I heard this incredible song on the radio today and it got me thinking about how this applies to marriage. The song by Hawk Nelson says-
What if you lived like you knew you were loved?
Why not act as though you were free?
Stand up like you know God loves you.
Live like you know you are valuable. It’s so important to know your worth.
I’ve talked with so many couples that aren’t living this way. They are plagued with shame, insecurities, and guilt. Rather than living as though they are free, loved, and valuable, they are acting the complete opposite of that.
We all bring baggage into our marriages. It is our job to work through those issues. Many times, it is our own doubt, self-limiting thoughts, negativity, and overall attitude that cause the problems in our marriage. I’m not saying that it is 100% of the time, but the way you view yourself has everything to do with how you feel others view you.
So- what if? What if you did live like you were loved? Like you were set free from sin, guilt, and shame? What if you stood like you know your Father loves you? What if you lived in such a way that you felt valuable? How would that change your relationship?
Maybe it would look like you believing your spouse when they tell you they love you. Or when they say they find you attractive.
Or maybe it would mean you would stop confusing the negative voices in your head with what your spouse thinks about you.
It could mean that you finally open yourself up fully to your lover and let them know how you are feeling.
There are many ways that your marriage can improve if you live like you are valuable, loved, and free.
Other things on my mind this week-
I have a HUGE announcement! Austin and I finally got our second ebook released this week. You can check it out. It’s called Creative Conversation Starters For Couples. Just so you know, we are working on releasing a print version of this book as well, but the ebook is up and ready to go.
Working Through Your Past Sexual Abuses in Marriage
2 comments
LatterDay Marriage
I think what holds a lot of people back from doing that is it requires making yourself very vulnerable. What if you open yourself up only to be rejected? A lot of people would rather stay closed than take the risk which is sad.
Keelie Reason
I totally agree with you! It is sad though.