The Journal That’s Making The Biggest Difference in My Marriage

The ultimate marriage journal

A few months ago, I saw that Tammy from Married and Naked was working on a project. Before she even released it, I contacted her to find out what she was working on and how I could help her promote it. I really love the heartbeat of Tammy’s blog and I wanted to help her any way I could.

Tammy was working on a gratitude journal for married couples. At first, I was a bit disappointed that it wasn’t going to be a book I could just read and mark off my to-do list. Little did I know how much it would affect me, though.

I didn’t quite know what to expect when the book arrived in the mail. When it got here, Austin briefly remembered that I shared with him that we had a marriage journal coming.

There were a lot of books on my reading list at the time, and I didn’t have much of an opportunity to check out Tammy’s journal right away. Before I really had a chance to delve into it, Austin had written me a note on the first line of the page and set it on my side of the bed.

Passing Notes is So Much Fun Even When You Are Married

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Remember passing notes back and forth as teenagers? This gratitude journal has been like that for us. Every few days, one of us will write the other one something we are thankful for that they have done. Once we make our entry, we set it on the other’s night stand.

It has been really encouraging to see that journal end up on my side of the bed. For one thing, I really enjoy reading what Austin has to say to me. Also, it serves as an accountability to write something to him that I am thankful he did in the day.

We Are Saying Thank You For The Small Things

Since we are writing each other thank you notes every couple of days, we have had the chance to say thank you for seemingly insignificant things to one another. It has been really incredible to me the comments Austin has made of something I did in the day.

If it wasn’t for this journal, we wouldn’t have thought to share these things with one another. It has helped me to know what little things I do that Austin notices.

How This Marriage Journal Can Help a Couple

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Whether you are in a good place with your spouse or a bad place, I think that this journal can really help your relationship out. It causes you to stop and pay attention to the positive things about your spouse. No matter where you are in your marriage, it can really be beneficial.

There was a time that Austin and I were really struggling as a couple. I wish we had this journal at that time, because I think it would have caused both of us to gain some perspective of the other.

It feels really great to be recognized for the things you do. All too often, we go about our days doing the things we know we have to do, and no one says anything. Having your spouse see what you are doing each day is really empowering.

Practicing Gratitude in Marriage Has Had Other Positive Effects

I’ve been amazed at how much looking for things to be thankful for has caused my outlook on life in general to be better. When you are thankful for what you have, it is hard to want what others have.

There was a time in my life that I was not very happy with where we were and what was going on in our lives- actually, I think I spent a lot of my marriage in that place. Over the last year and a half, I’ve worked hard to be more content with where I am and what we are doing. Writing in this journal has really helped me to be happier with what I have.

This journal has affected me in a surprising way and I am so happy that I have it waiting by the bed at night to remind me to be thankful for my spouse.

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