If you keep this one thing in mind in your marriage, you will have a happier and healthier relationship.
You know what, the first thing on my list is the most important thing in marriage and it’s this-
Be Nice! Just be nice!
Why is it so hard to be nice to our spouse? It seems like such a simple thing, but we pretty much suck at it.
Be Nice To Each Other
The Bible tells us to be kind, one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ has forgiven you. Ephesians 4:32
If you can be kind to your spouse, it will make things so much better in your relationship. This goes for any relationship, for that matter.
The concept of being nice is an easy one, particularly if the other person is being nice. In practice, it is very difficult. It can be hard to be nice, even if the other person is doing nothing wrong.
Don’t Lash Out in Anger
How many times have you lashed out at your spouse or taken out your frustrations on them? I know that we are guilty of doing that as a married couple all the time. We get angry with our circumstances or something happens in our day to make us generally mean.
Practicing kindness takes a lot of patience as well as forgiveness. If you can get this one thing down in your marriage, a lot of the problems you have will be solved.
The moment you start yelling at one another or accusing each other, the battle is over…you have both lost.
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Just Try It
Humor me on this one. Just try being nice to your spouse for the next week and see if it makes a difference. Maybe you feel skeptical about whether or not this will improve your relationship. I can just about guarantee that it will.
When you are nice to each other, it helps the other person put their defenses down. If you are constantly ready to fight, then it is going to end badly.
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