things.
Go Over The Basic Idea Of The Weekend
The worst thing you can do is go into the weekend with poor expectations. It will only lead to disappointment and possibly a fight. Talk about what you both hope to do during the trip.
Plan For Sex
It may help for you to decide ahead of time how many times you want to have sex. This is particularly important for the spouse that has a responsive desire. It will help them mentally prepare for what’s coming and have more fun.
I know it may seem like it will suck the fun out of the weekend to plan the times you have sex, but it would be better than potentially getting turned down. That is sure to kill the trip right away.
Plan For Rest
You should also decide how much you want to rest. If sleeping in is something you want to do, then let that be known to your spouse. They may have a different idea of what rest means on a trip.
This is an issue that Austin and I dealt with for many years. To me, rest was getting out of the house and doing things outside of the usual life. For him, rest meant to stay in bed or sit around and be still. If you don’t get clear on what rest means to both of you, then it can cause issues on your trip.
Plan For a Time of Connection
However you feel most connected to your spouse, plan on that. Here are a few ways some couples feel connected to their spouse:
- Spend time snuggling.
- Give each other a sensual massage. (Here’s a video course that will show you how to do that.)
- Have deep and meaningful conversations. (Check out our conversation starters here.)
- Enjoy a romantic dinner in the room or at a restaurant.
- Slow dance with each other.
- Spend time in lingerie together without having sex. (Here are ideas of romantic things you can do in lingerie.)
What to Pack For a Romantic Getaway
Here is the fun part of preparing for the getaway…the packing. You can put a ton of sexy things in your bag to enjoy over the weekend and it’s going to help you feel really excited.
When it comes to a romantic weekend, my packing list is very different than when we are just going out of town. I have to make sure I have sexy stuff with me.
I have a basket that I load up with the romantic items to keep them separate from the rest of my stuff.
Here are some sexy things you should consider packing:
- Lingerie or hot outfit
- Sex aids (lube, sex toys, contraceptives, etc.)
- Bedroom game or foreplay cards
- Sex position deck of cards
- Candles (battery operated if you don’t want to mess with a lighter)
- Strand of lights (to cast a romantic glow)
- Sparkling cider (or alcoholic beverage if you drink)
- Plastic stemware (or glass if that is what you have)
- Fake flowers (to decorate the room with)
- Candy or snacks to feed one another
- Conversation starters
- An open mind
I find that it is nice to bring a few things to decorate the room with. That is why I put candles, lights, and fake flowers on the list. This weekend, I’m taking a sheer piece of material that I can drape somewhere in the room.
Not everyone will want to go ready to decorate their hotel room, but that is my style. However, it only takes a couple of minutes to plug in a strand of lights, set out a few fake flowers, and light up some candles.
We always enjoy drinking sparkling cider when we celebrate. Whatever you and your spouse drink to, pack it.
Being out together for a romantic getaway gives you every reason to celebrate.
These are just some of the things that I do to prepare for a romantic getaway.