I Don’t Want to be “Her” or do I?

I don’t want to be her, but maybe I do…I’m so conflicted about this. I’m not sure if you are familiar with Proverbs 31 ministries or not, but somehow I ended up on their newsletter list. I don’t stay on many newsletter lists, but I love Lysa Terkeurst. I went through a Bible study course from her in my MOPS group.

I don’t want to be her, but maybe I do...I’m so conflicted about this. I’m not sure if you are familiar with Proverbs 31 ministries or not, but somehow I ended up on their newsletter list. I don't stay on many newsletter lists, but I love Lysa Terkeurst. I went through a Bible study course from her in my MOPS group.

Why “Her” Bible Study

There was an advertisement for a Bible study she is offering called, “Why Her” from Nicki Koziarz. The entire idea of this course is to address your feelings of jealousy towards “her”; whoever her (or him) is in your life. The study focuses on the lives of Leah and Rachel. I haven’t gone through the study, but I can only imagine they draw the parallel that we are jealous of her”, like Rachel was of Leah.

My immediate thought to this study was, “I don’t want to be the “her” in that sentence”. I don’t want to be the one that makes other people jealous or to feel insecure. This has been my biggest hangup of knowing what to share on Facebook.

I’ve Been Jealous of “Her” Before

You see, I’ve been the one in financial desperation and saw all of my friends going on vacation after vacation. I’ve been the one that has struggled to put food on the table and saw pictures of elaborate restaurants from people that I love. I’ve been jealous of others. I’ve been jealous of all the “hers” and “hims” out there that seemed to have more than me.

I Don’t Want to Be Someone Else’s “Her”

Because I’ve been through that, I never know what to share on Facebook. I don’t want to be the “her” that makes other people jealous. I don’t want to drive insecurities into the hearts of other women or men, because I’ve got that special sauce.

But, I know I am that other people look at me in the jealous kind of way. And it makes me want to stop being an influencer because I don’t want to make other people feel bad about their circumstances.

But Maybe I do Want to be “Her”

And then I think…but maybe I do want to be the “her” in some regard. Not in a way that causes other people to be jealous of me. Rather, to be an inspiring individual that helps to bring hope into other people’s lives.

It’s amazing that we have the platforms that we have in which to inspire other people. I’ve fallen in love with my ability to encourage people to serve the Lord, love their spouse, and reach their goals through posting on social media.

I Go Live On My Personal Page Sometimes

I once went live and talked to my friends on my personal page about a project I was doing for the homeless in my area. I was so moved by a Facebook live from a homeless shelter in my hometown that I felt I needed to share those ideas with my friends.

I know I’m not the only one whose heart cries when they see a homeless person on the side of the road. Instead of passing by these people and giving them nothing, I put together care packages that I’ve kept in the car. I got those ideas because that organization went live.

Facebook Live is Becoming Popular

Honestly, I’m seeing more and more people going live on their personal pages. They don’t always know what to do with the video though. I think this can be a powerful tool for us to be encouragers to the world around us. Whether you have a business or not, you have a message and this outlet will help you reach others with it.

We all watch videos on Facebook. And I think we can all agree there’s plenty of horrible things being shared. I’m all about positivity and inspiration. I’ve committed to using my account to bring joy and encouragement to others. One of the ways I do that is by going live on my Love Hope Adventure page or personal page.

Scared to go live?

I was too at first. But I learned all about it from my friend Crystal Paine. She is the reason that I decided to do Periscope and then Facebook live when it came out. She told me exactly what to say and how to get prepared. It made it so much easier for me to get on and do live video with confidence.

Crystal is opening a 2-hour class on how to do Facebook live well on Thursday that costs just $15. She’s not going to try and sell you anything during the class either. She’s going to get down to business and tell you everything you need to know in order to do it well.

If you are interested in learning how to be confident on Facebook live, go here to pay for the class. You won’t be disappointed. She has taught me everything I know about doing live videos.

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