Have you recently gotten married? It is a scary, exciting step to become husband and wife. I invited Patty Streep on to share with us some things to think about now that you are married.
Here’s what she has to say-
Getting married is an exciting milestone in any young adult’s life, and if you’ve recently had your big day- congratulations! You might be wondering what comes next, and what your next steps are as man and wife. Here are a few things to consider to prepare you for the next stage of your relationship.
Money can be a tricky one in relationships. If one of you is a spender and the other is a saver, or one earns much more than another it can leave you wondering whether to pool resources or keep things separate. The same applies if one of you has a lot of debt– will this now become your joint issue?
Having a good chat about your financial situation and working out what’s best for you as a couple is key. Will one person be responsible for paying the bills, or will you put your money into a joint account for household expenses?
Will one of you be setting a budget, or is this something you’ll both be deciding on. How much money will you both be allowed to pursue your own personal hobbies, interests and social life? There are tons of advice online on how to save money in a relationship so it could be worth having a look to see if there are things you could try. Otherwise, just ensuring you’re both on the same page when it comes to money is absolutely vital.
As a married couple, having children is probably going to be on the horizon. If that’s the case, you might need to address your living situation. Do you currently live somewhere that’s safe and practical to raise a baby? If you’re in a property with one person’s name on the mortgage or rental agreement, will you add the other person?
If you both have family that live in separate places, whose will you be moving closest to? These are all things to consider and work out as a married couple.
For life to run smoothly as a married couple, it might be worth setting a rota or some ground rules, or just having a discussion about who’s expected to do what.
Will you split the housework 50/50, or will one person be responsible for more? Will you have set jobs each of you does? Who will be doing the cooking- will this fall to one person or will you both prepare meals?
Bear in mind each person’s working hours and schedule and do what makes sense for you as a couple. Knowing what each of you expects from the other and talking it out if it doesn’t work for you helps to stop assumptions and then resentment building.
What important discussions did have with your partner when you were first married? What other things do you think newly married couples need to discuss?