Have you tried using a vibrator to orgasm, but really struggled? Here’s the key to using one to reach climax.
The Problem With Orgasming With a Vibrator
One of the biggest problems you can experience is setting your vibrator up too high to start out. It can easily go from feeling good to being really annoying and uncomfortable within a few minutes. The vibration can feel amazing but you can struggle to get over the hill and experience climax.
Check out the video review I did of a sex toy. YouTube marked it as restricted, but there isn’t anything graphic in this review.

How to Orgasm With a Sex Toy
There are a few keys to orgasming with a vibrator:
1. Pick The Right Toy
I know some people think that if you use a vibrator it’s an instant orgasm device. It’s not the case though. Honestly, the more expensive the vibrator, the better in general. It’s because more expensive products are designed with better vibration patterns. WeVibe products are usually good quality.
2. Choose The Right Speed
Start with a low vibration. If you get there too fast, then it is going to irritate and start to hurt. At the same time, if you stay too slow for too long, it can kill the feelings. It really is a fine balance. You have to learn to communicate to your spouse what speed and movements you need them to use. Don’t be afraid to guide their hand.
3. Get Into Different Positions
The position you start out in may not be where you need to stay. Once things start feeling good, move around to see what you like. For example, you might start out on your back and then move to being on your hands and knees when things start feeling good.
4. Incorporate Other Stimulation
While you or your spouse is using the toy on you, do other sexually stimulating things. You can try kissing, rubbing, light slapping, or sexy talk. Also, consider doing things that are visually stimulating. Get in front of a mirror or use the camera on your phone to get a closer look at what’s happening.
If you’re not able to orgasm with a toy, that’s not unusual. Don’t get discouraged. Keep trying different toys and methods to see what works for you.
3 comments
Alex
We recently got our first vibrator and my wife was very skeptical. It’s a wand-style vibrator. She knew I’d ordered it and was totally playing it off but that night, only hours after it had arrived and was all charged up, she was very horny and we started to get it on. This was on a Tuesday night–we don’t often get frisky on Tuesdays! I pulled out the vibrator and used it on her clit and kind of moved it all around, including partially inside her, while alternating with my tongue. She had a very intense orgasm and after cumming begged me to f*ck her, which I did. She was incredibly wet. Since then, the vibrator has been a regular part of our sex life. We love to use it and she’s started using it during masturbation. It’s a lot of fun!
Keelie Reason
I’m glad it’s working!