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What Happens To Your Relationship When You Get Married

Entering into a marriage relationship is different than being in a dating relationship. While a lot of things stay the same, your responsibilities to one another increase drastically. I invited Dana Harding on to share with us some of her observations about how your relationship changes.

Here’s what she has to say-

Marriage is a time-consuming change of lifestyle. Some could even describe it as a full-time job, and they wouldn’t be wrong about it! It is about prioritizing your marriage over other appointments, about choosing your spouse over a night out with friends.

It’s not always easy, but it is worth all the money on earth if you can work through the hard times together, as this will make your couple a lot stronger. Being married also means being able to work as a couple together and as parents too if you choose to have children. So, yes, the saying is correct, it is a hard job to be married. But thankfully it’s not all about difficulties and compromises. There are a lot of subtle mindset changes that happen when you get married and that help you to find the happy times together.

The Ring Is A Symbol Of Your Union

You probably know that the ring is widely accepted as the symbol of your union. However, it’s more than buying the most beautiful of all wedding rings, as vanity has no role here. Wearing a ring is an ancient tradition that already existed at the time of the Pharaohs.

You probably know that the ring is widely accepted as the symbol of your union. However, it’s more than buying the most beautiful of all wedding rings, as vanity has no role here. Wearing a ring is an ancient tradition that already existed at the time of the Pharaohs.

The exchange of rings was considered a symbol of eternity, as a ring has no beginning nor end. However, in some cultures, the hole at the center of the ring symbolizes a gateway to a place of known and unknown events which are awaiting the couple.

This symbol of never-ending and immortal love has been in human cultures for thousands of years. According to Roman tradition, the ring is also a proof of ownership, which may seem a little insulting at first, as this almost describes the person as an object. However, this idea of belonging together remains for all marriages.

Interestingly enough, the wedding ring is supposed to be worn on the left-hand ring finger because the Romans believed that there was the vein of love running through the finger. But even though you may not be aware of these historical elements, they are passively accepted across all cultures so they would be part of your perception of a “happy forever after” life.  

You Care For Both Of You

Getting married suddenly creates a unit out of you and your spouse which replaces most selfish interests. Naturally, you continue to have your own thoughts and hobbies, but you also begin to work towards the best solution in every matter for you and your partner together.

Everything you do is now for the both of you. While this is a big change of mindset, it actually happens without you noticing. You naturally will be looking at common projects to enhance the well being of your couple, such as home renovation, holiday trips, etc.

You Build A Future Together

As a result of these mindset changes, you find yourself looking for the best route to a common future, whether it is starting a family, buying a house together, or maybe changing your career so that you can have better quality time together. This natural instinct of protecting your common future also leads to naturally learning to work better together and to continuously improve yourself and your relationship.

As a result of these mindset changes, you find yourself looking for the best route to a common future, whether it is starting a family, buying a house together, or maybe changing your career so that you can have better quality time together. This natural instinct of protecting your common future also leads to naturally learning to work better together and to continuously improve yourself and your relationship.

5 Reasons Why Your Sex Life May be Flatlining

We’ve all heard about relationships hitting the rocks, and one of the major reasons is often a lack of sex. Unfortunately, this can also lead to infidelity in marriages and relationships.  

You’re probably reading this article because you’re having less sex than you used to, but what’s normal?  When should you worry?

We’ve all heard about relationships hitting the rocks, and one of the major reasons is often a lack of sex. Unfortunately, this can also lead to infidelity in marriages and relationships.

At the start of most relationships, your sex life is always at its peak.  But as time goes by, many people find their sex life flat-lining.  This can be for a wide range of reasons, some more worrisome than others. The number of times a week that you have sex probably isn’t as important as whether there has been an overall decline that you’re unhappy with and whether the quality of your lovemaking is reduced to routine and uninspiring.

We’re going to look at five reasons that may be causing your sex life to be on the decline.

Poor Communication in the Relationship

The quality of any relationship, whether platonic or romantic, is directly affected by the quality of communication and how connected you are. Ever feel that you just don’t know your partner anymore? Well, you’re probably not communicating with them regularly. It’s possible that your partner is experiencing things in their day that shape their thoughts and feelings, that you’re just not aware of.

The quality of any relationship, whether platonic or romantic, is directly affected by the quality of communication and how connected you are.  Ever feel that you just don’t know your partner anymore? Well, you’re probably not communicating with them regularly. It’s possible that your partner is experiencing things in their day that shape their thoughts and feelings, that you’re just not aware of.  

Busy lives and relationship familiarity means that over time we stop talking to each other as much. We become less intrigued by every little thing our spouse says, we stop asking genuine questions about their day, or how they think or feel about a subject.  

If you feel that you don’t understand your partner any more, it’s very possible that they feel the same way.  They might feel subtly underappreciated, second best or that you’re not really interested in them.  Whether they realise it or not, this could be undermining their romantic feelings for you, as they subliminally interpret you to be less interested in them than before.

Sex is directly associated with and attached to our emotions. Sexual arousal often begins outside the bedroom.  The moment either spouse feels they are not loved or appreciated, this will directly affect their sexual behavior. A lack of sex can kill the mutual morale in the relationship and before you know it, you’re in a spiral of poor communication driving a lack of quality sex.

Effective communication will open doors sounds like such a glib sentence, but better communication can open the bedroom door once again!

If you’re guilty of asking your spouse a quick ‘how was your day?’ when they walk through the door, but not really listening to the answer they give you, try instead saying ‘Let’s sit down for ten minutes before we get on with the evening. Tell me about your day.”

If you’re guilty of asking your spouse a quick ‘how was your day?’ when they walk through the door, but not really listening to the answer they give you, try instead saying ‘Let’s sit down for ten minutes before we get on with the evening. Tell me about your day.”

Make it a point to ask at least two more questions about what your partner tells you.  Do this for a week and you’ll find that you not only know more about what’s impacting their daily life, but you’re getting more affection in return as your partner sees that you care. Trust us, the romantic feelings will follow and you’ll be making better (if not more) love in no time!  

Not Trying Out New Things or Getting Too Repetitive

Would you eat the same sandwich for lunch, at the same day, at the same time? Kind of boring, right?

We all have ingrained tendencies to enjoy novelty and trying something new, and sex is no different. If you and your partner are in the habit of having sex at the same time, in the same place, in the same way, it’s going to lead to sexual boredom.  The predictability of what’s going to happen next makes it less and less arousing.  You might be having sex, but it’s probably not as exciting as it used to be.

Now it’s entirely normal in long term relationships to have routine positions and times for sex that you both enjoy.  But to spice up our sex lives and add back a little of that spark of the unknown that is so exciting in the early days of a relationship, you will need to try new things. Whether you simply want to try having sex in a place other than the bedroom, or want to get a little more experimental with adult sex toys, find a way to keep the desire for your partner’s body burning.    

Work, Duties, And The Tight Schedules We Indulge In

When marriage relationships are new and you’re having your best sex, you’re probably also focusing a little bit less on work, your usual social circle and other hobbies or activities. We tend to get all wrapped up in new relationships for a while, before the ‘newness’ subsides and we let long days in the office, Friday nights out with the girls / boys and other interests creep back in.

When marriage relationships are new and you’re having your best sex, you’re probably also focusing a little bit less on work, your usual social circle and other hobbies or activities.  We tend to get all wrapped up in new relationships for a while, before the ‘newness’ subsides and we let long days in the office, Friday nights out with the girls / boys and other interests creep back in.

It is very healthy to maintain interests and friends that contribute to your personal identity.  In fact, these things give you something interesting to talk about with your partner.  What isn’t so healthy for your relationship is when your relationship comes so far down the pile of activities and commitments that you’re struggling to find time to just sit down and relax with your spouse in a week.  

This has also changed sex in a way. For many couples today, sex becomes another task that you should do, rather than one you want to do.  When you’re both living this frantic pace of life it becomes all too easy to mutually take sex off your to-do list for the week. What we really need to do is reduce our workload and prioritize our relationships (and sex lives) instead.  

To get a bit more time back in your day that lets you sleep an extra hour to give you more energy, or to reconnect with your partner, are there things you can outsource? Cleaning or ironing are usually top of this list.

To get a bit more time back in your day that lets you sleep an extra hour to give you more energy, or to reconnect with your partner, are there things you can outsource? Cleaning or ironing are usually top of this list.  

Consider whether you’re really enjoying everything you’ve crammed in your schedule, because you would rather go out than genuine enjoyment? Perhaps that time would be better spent with your partner relaxing at home.  It goes without saying that if you don’t see each other, you’re not going to be having much sex!

Lifestyle, Medication, And General Body Health

Some foods might lead to higher or lower levels of libido. In the same way, drugs or intoxicants have a significant impact on our general body health and might mess with our sex drives in the short or long term.

Immediately after drinking or taking drugs, the hormonal systems that drive sexual arousal and the ability to perform sexually may be impacted.  Men might find they have trouble with erections or climax, and women may have trouble becoming lubricated and orgasming.

Other drugs, even those that we take over the counter, could impact our estrogen (females) and testosterone (males) hormones which majorly affects our reproductive health. Some medications such as birth control medications may lower our sex drives.

It goes without saying that drinking to excess or taking illicit drugs are never a good idea and unlikely to benefit your love life in the long run.  But since more benign drugs could also be the cause of sex life problems, if you suspect a certain medication is the root cause, it is wise to visit your doctor for a discussion about alternatives with lesser sexual side effects.

You’re Too Tuned Into Gadgets And Social Network Platforms

The great 21st century challenge! Technology and social media is great, humans achieve many great things every day as the result of improved technology and how we use social media platforms for good.

The great 21st century challenge! Technology and social media is great, humans achieve many great things every day as the result of improved technology and how we use social media platforms for good.  

However, participating in social media should not take over our bedrooms each night. This can obviously lead to less sex, if neither of you can get off your device, but it can also affect the quality of your sleep and your engagement with each other.  Staring at screens often equals no talking.

If you used to lie in bed and have a chat and a cuddle at night in the early days, consider whether that pattern has changed.  Are you both on your phones until the moment you go to sleep?  There is enough research nowadays that says taking technology into the bedroom is negative for your overall well being. Perhaps take this advice on board and agree to leave your devices at the door.  You might find that once your phone isn’t diverting your attention away from your partner, you naturally start using that time for sex instead.

Above are just a few of the most influential factors that adversely affect your sex life.  Think about whether you’re doing any of these things differently than you were in the early days of your relationship. If so, make the conscious effort to wind that behavior back to get some more sex back in your life.  

Bring Back Home Cooking!

Do you ever find yourself looking at your kitchen thinking about how little time you spend in it really making food with passion?  The kitchen is the heart of our home, but with the demands of daily living we tend to just nip in and out before snuggling up in our new favorite room, the living room.

I invited Leslie Avon on to share with us a few things about home cooking. Here’s what she has to say-

Do you ever find yourself looking at your kitchen thinking about how little time you spend in it really making food with passion?  The kitchen is the heart of our home, but with the demands of daily living we tend to just nip in and out before snuggling up in our new favorite room, the living room.

Back in our grandparents day, homes were full of freshly cooked cornbread or delicious dinners bubbling away in the crock pot.  The aromas were plentiful from breakfast to dinner and there always seemed to be action at this heart of a home.  More families are working now and it can be hard to find the time to get our hands dirty and fill our own homes with these heavenly scents.  

With modern living comes modern tech and the kitchen is one room that can be full of brilliant gadgets to speed up the process of creating delicious meals and snacks so there is no longer an excuse for just thinking about it, let’s start doing!

No home should be without a crock pot.  

Whilst these little legends aren’t exactly new tech, they are having a real resurgence in lives today.  The reason? Simplicity.  Most meats will taste better with time but spending 3 hours in the kitchen stirring away, isn’t a reality for the average family.  A crock pot enables you to chuck all your ingredients together in the morning, switch it onto low and then go.  

Your family will walk in after work and school to the most heavenly smells and a ready to go dinner which tastes like you have been in the kitchen all day.  There are tons of recipes available so check out our earlier guide to why this is a life essential

Imagine waking up in the morning to the smell of freshly baked bread?  

Whilst quick yeast and new world methods make it easy to produce a traditional handmade loaf, you can prepare it at night. Kneading by hand which is really therapeutic, then allow to rise over night before popping in the oven for breakfast. There are now tons of machines which can do the job for you.

Whilst quick yeast and new world methods make it easy to produce a traditional handmade loaf, you can prepare it at night. Kneading by hand which is really therapeutic, then allow to rise over night before popping in the oven for breakfast. There are now tons of machines which can do the job for you.  

We are talking everything, from mixing to kneading and baking! Check out this guide to the best bread machines of 2017 and then amaze your family with warm, crusty bread every morning.  

Ice cream is a brilliant treat no matter what age you are.  

However the more exciting flavors can be really expensive considering what goes in them! For a really quick and brilliant family dessert you can now have an ice cream maker at home.  There are loads of flavors you can make from cookie dough to pistachio.

However the more exciting flavors can be really expensive considering what goes in them! For a really quick and brilliant family dessert you can now have an ice cream maker at home.  There are loads of flavors you can make from cookie dough to pistachio.  The choices are endless! This is a great gadget for getting the kids involved too, have a look at these amazing ideas for making your own.

Invest in your kitchen and you will find the whole family coming together at meal times again.  Drawn in by the smells or sounds, you’ll probably find yourself yelling a lot less when it’s time to sit and eat!

 

5 Things I Pray About Sex

I spent a considerable amount of time talking to God about sex before I was ever married. Even though I didn’t have sex before I was married, I still had a lot to ask talk to Him about. After marriage, I’ve continued to talk with Him about it this intimate part of my life. While some of the specifics I’ve prayed have changed from before to after marriage, a lot of it has stayed the same.

I spent a considerable amount of time talking to God about sex before I was ever married. Even though I didn’t have sex before I was married, I still had a lot to ask talk to Him about. After marriage, I’ve continued to talk with Him about it this intimate part of my life. While some of the specifics I’ve prayed have changed from before to after marriage, a lot of it has stayed the same.

Whether you are married or single, I hope you get comfortable talking to God about sex. Here’s what I’ve prayed.

1. That I Honor God With My Body

1 Corinthians 6:20 says- you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.

Whether inside of marriage or not, we are called to honor God with our body. Sexual purity doesn’t stop the minute you put a ring on it. We know that giving ourselves sexually to our spouse and no one else is honoring to Him.

There are so many implications to that. First, we are not to be sexually active before marriage. Second, we are not to be sexually active with anyone other than our spouse.

2. That I Focus My Intimate Thoughts On My Spouse

The thoughts you entertain affect your actions. If you spend a lot of time dwelling on sex, you will eventually act on those thoughts. The Bible tells us to take every thought captive. You can’t stop sexual thoughts from entering your mind, but you can decide to stop thinking about them.

The thoughts you entertain affect your actions. If you spend a lot of time dwelling on sex, you will eventually act on those thoughts. The Bible tells us to take every thought captive. You can’t stop sexual thoughts from entering your mind, but you can decide to stop thinking about them.

Before I was married, I asked God to help me re-focus my mind on other things when it wandered to sexual thoughts.

I love what the Bible says in Philippians 4:8- Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.

In my married life, I ask God to help me focus all of my intimate thoughts on my spouse. When thoughts pop into my mind that aren’t focused on him, I use the same re-focusing techniques I used in my single life. It is so important to instill these disciplines in your single life, because they will be useful in your married life.

3. That I Get All of My Sexual Attention From My Spouse

There’s a difference between flirting and sexual attention in my opinion. Flirting is when you say and do things to get noticed by your crush. Sexual attention is when you say and do things to get your crush to notice your physical attributes to sexually arouse them.

I asked God to help me treat all of the guys in my life with respect by not seeking sexual attention from them. I don’t want the guys around me to struggle with these thoughts.

This is still something I pray for in my married life. It can feel great to get sexual attention from others, but it is dangerous territory in marriage.

4. That I Draw Physical Pleasure Only From My Spouse

I haven’t talked much about my position on masturbation while you are single, but I have talked about it in regards to being married. The reason I haven’t shared my opinion about it outside of marriage is that I really don’t know what I think anymore.

I haven’t talked much about my position on masturbation while you are single, but I have talked about it in regards to being married. The reason I haven’t shared my opinion about it outside of marriage is that I really don’t know what I think anymore.

When I was single, I felt masturbating led to sexual thoughts and that was not protecting my mind. At the very least, I was convicted to abstain and I prayed that God would help me.

In marriage, I take the position that solo sex is wrong. I make the distinction between masturbation and solo sex, because masturbating is not the problem. Pleasing myself sexually without my spouse around or without his knowledge takes away from the intimacy in our relationship.

5. That My Spouse and I Have a Fulfilling Sex Life

God gave married couples the gift of sex. He designed this activity to physically unite a couple as one. It is a symbol of how He joined them together. God wants us to have a fulfilling sex life.

Before I was married, I asked God to give me a fulfilling sex life with my husband. I prayed in anticipation of what it would be like to add physical intimacy into my relationship with Austin.

Since my wedding day, I’ve asked God to help Austin and I develop a fulfilling sex life. When we are connecting with one another through physical intimacy, it brings us closer together.

God’s desire for us is to be sexually pure, both in our single lives and married lives. It looks different between these two stages, but the outcome is the same. When we allow sin into our life, it causes a divide between us and God. I encourage you, no matter what your relationship status, that you seek to be sexually pure.

Marriage Is A Full-Time Job

There are many things you should know about marriage, but one thing is that it is time consuming. It takes a lot of effort to build deep, strong relationships. I invited Susan Gravel on to share more with us.

Marriage is a full-time job. It takes time, commitment, dedication, devotion, and lots of patience. Problems can occur when couples don’t recognize this. They take their relationship for granted as they get on with their busy everyday lives.

Here’s what she has to say-

Marriage is a full-time job. It takes time, commitment, dedication, devotion, and lots of patience. Problems can occur when couples don’t recognize this. They take their relationship for granted as they get on with their busy everyday lives. It can be tempting to put your relationship on the back burner when you’re working on a big work project, or you’re looking after the kids. But it’s not advisable. To be successful, marriages need nurturing and lots of work.

Set Marriage Goals

We’re used to establishing New Year’s resolutions each year and setting goals for work and personal achievement. But how many of us set up marriage goals? Taking an honest look at your relationship with your partner and working out together how to enhance or improve things will help you to plan. You can then figure out how to reach your goals.

Goals will vary between couples and could include things like spending more time together as a couple, going on more dates, getting closer, or talking more, etc.

Prioritize

You’re used to prioritizing your work meetings, kids’ appointments, and coffee with friends. Do the same for your marriage. Each week when you put your planner together, schedule in couples time.

You’re used to prioritizing your work meetings, kids’ appointments, and coffee with friends. Do the same for your marriage. Each week when you put your planner together, schedule in couples time.

This could be going out on a date, enjoying a meal at home together, or whatever works for you. Even when you’re super busy, make sure you carve out some time for your partner.

Working Through Difficult Times

When we commit to our spouses during our wedding ceremony, we promise to work together, even during the difficult times. These will come in many different guises, and they will test your bond. However, being committed to working things out no matter what will help you through the tough times.

Sometimes this involves reaching out and asking for help. If you’re struggling to get through things together, consider enlisting the services of a couples therapist from John Arber or a similar organization. A therapist will help you to establish a safe environment in which to talk about your thoughts and feelings and feel heard.

Finding Compromises

Much of marriage is about compromise. Women are often encouraged to keep their own identity and do what is true to them. This is good advice, of course, but in a marriage or relationship, you also have to consider the other person. This may involve spending time doing things that you don’t particularly enjoy.

Though this should not be the norm, we all have to make compromises in our lives. And, it works both ways. Eventually, you will find a place where you can both exist happily and meet each other halfway.

Being A Couple As Well As Parents

For couples with children, it’s easy to get caught up in their lives and all that it takes to look after them. This is natural and necessary. However, it’s also important to remember that you’re not just parents. You’re still a couple and should treat each other as such.

For couples with children, it’s easy to get caught up in their lives and all that it takes to look after them. This is natural and necessary. However, it’s also important to remember that you’re not just parents. You’re still a couple and should treat each other as such.

This means making time to do things just as a couple, going on dates, dressing up for one another, etc. Remember the time you used to date? Before marriage and before kids? Try to rekindle some of that magic.

It’s true; marriage is a full-time occupation. But it has all the best perks and benefits, and you get to spend time with the person who means the most to you.

 

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How to Answer The Question “Where Do You Want To Eat” Once And For All

I don’t know about you, but choosing a place to eat is one of the most difficult things to do. I’m not sure why we have such a hard time with it, but we do. I invited Beth Mars on to share with us a few of the things that she does to finally answer the question, “Where do you want to eat?” once and for all.

Going out to eat is one of the best ways to spend time with your partner, friends, or family. It's even a great thing to do on your own if you're brave enough to enjoy your own company. However, making a decision about where to go isn't always easy. You might be spontaneous and pick somewhere at random.

Here is what she has to say-

Going out to eat is one of the best ways to spend time with your partner, friends, or family. It’s even a great thing to do on your own if you’re brave enough to enjoy your own company. However, making a decision about where to go isn’t always easy. You might be spontaneous and pick somewhere at random.

The luck of the draw could mean you end up eating somewhere terrible just as much as it could mean picking somewhere incredible. Choosing when there’s more than one of you involved in the decision can be even harder. You don’t want to get stuck in a loop of “I don’t mind, where do you want to go?”

If you struggle to choose places to eat out and you often end up giving up and staying in, you should make a change. There are a few actions you can take to make sure you get to eat out more often and choose excellent restaurants almost every time.

Consider Different Cuisines

Sometimes when you want to go out to eat, you don't know where to start. You know you don't want to cook at home, but you don't know what sort of experience you're in the mood for. The first thing you need to think about is what type of restaurant you want to visit.

Sometimes when you want to go out to eat, you don’t know where to start. You know you don’t want to cook at home, but you don’t know what sort of experience you’re in the mood for. The first thing you need to think about is what type of restaurant you want to visit.

There are different factors you can consider when you pick a restaurant. For example, how formal do you want it to be? Do you want it to be family-friendly or is it better if there are no kids in sight? Are you looking for an all-you-can-eat buffet or do you want a three-course meal served to you at your table?

Of course, you also need to think about what sort of cuisine you want to eat. Depending on where you live, there could be an impressive range of choices from around the world. Culture of origin is often a good way to think about what you feel like eating. French, Italian, Chinese, Thai or Mexican? However, many restaurants will have a range of influences in their food, which can be useful if you don’t have a strong preference. Don’t be afraid to try something new once in awhile.

Get Recommendations

You might have a particular restaurant you like, but you want to step out of your comfort zone. Or perhaps you’re new in town or traveling, so you need advice on where to go.

Getting recommendations from other people is one of the best ways to get your starting point. Of course, everyone has different standards and opinions. A restaurant one of your friends loved might be the last place your parents want to visit. But if you have friends and family who know what you like, they can suggest places you might enjoy.

Read Reviews

Another place to get recommendations for restaurants is online. While you might be reading reviews from strangers, you have the benefit of seeing opinions from many people at the same time. Of course, there's a chance that 100 people could recommend a restaurant and you could still dislike it.

Another place to get recommendations for restaurants is online. While you might be reading reviews from strangers, you have the benefit of seeing opinions from many people at the same time. Of course, there’s a chance that 100 people could recommend a restaurant and you could still dislike it.

However, knowing that a lot of people enjoyed an establishment and not so many people disliked it does help you out. Another option is to read reviews from restaurant critics and food bloggers. If you do this, you will begin to trust the opinion of some reviewers over others. Try a site like Eater.com to find useful reviews.

Restaurant Awards

Is it important to you that a restaurant has been recognized for its quality? Restaurant awards pick out the best of the best to make it easier for you to find quality places to eat. Some of the best restaurants in the world are recognized with Michelin stars. However, there are other awards that you might choose to look for.

Many places have local awards, or you might look at other regional or national awards. See which food publications offer awards for the best restaurants and chefs. Restaurants are always happy to show off the things they have won, so keep an eye out for them.

Be Aware of Any Safety Warnings

Before you make your restaurant selection, it's important to keep your safety in mind. Whenever you eat out, you're trusting someone else to cook for you. It's up to the restaurant to keep hygiene to high standards and to prepare all their food safely. You should remember that any restaurant could have problems, from cheap diners to high-end establishments.

Before you make your restaurant selection, it’s important to keep your safety in mind. Whenever you eat out, you’re trusting someone else to cook for you. It’s up to the restaurant to keep hygiene to high standards and to prepare all their food safely. You should remember that any restaurant could have problems, from cheap diners to high-end establishments.

The first thing you can do is be aware of any current problems, either at specific restaurants or in the country in general. You can find details by UnsafeFoods.com on current incidents or general information about the issues that can occur in restaurants. You can learn about the effects of food poisoning and where certain bacteria are most likely to occur.

Keep Track of New Restaurants

If you like trying new places, it’s a good idea to keep an eye on new openings. The thing about restaurants is that there are often new ones opening, especially if you live in a larger town. Many restaurants don’t last long, which is a shame if you find a new one that you like.

It’s still fun to discover something new, even if it isn’t around forever. There best way to hear about new restaurants opening is to read about them in local and food magazines, as well as online. As well as permanent restaurants, you might also hear about temporary pop-up events that offer food for a limited amount of time.

Think About Practicalities

When you pick a restaurant, it’s not all about the food. Of course, that’s a large part of why you want to go. But you also want the restaurant to offer certain conveniences to make your visit easier. For example, you might need the restaurant to have parking so that you can drive there. You might want them to have facilities for children or mothers with babies.

Consider the Neighborhood

Another thing you might want to consider is where the restaurant is. This is important for getting there, but you should also think about it in a wider context. Is it a neighborhood that will offer you an enjoyable experience? Will you feel safe walking through it and will you want to look out the window when you're eating?

Another thing you might want to consider is where the restaurant is. This is important for getting there, but you should also think about it in a wider context. Is it a neighborhood that will offer you an enjoyable experience? Will you feel safe walking through it and will you want to look out the window when you’re eating?

Are there other places in the neighborhood that are easily accessible if you want to go somewhere else for dessert or perhaps a drink after you have eaten? You might not want to go out of your way to visit a restaurant that’s in the middle of nowhere.

Create a System to Help You Choose

One of the problems with choosing a restaurant is that you have two or more of you and can’t make a decision between you. Everyone says that they don’t mind and doesn’t have any suggestions or there are arguments about which place is best. If you find this happens often, you could decide how you’re going to make the decision in the future. There are lots of ways you can approach the problem.

If you can’t decide where to go, try writing down some options and eliminating them one by one. If you really have no preference, pick a restaurant at random instead. Or if you just can’t decide who should get to pick, make sure you get to take it in turns.

Try Something Other Than a Restaurant

Sitting down in a restaurant is a great choice if you’re looking for a romantic night out or maybe a celebration. If you want a more casual affair, you could consider something different. Instead of going to a restaurant, what about looking for a food truck? Any food truck that has been around for a few years is likely to be good.

They usually have a few seats, and if there aren’t any, you can look for somewhere else to enjoy your food. Pop-up restaurants are good options too, but you have to catch them before they disappear.

Looking for Specialized Restaurants

Some people have specific requirements when they eat out. You might have dietary requirements, for example, ranging from vegetarian to gluten-free. Perhaps you're on a diet, or you've started a new healthy eating regime, and you need somewhere that will cater to your requirements.

Some people have specific requirements when they eat out. You might have dietary requirements, for example, ranging from vegetarian to gluten-free. Perhaps you’re on a diet, or you’ve started a new healthy eating regime, and you need somewhere that will cater to your requirements.

This can be difficult sometimes, although it’s easier if you live in a bigger city. To help you make your choice, you can find restaurant menus to look at before visiting. You’ll be able to see what’s available to see if it’s suitable for you and even contact the restaurant to inquire if you need to.

You can also look for specialist restaurants that cater to your needs. Some restaurants, particularly higher-end ones, are also willing to create a dish for you if you have special dietary requirements.

Making a choice when you decide to eat out can be much harder than it should be. If you find yourself getting in a muddle every time, try using these techniques to make the choice easier.

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How To Make Your Valentine’s Day Go With A Bang

If you didn’t know, I absolutely love Valentine’s Day. It is my favorite holiday. I love decorating for it, celebrating it, and basking in it. While we don’t spend much money or go all out, there are some people that do like to do that. This is why I brought Carrie Ferrel on to share with us ways to go big for Valentine’s Day.

One of the best gifts you can give anyone is the chance to spend some time together and if you go on a short trip together, you’ll have the best and most romantic time of your life.

Here’s what she has to say-

Go Away Together

One of the best gifts you can give anyone is the chance to spend some time together and if you go on a short trip together, you’ll have the best and most romantic time of your life. If you’re not sure where to go, thankfully there are plenty of options.

If you really want to push the boat out, then naturally Paris as the city of love is the obvious top choice if you want a weekend of culture, romance and art, but you really don’t have to go that far from home to have an incredible time. Just pick the nearest town to you that you’ve never been to before, and book a room at the nicest hotel there along with reserving a table at a restaurant.

Make sure that you walk around and explore together – experiencing something new together will bring you even closer.

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Experience Something Together

In fact, experiencing something new together doesn’t just have to be about going away together! If it’s much easier to get a babysitter for a couple of hours or you’d rather not leave your family for a whole weekend then you could consider starting something new with your partner like a class or a new hobby.

Talk to him and see what he’d like to do – if he has any dreams or passions that he never quite pursued. As parents it’s easy to put your own inner life on hold once you have kids – and admittedly part of parenting is managing to be unselfish and to put your kids’ wants above your own at all times.

You don’t want to feel unfulfilled – happy parents make for happy kids, after all! So make sure you talk to your partner, and if there’s something that one of you has always wanted to do and has never got the chance to, then now is the time that you should go for it. Maybe you love art but you’ve never had the courage to pursue it – in that case, why not sign up for an art class together?

A lot of couples also really enjoy going to dance classes together. Whether you want to learn to do the graceful waltz or the considerably more sexy Argentine tango, one thing is for certain – the closeness of the dancing will bring you even closer together, and what’s more, learning and talking about something together will make sure that your relationship succeeds even though you might spend a lot of time focusing on your kids instead of each other.

 

Choose Thoughtful Gifts

An error that a lot of people make on Valentine’s Day is the gifts. If you aren’t the sort of couple who does gifts, that’s fine! But if your husband is the kind of guy who keeps buying you lingerie in the wrong size or perfume that you don’t particularly like, it’s time to stand up and admit that you’d rather have something different.

Send him links to gift ideas that you actually want beforehand, or suggest that you forego the gifts and spend the money on a really great date night instead. If you’re trying to think of something to buy your partner then make sure you think about him and his interests rather than pressuring yourself to get something sappy and romantic just because it’s Valentine’s Day.

 

Spend The Night In Together

If you’d love a weekend away together but babysitting is a big issue then it would be a great idea to simply spend the night in together. A date at home can be even more enjoyable and intimate than a date out on Valentine’s Day.

If you’d love a weekend away together but babysitting is a big issue then it would be a great idea to simply spend the night in together. A date at home can be even more enjoyable and intimate than a date out on Valentine’s Day.

Where’s the fun in trying to cram yourselves into a restaurant that’s overcrowded and charging extra just because of what day it is, when you can spend some quality time together in your home? A lot of the time as busy parents, you don’t get the time to talk to each other properly, so give yourself the time and space to do so.

If you want a special night in that you’ll remember forever, then why not go for a picnic on your living room floor? Lay out a blanket once your kids are asleep and treat yourselves to your favorite foods before having a look through your wedding album and reminiscing about an incredible day. And the best thing about an indoor picnic? How easily it can be transformed into movie night in a blanket fort!

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Great Gift Ideas For Your Husband

Gift ideas can be hard to come by. I invited Belah Stein on to share with us a few of her favorite gift ideas for husbands.

It’s always a worry that your other half will hate the gift you buy him. After all, there is only so much you can get your loved one. When you have been together a long time, it’s easy to run out of ideas for one another.

Here’s what she has to say-

It’s always a worry that your other half will hate the gift you buy him. After all, there is only so much you can get your loved one. When you have been together a long time, it’s easy to run out of ideas for one another. It means you might resort to gifts that end up living in the draw, never to be used by your hubby. To ensure this doesn’t happen this year, here are some top present ideas your hubby will actually use.

An ‘I Owe You’ Card

A fun idea which your hubby will love to get is an ‘I owe you’ card. After all, your hubby can use this to ensure they get whatever they wish. For example, they might want you to go to the football with them to watch a match. Or they might use it so that you make them breakfast in bed for a change. It can be a lot of fun to see what he chooses to use it for. It will make for a present that he definitely will use!

A Movie Ticket

Your hubby might not get the chance to go to the movies very often. Often, if you are heading to the movies, it’s bound to watch something that your kids want to see. Therefore, a top present idea for your Mr. would be a movie ticket to a film of his choice.

That way, your husband can go watch whatever he desires for a change at the movies. And you could even go together to ensure it’s a fun date for you both. You can sometimes get a ticket which enables them to get snacks too to make the experience even more enjoyable.

Grooming Products

In the 21st century, men are spending more time than ever taking care of their appearance. Therefore, to ensure you get them a present they love, you should go down this route. It might be some hair products which will ensure they have great locks for longer.

You might even want to get them a shaving set so they can ensure they are clean shaven for longer. And to ensure they smell delicious, you could consider getting them some aftershave. You can read this post here for the best aftershave on the market at the moment!

A Day at The Spa

It’s not just women who love a day at the spa. Men love a chance to relax now and again. And they love a good massage to ensure all knots are removed from their back.

It’s not just women who love a day at the spa. Men love a chance to relax now and again. And they love a good massage to ensure all knots are removed from their back. Therefore, to give your man something they want, you should opt for a day at a spa.

You could even have a couples day, so you both get to relax and spend some quality time together. Choose one which has a lovely sauna and Jacuzzi you can relax in together. And then opt for some treatments which you both will love.

And remember that meaningful gifts always go down a treat too. Whether it’s a love letter or a cd full of his favorite tunes, it will definitely mean the world to your loved one.

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