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3 Questions We Are Answering About Finances In Our Marriage Course

We recently released our Marriage Checkup Ecourse to help couples work through their weakest areas. The 5 main areas of marriage that we are covering in the course include communication, friendship, romance, sex life, and money.

There are 3 main questions we are going to answer during the video portion of the course:

  1. How do I get my spouse to have the same financial goals that I have?
  2. How can we keep track of our spending when we both make purchases?
  3. My spouse won’t stick to the budget, what do I do?

We will give you many great resources to help you with your budgeting and tracking of spending.

If you are interested in purchasing the course, you can use the buy now button below.

3 Questions About Sex We Are Answering in Our Marriage Course

If you hadn’t heard, Austin and I launched our first ever online course. In this course, we are covering 5 different areas of the marriage relationship- communication, friendship, romance, sex life, and finances. I wanted to share with you the top three questions we answer during the video portion of the course.

  1. What do we do with our different sex drives?
  2. Why can’t the wife orgasm the way she wants?
  3. How can I be more sexually confident in the bedroom?

The workbook has a lot of information on this topic as well as a few couples projects. For the sex life chapter, there is a bedroom language worksheet and a sexy bedroom game that you and your spouse can enjoy.

We understand that your sex life is a very personal part of your life. If you ever have questions you want us to address, always feel free to email me at Keelie@lovehopeadventure.com

If you’re ready to purchase the course now, feel free to use the buy now button below. 

Other things on my mind this week-

3 questions we are going to answer about communication 

3 questions we are going to answer about friendship

Have a fabulous week!

 

The Significance of Giving Diamonds

Have you ever wondered why we give diamond rings for engagement and anniversaries. I invited Belinda Strum on to share with us some reasons why.

Here’s what she has to say-

Real diamonds look absolutely gorgeous, and are one of the most mesmerizing stones you can find out there today.

The Origin of Giving Diamonds

There are a few things you should probably know about diamonds before you make them the basis of your entire jewelry collection. These pretty little stones used to be rare, but these days not so much. The reason they are so highly associated with weddings and other special occasions, was down to one very successful marketing gimmick.

Back in the 1930s, very few people actually used the diamond to propose. Then, one advertisement changed it all. The ad made diamonds out to be very rare and valuable; a sure sign of esteem, and your love for another. Suddenly, billions were being spent on diamond rings.

Songs were written about the stones; Diamonds Are Forever, and Diamonds Are A Girl’s Best Friend being two of the most well known.

This trend never gave way, and people still spend all of their money on diamond jewelry today. Some people like to be rebellious and choose different stones for their precious jewelry. Some people still see the value in diamonds from all those years ago. Which category do you fall into?

Diamond Alternatives

If you’re the kind of person who would rather not spend their life savings on a diamond, there are some diamond alternatives you can look into. Diamantes are designed to look like diamonds, although they are deemed nowhere near as valuable as the real thing. That being said, when used in a quality setting, you can barely tell the difference.

Then you have semi precious stones:

 These stones are said to have different properties for the wearer, and look beautiful. They’re perfectly suited to people who prefer a more ‘natural’ or ‘authentic’ look. Plus, they’ll barely make a dent in your savings!

You also have precious stones

These colored stones aren’t as expensive as diamonds, but they can still make a dent in your bank balance.

Let’s not forget about colored diamonds, either. They’re great for those who want all of the luxury while remaining alternative and true to their style.  

Why Diamonds Might Still Be A Girl’s Best Friend

OK, so now you know a bit of background, there are some reasons a diamond may still be a girl’s best friend. They’re associated with love and wealth - they have been for years, so this is not going to change any time soon. It’s how we’ve been conditioned to look at them!

OK, so now you know a bit of background, there are some reasons a diamond may still be a girl’s best friend. They’re associated with love and wealth – they have been for years, so this is not going to change any time soon. It’s how we’ve been conditioned to look at them!

With the guide Diamond Price List: Get the Real Diamond Prices you can make sure you’re not paying more than you need to for a quality stone. Diamonds last forever too, providing you look after them. You can wear them with everything, which is great if you need pieces you can wear every day. They can become a girl’s legacy too; passing them down to your children/grandchildren will be a joy.

What do you think: are diamonds really a girl’s best friend? Leave your thoughts below!

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Five Ways to Make Your Husband Happy

When you are married, it is always good to look for ways to delight your spouse. I invited Cheryl Whiler on to share with us 5 ways to make your husband happy.

Let’s get real for a moment; marriage can be tough. There are good days and bad days, but the good days over shine the bad days by a mile. One of the great things about being in a committed relationship or marriage is being able to make each other smile.

Here’s what she has to say-

Let’s get real for a moment; marriage can be tough. There are good days and bad days, but the good days over shine the bad days by a mile. One of the great things about being in a committed relationship or marriage is being able to make each other smile. 

There are a million and one things that you can do to make your husband happy. We are going to focus on the top five. After all, it is all consuming to be in a marriage where you are the only one keeping the other party happy. These tips transcend man and woman, and we are sure that your husband will reciprocate these tips.

Let’s get the balling rolling and look at five ways to make your husband happy.

Tip 1: Listen

One of the biggest things that we all fail to do is listen to our partners. Children, work stresses and often just ‘life’ can often get in the way and many of us fail to listen to our partners. Ask him about his day and listen intently. You don’t have to respond with a ton of advice, you just need to listen and comfort him where appropriate.

Listening to your partner, whether that’s their hopes or dreams or what a rubbish day they have had at work, makes them feel appreciated. What’s more, it opens the lines of communication in a much more meaningful way.

Tip 2: Surprise him

OK, you don’t have to go all out and surprise him with a weekend in Venice, although that would be awesome, but you can surprise your husband with the little things. Run him a bubble bath, grab him a beer or get him a surprise gift.

Your husband may not want anything but there are some seriously cool gifts for men who have everything. Surprise him with something small. A token of your appreciation and your love.

Tip 3: Mutual respect

Life can be tough, and it’s easy to snap at your partner when you have had a rubbish day yourself. One of the key things that you can do is show respect. After all, you wouldn’t want your husband talking down to you or not being mindful of your feelings. A simple thank you when he does something small in the house can be all that he needs to make sure that he is happy. People don’t like to have continuous or false praise, but thanking your partner for completing a task, or surprising you with a gift is respectful.

Other ways that you can show respect is by being encouraging. If your husband is having a hard time, gentle encouraging words of support are vital to ensuring his happiness, and your own. Don’t talk down to your husband or dismiss his feelings; mutual respect goes a long way. Think about how you would like to be treated, and emulate that.

Tip 4: Put your phone down!

Phones are a serious stumbling block in any modern marriage. In fact, 75% of women have said that smartphones are ruining their relationships. It’s time to put the phone down. While social media and the internet are great past times and time-wasters, when you’re with your significant other it’s time to put the phone to one side and concentrate on your marriage.

Phones are a serious stumbling block in any modern marriage. In fact, 75% of women have said that smartphones are ruining their relationships. It’s time to put the phone down. While social media and the internet are great past times and time-wasters, when you’re with your significant other it’s time to put the phone to one side and concentrate on your marriage.

No one wants to be in a relationship with their screen. Simply taking some time out to talk, without a smartphone in sight, is an excellent way of ensuring long lasting happiness in any marriage. Don’t get caught in the smartphone trap.

Tip 5: Make time for dating

Date nights are becoming increasingly popular with couples that are going steady, but many of us can forget about arranging that special night out. Life can be all consuming, but don’t forget to make time for the both of you. Spending time together is so important to being happy.

So, book a cinema trip, a meal out or even just a walk around a local park. It doesn’t have to be a lavish affair (or it can be if you want it to be!). Just spending time together away from the stresses of modern life can be all it takes to make your husband elated. Of course, if you want to take a second honeymoon, we’re sure he won’t mind too much!

Cute Gift Ideas For Your First Anniversary

 

Are you coming up on your one year anniversary? If so, Lynette Winnings has a few ideas for us of how you can celebrate the day.

Here’s what she has to say-

No matter whether you are about to celebrate your first anniversary of dating or a first wedding anniversary, celebrating it is a very exciting time for couple. Lots try to plan something special so that they can mark this important occasion is a significant way.

Do you know how you will be celebrating your very first year together? One of the things that almost every couple does is swap gifts and presents. Don’t fret if you aren’t too sure what you should buy for your partner – here are some fantastic ideas that I’m sure will inspire you.

Jewelry

Jewelry is the go-to gift for men who want to buy their girlfriend or wife something extra special on their anniversaries. As this is your first anniversary together, your partner might push the boat out and buy you some super fancy and expensive! Did you consider doing the same for him?

Jewelry for men is very much in fashion now, and you will see lots of women buying gold chains and rings for their husbands or boyfriends next time you are out shopping. If you want to make this gift even more personal, you could think about getting the item of jewelry engraved with a message or your partner’s initials.

An Adventure Map

This is a great idea for couples who love to go traveling together. You just need to buy a map or a globe onto which you can then pin a tack into all the destinations and places that you see together. You could pin some of the spots you have already been to before you give it to your partner.

This is a great idea for couples who love to go traveling together. You just need to buy a map or a globe onto which you can then pin a tack into all the destinations and places that you see together. You could pin some of the spots you have already been to before you give it to your partner.

You will be able to find maps of all shapes and sizes – in fact, I’m sure you will be able to find a huge one that you can cover the wall of your bedroom with. That way, you won’t be able to forget all the special places you have enjoyed traveling to.

Monogrammed Bath Robes

His ‘n’ her items of clothing, such as bathrobes and slippers, are very popular with some couples. But why not get yours monogrammed? When you order your matching bathrobes, see if you get yours with your initials printed on. If not, you will be able to get them added by using a specialist monogram service. By doing this, you never have to argue over the bathrobes ever again!

His ‘n’ her items of clothing, such as bathrobes and slippers, are very popular with some couples. But why not get yours monogrammed? When you order your matching bathrobes, see if you get yours with your initials printed on. If not, you will be able to get them added by using a specialist monogram service. By doing this, you never have to argue over the bathrobes ever again!

Photo Duvet

Do the two of you love cozying up together in bed at night? If so, why not get cozy surrounded by your favorite memories?! There are now a few companies who can create personalized duvet covers with your own photos on. You could get one large photo printed onto your cover.

You could go with a patchwork style that features lots of different photos. All you need to do is send off the pictures that you want added onto the duvet. That way, you can dream of all these happy memories night after night!

How will you celebrate your first anniversary? Hopefully, I’ve given you some great ideas!

How To Determine The Signs of Negative Impact of Social Media on Marriage

With social media comes the good, bad and ugly. There are many positives, but also some negatives. I invited Jeremy Raynolds on to share with us some of the negative impacts.

Can it be that social media is actually ruining your love life? It seems like such a great idea, that at every moment you can be connected to the world and easily access information but what about when that all becomes too much? Technology has become so advanced that in a click of a button we can shop, catch up on our favorite shows and share our feelings – good or bad.

Here’s what he has to say-

Can it be that social media is actually ruining your love life? It seems like such a great idea, that at every moment you can be connected to the world and easily access information but what about when that all becomes too much? Technology has become so advanced that in a click of a button we can shop, catch up on our favorite shows and share our feelings – good or bad.

We may find that there is too much information everywhere around us. Today we’re going to discuss the negative side effects of social media on relationships.

So what exactly is the connection between Facebook and your marriage? You could log onto your significant others page and be completely enamored. You look through and see shared connections, groups, and interests. You might find a joke, meme or witticism that you adore but you can also come across connections and thoughts you may not find favorable.

So what exactly is the connection between Facebook and your marriage? You could log onto your significant others page and be completely enamored. You look through and see shared connections, groups, and interests. You might find a joke, meme or witticism that you adore but you can also come across connections and thoughts you may not find favorable.

There was a study released by the Journal of Cyber psychology, Behavior and Social Networking in 2008 that actually points to the fact that over-sharing of information on Facebook causes divorce. It stated that regular users of Facebook, “experience Facebook–related conflict with their romantic partners.”

In addition to that, as cited on HB Legal Resources it was also found that a doctoral student at the University of Missouri School of Journalist, and his fellow students at the University of Hawaii at Hilo and St. Mary’s University which is in San Antonio, surveyed 205 Facebook users aged 18 to 82. Of those surveyed, 79 percent reported being in a romantic relationship. That means a lot of people are online all the time. The greatest part of Facebook and the biggest downfall is that it allows people to manipulate how they want their lives to be seen for mass consumption.

In the event that an argument happens one status update can send a small dispute spiraling into the hands of the internet which can take even the simplest topics into extremes. You learn by watching the world and the news around you that a first reaction opinion can be set in stone.

Even in a more simple tone it just takes one passive-aggressive update that can be seen by the wrong person to comfort your significant other without your knowledge. This may also grow into an intimate conversation and in more extreme cases leading to an intimate action on the sidelines.

We live in a world where if you’re not smart about how you choose to present yourselves you can see the ramifications of your actions. Your online decisions never truly leave the cyber world. Even lack of communication has been known to cause distress in relationships. A lot of us have heard the term “good morning text” and it’s been the ultimate way to show someone that you care. You wake up with a smile on your face but what about when those good morning texts diminish.

We live in a world where if you’re not smart about how you choose to present yourselves you can see the ramifications of your actions. Your online decisions never truly leave the cyber world. Even lack of communication has been known to cause distress in relationships. A lot of us have heard the term “good morning text” and it’s been the ultimate way to show someone that you care. You wake up with a smile on your face but what about when those good morning texts diminish.

These are all things that happen on Facebook itself but addiction to the internet is a whole other minefield. Do you find that you lost the ability to hold a conversation with your partner because they are constantly buried in their phone? Do they wake up and immediately check their inbox for notifications and updates. Relying on the world that lives in a tiny device in their hands? Of course, as with everything even this has been taken to an extreme.

So what can you do about making use of technology without tearing apart your relationships? Do the opposite of everything you have read above. I have a rule of thumb. I wait 24 hours before I post anything or even in general before I respond to anybody when I am upset. Immediate reactions to unfavorable things can often be rash and have lasting effects.

If you take a moment to cool off you may find that you found a way to work through it without embarrassing yourself or others. Another thing you may want to do is look at your posts now. Take a moment to step back and view them through the eyes of other people. Is this somebody you would think is collected or do you sense frenzy in their life. I’m sure we’ve all discussed in secret questionable posts that somebody else has made so don’t be the person making them.

Be smart, choose wisely, try better practices, and watch the time you spend online. Don’t do anything to your partner you wouldn’t want him or her do to you.

Jeremy Raynolds who works as a freelance writer UK Edubirdie. His lifestyle credo is “The love of family and the admiration of friends is much more important than wealth and privilege

3 Questions We Are Going to Answer About Romance in Our Marriage Course

In our Marriage Checkup Course, we are dedicating an entire section to romance. When you sign up for the course, you will receive a workbook and access to 5 days of video coaching.

In our Marriage Checkup Course, we are dedicating an entire section to romance. When you sign up for the course, you will receive a workbook and access to 5 days of video coaching.

These are the 3 questions we are going to address in the video coaching portion.

  1. What is romance? How is it different than friendship and sex life?
  2. Why aren’t we dating more? Or How can we date better?
  3. Should we keep flirting after getting married?

If you want to purchase the course, use the buy now button below.

Ways Kids Can Help in The Kitchen

I’ve been letting my boys help out in the kitchen since they were very little. It started with them setting the table and doing small tasks like dumping things into mixing bowls. Now, they are growing in their abilities to cook and make meals.

I invited Cheryl Mavin on today to give us a few tips on how to incorporate kids in the kitchen more. Here’s what she has to say-

As parents, all we really want to do is help our kids learn to live healthy lifestyles – and one of the best ways to do that is by teaching them about nutrition. They learn the basics of which foods are good for you and which you shouldn’t eat quite as often.

As parents, all we really want to do is help our kids learn to live healthy lifestyles – and one of the best ways to do that is by teaching them about nutrition. They learn the basics of which foods are good for you and which you shouldn’t eat quite as often.

You should also make sure that they’re familiar with the kitchen, with what you do in there, and how important home made food is. Here are some tips…

Don’t Talk About Dieting- Rather Focus on Healthy Living

First and foremost, no matter how much you want your kids to learn about food, you should make sure that they don’t hear you talk about dieting. It’s important that your kids think of food as a source of goodness instead of a source of fat and dirtiness and that you work hard on making healthy food less boring.

‘Clean’ eating is good, but it is ok to have treats on occasion. It is just best that your children focus on good nutrition and eating in moderation.

Let Them Experience Different Tastes

Give kids jobs in the kitchen

It’s important to make sure that your kids aren’t fussy eaters – and while admittedly most parents have gone through the excruciating experience of watching a toddler eat a bowl of peas one by one, they can definitely try to make their kids’ palates more exotic with their own cooking.

If you aren’t confident cooking with spices then why not take your kids out to Indian and Thai restaurants? Even though they might be shocked by the different flavors to start with, they’ll get used to them in no time and be more and more adventurous with food as they get older.

Buy Them Culinary Gifts

If your kids enjoy cooking then it’s important to make sure that you encourage it. Buy them aprons and cookbooks along with cooking equipment for their birthdays and Christmas. You don’t have to go for an expensive mixer, a set of cake tins is definitely enough for your daughter.

You could also go for some slightly more interesting ingredients like flavored sugar and different sorts of spices that your kids can experiment with. As a parent, it’s your job to encourage any interests that your kids might have – particularly when they’re as important as cooking.

Let Them Do The Fun Parts

Let kids help in the kitchen

Let’s face it: when they’re younger, your kids will probably be a whole lot more interested in icing cupcakes than talking about the nutritional properties of kale (then again, aren’t we all?). There’s no reason to force them into an area of food that they simply aren’t interested in. Life’s too short and you don’t want to discourage them from spending time in the kitchen with you.

Let them sprinkle grated cheese across pasta bakes and home made pizzas (just make sure they wash their hands first!) and pipe frosting onto cakes. They’ll soon become more and more interested in other areas of cooking as they get older if the kitchen doesn’t seem like a foreign area to them.