I’m a huge proponent of being nice to your spouse. It seems like such a simple thing, but in reality, it is everything. We can easily stop showing our spouse those little courtesies that we naturally do for others. I think it is a familiarity type of thing.
I invited Jessica Burnell on today to share with us a few of her ideas of small acts of kindness you can do for your spouse. She had outlined some great things-
It’s time to break your bad habits and start showing one another how much you really care. Here are a few different ways that wearing your heart on your sleeve can prove beneficial for your marriage.
Tell Your Partner You Love Them
Sometimes we become so used to feeling a certain way about someone that we forget to tell them exactly how we feel in words. Remember to tell your partner that you love them frequently, but don’t force it. Whenever you feel particularly tender towards them, let them know with those three little words. It helps them to feel appreciated and know that you are still just as enamored with them as you were at the start of your relationship.
Make Sentimental Gifts
You don’t have to wait for birthdays or other celebrations to roll around to make a gift to your spouse. You can make sentimental gifts at any time to show your appreciation and affection. This shows that you’re thinking of them even when you’re not expected to.
A present handed over on a specific calendar date or following a particular achievement is often expected. But a present out of the blue makes much more impact. Remember that the best kinds of sentimental gifts are often handmade.
Here’s one idea to get the ball rolling:
Make a scrapbook containing titbits and memories from your relationship’s beginnings to the present day. Stock up on scrapbook supplies. You’ll need a scrapbook itself as well as picture corners, glue, and tape. This is your creation so it can turn out exactly how you want it to.
Whether you want an assorted collage of pictures or fancy taking a more neat and chronological approach, the final piece will come to fruition relatively easily.
You can also add things like saved tickets from movie dates, tickets to events, or notes and letters you’ve exchanged for an extra special and personalized touch. Remember to write a message in the front for them to read every time they look through it.
Arrange Date Nights
When you are married, it’s easy to slip into the same old routine. But dating is just as important now as it was when you first met. However, rather than getting to know one another, the focus will now probably be on keeping up with how each other are feeling amidst the rush of everyday living.
It is important that you and your spouse have quality time together doing things that you enjoy. Otherwise, things can quickly become dull. You may end up arguing purely to provide yourselves with something to do.
Here’s a few things you can do-
Go to the movies
Check out a new restaurant
Take a walk in the neighborhood
Find a picnic spot
You will both be so much happier when you get to do enjoyable things in one another’s company, rather than focusing on chores, appointments and other responsibilities. Distraction-free time as a couple is extremely important!
Always Say Goodnight and Good Morning
If you and your partner are away from one another for a period time, you should always make the effort to say goodnight and good morning to one another. Why? Well, it shows that this person is the first thing on your mind when you wake up. Also, that they are the last thing on their mind before they go to sleep.
It opens up the conversation for the day and then closes it off for the night without your partner worrying and wondering why you stopped replying without warning. It’s a simple sentiment but will make a huge difference.
Do Your Fair Share
By the time people are married, they have often fallen into a routine when it comes to the distribution of chores. More often than not, one partner ends up doing more than the other. This might be completely fine and not cause any tension or problems. However, you should try as hard as possible to do your fair share of the chores.
If your partner cooks, offer to clean up and vice versa. This can also apply to other responsibilities. Take socializing as an example. If you are visiting your friends or family more than you are spending with their friends and family, propose a visit or meet up.
Don’t be selfish with your time. Especially if your partner is going to be involved in your plans. You should make an equal effort in all aspects of your lives. This can be from cleaning to socializing and various other areas that you may not have even previously considered.
Even if your marriage has no noticeable problems, it’s always productive and positive to make more of an effort with your loved one. So make sure that they are always aware of how much you care for them. Do this through both actions and words. After all, there’s always room for improvement.
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.