Austin and I were in a long-distance engagement. Probably the most difficult time in our entire relationship. I don’t think I’d recommend it. However, I’ve known many couples that have done really well with this type of arrangement during their dating and engagement times.
I invited Jennifer Dawson on to share some of her thoughts on why a long distance relationship could actually be a blessing. Here is what she has to say-
There is probably no one who gets into a relationship thinking that they would rather spend more time away from their partner than they do with them. Yet, this is a reality that most couples (both new and old) find themselves in. The myth that a long distance relationship cannot work has long been debunked. The more pertinent question, therefore, is – beyond just making it functional, can it actually be turned into a positive? The answer is an unequivocal “yes”! Here is how.
You Learn to See Your Partner in a Different Light
You can never underestimate the power of positive thinking. Granted, this might be one of the most clichéd statements, but it is also very true. Changing your perspective is not about being in denial of the challenges that you face, but instead finding whatever positives that those challenges will almost certainly carry.
In this case, for example, you could see your long distance relationship as an opportunity to know your partner better by seeing how they respond to various situations. Another positive view you could choose to take is to see a chance for both of you to focus on individual areas of growth.
Exploring and Traveling Becomes a Foundation of Relationship
Go out of your way to spend time with your partner. This gives you the chance to bask in each other’s company after some time away, and experience the kind of euphoria you would not have had if you were together all the time. Long distance travel can be taxing, expensive and time-consuming. As such, the willingness to commit to driving long distance or take hours on a train or plane demonstrates to your partner your commitment to them and to your relationship.
Gifts and Gestures Are More Creative
When it comes to gifts and gestures, it is the thought that counts the most. For people who spend quite a bit of time apart though, a grander gesture is more likely to resonate. Surprise your partner with a vacation halfway across the world or buy them an expensive gift. This will help to create indelible memories that will stick with both of you for the rest of your lives.
By simply changing your perspective, the way you relate to your faraway partner and the way you feel about being away from them can completely transform. Begin in the mind, go out of your way to be together and aim for the stars. That way, you will create the world you envision for you and the one you love.