What does your husband want most from you in the bedroom? I won’t stereotype here and say every guy falls into this category, but I think many do. What he wants most from you is enthusiasm. He wants to know that you actually want to be there.
Think about it like this-
What if you wanted to go on a date with your husband. You go to him and ask him to go out with you. Maybe you have to convince him that it will be fun and he truly will enjoy it once you guys get there. Then, the entire time he’s with you, you can tell that he doesn’t really want to be there. It’s obvious that he is just going along to try and not seem like a total dick. He’s there, but he is not engaged….
Is that how you are running your intimacy with your husband? If he is having convince you into it and you aren’t being enthusiastic when you show up, it is going to put a major damper on the time.
I’ve talked with many husbands that feel their wives are only having sex with them out of obligation. I’m sorry- but that should not be your pattern for intimacy. It’s one thing to be feeling kind of sick one day, but wanting to please your husband regardless. It’s another thing to have duty sex on a regular basis to try and shut him up.
Here’s what I want you to know- sex is for the couple. God gave sexual intimacy to us as a gift. When you go into your intimate relationship with a, “I better get this out of the way” attitude, then you are missing out on the beauty of the gift. God didn’t just give this to men, He gave it to women as well. He set it up for sex to be enjoyed with reckless abandon within marriage.
I encourage you to really check yourself. Are you showing up and being enthusiastic? Or are you just doing whatever you have to in order to check it off of your to-do list.
When you come into a sexual situation with more enthusiasm, you are going to enjoy your time a whole lot more. It might even surprise you of how much you learn to love sex and desire it more.