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How to Feel Beautiful Series Part 1

For quite a few months now, I’ve had something on my mind and I’m seeing this being addressed everywhere. Women, these posts are specifically for you. I am starting a series on how to feel beautiful.

I hope you check out my welcome video where I talk about some of the reasons I believe we don’t feel pretty or attractive enough.

How to Feel Pretty, Not How to Look Pretty

Before I go further, I want you to understand I am not writing a series on how to look beautiful, rather how to feel beautiful. I imagine in my mind that all of my readers are beautiful (because you truly are). I don’t think you need any help looking prettier.

Don’t think I’m telling you that you shouldn’t do things to look prettier. I am not against a woman doing what they feel is necessary to look nice. It is very important that you take care of yourself.

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I’m known to highlight and or dye my own hair on occasion. This is a picture I took the other day after I highlighted my hair. I’m not anti-cosmetics and beauty regimens. This series is just not about how to make yourself look prettier and I want you to understand that before we move forward. 

What we all need is to stop looking at ourselves so critically and see the beauty that we possess. Each post that I write, I’ll give you a new challenge of what you need to do to feel more beautiful. 

 

 

Challenge #1

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If you watched my intro video in this post, you will know what my first challenge is. I talked about how we like to compare ourselves to those around us. 

As women, we can sometimes have this idea that if we identify another person as pretty, then that means we aren’t pretty. I don’t know why we do this, but I’m telling you we do.

The quickest way to hate the way you look is to thumb through a beauty magazine, walk around the mall, browse through everyone’s selfies on Facebook and so on. If you feel insecure about the way you look, surrounding yourself with unrealistic pictures is a great way to feel bad about yourself.

I am challenging you to limit what you are looking at and what you are putting your attention on. For me, I stopped reading beauty magazines when I was a teenager, because they made me feel insecure. For you, it might be something else.

At least during my series, stop looking at unrealistic images and putting yourself in places that will make you feel less attractive.

Why It is Important For Your Marriage That You Feel Pretty

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There is a reason I’m focusing on feeling beautiful on a marriage and sex blog. The way you feel about yourself directly impacts every relationship you have in your life. If you have a poor self image, this will create problems in your relationships.

In particular, your marriage will suffer if you do not feel that you are beautiful. For one thing, you won’t be as satisfied sexually. It is very hard to feel sexually satisfied if you think you are unattractive or not pretty. If you don’t believe you are beautiful, you probably won’t believe your husband thinks you’re beautiful either.

Not feeling pretty will negatively impact your physical intimacy. When you feel sexy, you will act sexy, and feel freer to express yourself in your love life.

Also, when you don’t feel pretty, you won’t be able to accept the compliments from your spouse. That can be very damaging to your relationship, because you are telling them you don’t trust them or that they are lying. It is very hurtful for someone to give a compliment that is downplayed by another.

Low self-esteem contributes to other relational problems. You won’t feel comfortable asking to have your needs met. You will feel you are undeserving of good things in your life, which will cause you to make unhealthy decisions.

These are a few of the reasons that it is really important you stop believing the lies you’ve told yourself that you are not beautiful. 

Bloggers From Around the Web Focus on Feeling Beautiful

I’m not the only one that is writing about this subject. Check out some of these other amazing bloggers that are giving you ways to feel sexier and more beautiful this year.

J over at Hot, Holy & Humorous is challenging women to feel beautiful in 2015.

Gaye over at Calm Healthy Sexy is giving you simple ways to feel sexy this spring with a free printable download.

Shelia over at To Love, Honor and Vacuum tells you why frumpy makes you feel grumpy.

I hope that you continue to follow me as I lay out the different challenges I have in store to help you see yourself for what you really are…a beautiful and sexy woman. 

Things I Said I’d Never Do, But Did Anyways

Things I said I would never do

It’s confession time here…there are things I have done in my life that I said I would never do. Who else has been there? I know I’m not the only one that has had really strong convictions about stuff and then found themselves compromising…or worse…changing their minds about their ideals.

There is nothing wrong with having an idea in your head about what you would do given different situations. When you are in the moment, what you said you would do and what you actually chose to do is not always the same. Here are things I said I would never do, but I did them anyways.

1. I Will Never Work Outside of The Home While My Kids Are Little

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Oh man…did I break this one right off the bat. It wasn’t more than my 6 weeks recovery time after my first son that I had a job lined up. So much for not being a stay at home mom.

Austin and I had just moved to a new town and bought our first house. He he took his first Associate Pastor position. He went to work at the church part-time and had the intentions of starting seminary in the fall.

The salary was definitely promising, actually more than we had ever made combined. However, throwing in a mortgage payment and a baby can really mess up a budget.

Austin agreed to stay home with Corbin while I worked as a part time manager at Chic-fil-a. We agreed it would be better for him to stay at the house and try to study for school….while taking care of a baby (boy, we had no idea what we were doing did we?). 

As you can imagine, it quickly turned into Austin caring for Corbin while I worked, instead of him getting anything accomplished. That was something I never wanted to do, but it was the best thing that could have happened to my husband as a new daddy.

I came home to be a SAHM before my second son was born, and Austin took on a second job to make up for the loss of income. This experience was a positive one for my family.

2. I Will Never Sell My Stuff

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We are a very blessed family from the amount of hand-me-downs and other things we are given. Just about everything in our home and closets have been straight out given to us by kind people throughout the years.

Since we spend very little money buying clothes, furniture, decorations, and other household items, we decided to never sell our stuff. It has always been important to us to give back what God has given to us.

A few years ago, we tried to sell a few things on eBay. These were mostly electronics and other higher dollar items we didn’t think would be best sent to a thrift store. Some were school books that I felt were best sold online because people who actually needed these items could find them. (I don’t regret selling the school books online).

We certainly rationalized our way of thinking and put these items up for auction. With the school books, I didn’t care if they really sold for much. I just wanted other homeschooling families to find the curriculum they needed. However, with the electronics, we hoped to make a little bit of money, because we had some serious shortages in our budget.

At the end of selling those items, we made next to nothing. I pretty much stink at selling on eBay. It was not a good experience and showed us we needed to stick to giving those things away like we have always done. 

3. I Will Never Be Self-Employed

Being self-employed is one of those things that scared me to death…mainly because I didn’t want the hassle of figuring out what I owed in taxes. Another big reason is that I didn’t want to be self-employed is that I didn’t want to work by myself. I’m a people person, and not having others to work with would be really hard on me.

I am a work from home mom now, and I’ve actually learned to like it. Austin does my taxes, and if he didn’t, I wouldn’t be able to do this. This has been a positive experience for me, even though I said I would never do it.

4. I Will Never Give Up on Homeschooling

This school year is the first year my boys have gone to public school. Don’t misunderstand me here, I’ve never been against public schools. In fact, I’ve always said I wasn’t a homeschooler for life like a lot of people I know.

We made some major life changes that required me to earn an income. Even though I work from home, I could not manage to homeschool them and get my projects turned in on time. 

Eventually, I planned to send our boys to public school, but I didn’t plan to do it this soon. I had to throw in the towel on this one and quit before I expected to. 

This is a decision that I’ve wrestled with and struggled with even though it has been made. There have been a lot of positives and some negatives, too. 

5. I Will Never Work Online

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I actually laughed out loud at the words, “I will never work online”…that is what my entire business is based off of. When I’m not engaging with you guys on my blog, I’m freelance writing for others.

The biggest reason I said I would never work online is because I am not a computer person. I’m the girl that had to be convinced to get a smart phone…and let me tell you, it took a lot of convincing.

Doing anything computer related is super super difficult for me. It is like doing math…something I loathe and feel completely inadequate to do. However, it has been necessary for me to figure out a lot of things.

I praise God because He sent me a lot of people to take my hand and walk me step by step through the process of what I do now. There are still days when I get really frustrated and I want to punch my computer. For the most part though, working online has been a super positive experience for me.

These are some of my top things that I said I would never do, but I did anyways. All of these situations have been learning experiences for me that have been necessary. Some of the experiences have brought about positive changes, others haven’t. It’s all part of the learning process though.

What About You? What Have You Said You Would Never Do?

Between The Periods

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I’ve been thinking a lot recently about the whole spicing things up in the bedroom. I actually wrote a post about this last week. One of the things I addressed in that post is the question of why do people want to spice things up in their love lives?

Motivation Behind Spicing Up the Bedroom

I started to address this in my post last week…the motivation behind spicing things up. There are two main reasons that I think people search out ways to make their love making more exciting.

Either:

They have the hots for each other and want to be more passionate.

I usually fall into this category. I love my husband and he loves me. We have worked really hard over the years to build an intimate relationship, one that carries on in the bedroom. 

When I’m looking for things to spice up my sex life, it is to enhance what we already have going on between us.

Then there is the other group.

People That Feel Bored in the Bedroom

I’ve been thinking about this for a while. I’ve read a lot of comments that suggest that some people are bored in the bedroom. They claim their spouse only likes vanilla sex.

Honestly, I’m not positive what vanilla sex is. I am thinking it is a person’s way of saying, “I’m not getting satisfied during our love making”.

They aren’t getting satisfied in the bedroom so they think that hotter sex is all they need.

It is my opinion that having hotter sex can work for one night or two, but it is not the solution to your problems. If you aren’t getting satisfied in the bedroom, then you need to figure out why.

Maybe you are lacking intimacy in marriage or emotional connection. What goes on outside of the bedroom has a lot to do with what happens in the bedroom. If you aren’t feeling connected to your spouse, then your sex life is going to seem routine and boring.

Between The Periods

So, Austin and I have been playing around with the idea of vanilla sex and what would a month of vanilla do for our marriage. We’ve decided to make a month long commitment to only having vanilla sex. That means, guy on top girl on bottom PIV (guy parts in girl parts). Or you can call it missionary position (but I feel revolted by that name.)

Of course, at some point, I’m going to have a period, and that is going to mess up our rhythm. So, we have decided between my periods, we are going to commit to daily vanilla sex. I know that there may come a day we have to skip, but the goal is to shoot for every day.

I have this idea that if you are being physically intimate every day, you are going to see a big change in your sex life. My hope is that we will be just as satisfied with our love life at the end of the challenge as we are any other time.

If you are game, I would love for others to join in the challenge. This could be the game changer you need to spice up your love life. In the middle of vanilla sex, you might find that it is the most intimate place you can be with your spouse. 

 

 

Because He is Risen- I Can Have Hope

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Today, we celebrate the resurrection of Christ. The stone was rolled away Jesus raised Himself from the dead. This has been a source of amazing encouragement for me today. I keep saying over and over, “Because He is risen, I can have hope”.

This Morning in Sunday School…

My Sunday school teacher brought in these small flat rocks this morning; he called them moonstones. This weekend, he went to the beach and he searched out enough to give everyone in our class one stone.

He told us to think of these rocks as a representation of the stone being rolled away. While we pray this week, he wants us to hold the stone in our hands. He told us to be reminded of the power of Christ and bring our worries and fears to Him.

I Will Remember The Power of Christ

As I pray this week, I am going to hold the stone and remember what Christ accomplished on the cross. His is all powerful. In light of the fact that he was able to resurrect Himself from the dead, whatever is going on in my life, He can handle it.

When you think about the power of Jesus, it can bring hope to your heart and peace to your life.

Do You Need Hope Today?

We all have times in our lives where we feel alone in our circumstances, or we are staring into the darkness in front of us. If that is where you are today, remember what Jesus faced on the cross and the power He has over the grave.

I love this song “More Than Conquerors”.

What Do You Cling To When You Are in a Hopeless Place?

Your Spouse is Not the Enemy

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The other day I was talking to Jay Dee from Sex Within Marriage. We were chatting about our passion behind writing marriage blogs. Both of us have encountered plenty of people that are hurting in their marriages.

One of the biggest problems I think we face in marriage is that we don’t work together as a team. I’m quoting Jay Dee here because he said it perfectly, “Marriage has turned into a battleground, not them against the world, but each against the other spouse.”

Develop a Team Mentality

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Around here, we have a buzz phrase, “Go Team Reason”. Austin will say that to me when we go from working together to working against each other. Believe me, that happens pretty often.

When you are married, you and your spouse are one. The Bible says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh”, Ephesians 5:31. The day you say your vows is the day you join the same team.

Think of your marriage as playing on the same sports team together. What does that look like in a relationship? First, you have a common goal that you are trying to reach, and the only way to get there is together.

Another part of being a team is giving encouragement to other players. There are times when you have to sit on the sidelines and just be an encouragement to your loved one. Just because you aren’t making the play doesn’t mean you aren’t an important part of what is going on.

You can try to reach the goal on your own, but that is not how God created us to be. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken”.

He didn’t intend us to go it alone. If you are married, He gave you a solid partner to do life with.

Does This Mean We Can’t Argue?

Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t ever argue with your spouse. In fact, healthy marriages have arguments and heated discussions. A lack of arguing can be a sign that you and your spouse are not addressing issues. Every relationship has issues that needs to be worked through.

What I am saying is that your heated debates and discussions should have a purpose, and that purpose shouldn’t be to win. Teams don’t win against each other. Your conversations should be to help the other person understand where you are coming from.

Sometimes, conversations turn to arguments. Again, nothing wrong with arguing as long as you are not throwing hurtful comments in there. You aren’t trying to take your partner down, but help them understand where you are coming from.

Your Spouse is Not the Enemy

It is really important to remember that your spouse is not the enemy. That doesn’t mean you haven’t turned them into the enemy in your mind or vice versa.

When you identify someone as the enemy, where is the love? Even the best of us have a hard time loving people that we think are against us. Turning your spouse into the enemy is a sure fire way to start hating them and stop loving them.

How Do I Stop Seeing Them as The Enemy?

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If you and your partner are working against each other and not with one another, then you need to change your way of thinking.

Ephesians 4:2 says “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you”. This verse strikes to the heart of the matter for most.

First of all, we aren’t always nice to our spouse are we? If we feel attacked, then we tend to lash out. Even if our loved one didn’t mean to say something that hurt our feelings, we strike back with unkind words.

Being tenderhearted is another big problem when we see someone as the enemy. Tenderhearted is when you are gentle, kind, or sentimental towards someone.

Probably the hardest thing to do is to forgive our loved one. When your partner hurts you, they really cut deep. These are usually some of the deepest wounds we suffer. Forgiveness seems impossible when we are standing there with a gaping hole.

You must commit to being kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving towards your partner.

Agree to Work Together

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It is also important to have a conversation with your loved one about working together as a team. Austin and I have had plenty of conversations about being on the same team. It is something we have agreed to do.

Like I said early on, when we are at odds against each other, we use the buzz word so that we can remind the other person of our agreement. This is one of those intentional conversations you have to have.

In fact, you’ll probably have to have it more than once. I know we have this conversation every few months at least. It seems to take that long before we stop working together and start working against each other.

 

Work on Issues as a Team

We all have issues in our marriages. When you stop fighting against each other on the issues and start working together, real solutions can be found. It will take time and lots of practice.

Think about the sports team idea again. They get together, formulate a game plan and then put it to work. When they get into a real game, they know how to execute the plan because they worked it out ahead of time. That is how you have to do it with your marriage.

What Issues in Your Marriage Do You Need to Work On As a Team?

My Obligatory “How to Spice up the Bedroom” Post

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Seriously, it was about time I wrote this post for my own blog. I’ve read so many posts about spicing it up in the bedroom, and I must be honest, I’ve mostly been disappointed with what I read.

There are two types of articles out there on this topic….the lame kind….and the one that is mostly immoral. You know what I’m talking about. The lame kind features things like talking and hand holding (all good stuff by the way) and then the immoral one says watch porn and have a threesome….

What Are You Looking For When You Say, “Spice up the Bedroom”?

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I think we all have different expectations when we are looking for ways to get steamy in your sex life. In general, people are in 1 of 3 different kinds of places (at least these are the three I can come up with)…

The first group is a in really amazing relationship where the sex is awesome. They are just looking for a way to enhance the greatness that they are already experiencing.

The second group is not having their needs met in bed, so they think the solution is to find sexier and steamier things to do in the bedroom.

The third group just ran across the article title and wonders if they are doing it right. Or maybe they don’t have any real expectations, just clicking an interesting title.

Switching it up For Those That Have a Great Love Life

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This is the group of people I am in. I have a great love life and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. What I’m looking for in posts like this is foreplay ideas or new sex positions.

When it comes to foreplay, something that I have found particularly helpful is to use bedroom games. Now let me put a disclaimer out here, not all bedroom games are created equal. Remember what I was saying about the immoral suggestions I come across?

Many of the couples games I run across where not made with the Christian in mind. That is why I have created several couples bedroom games that has free printables. Some you might find interesting:

Sexy Truth or Dare

It’s Getting Hot in Here

Kiss Me I’m Irish

Another thing that I am looking for when I read these kinds of articles would be new sex positions. I probably don’t even have to say the kind of trash that is going to come up if I search for sex positions.

That is why the website Christian Friendly Sex Positions is so awesome. These guys describe positions without any offensive pictures. Occasionally, they will post a picture of two little wooden figurines doing the move, but that is it.

Yes, I’ll admit that I laughed out loud the first time I saw the figurines spooning. Still, it serves the purpose of teaching you new moves without causing you to lust.

These are a few resources that I have found to meet my needs in this area. I hope that if you are in this boat, these ideas will help you.

Making Things Better When You Aren’t Generally Satisfied in The Bed

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For those that are not being satisfied in the bedroom, you can buy all the Christian sex toys (which by the way, Married Dance is awesome for) you want and try, but chances are, you might need to do something different.

Remember those articles I talked about that focused on hand holding and a list of to-do’s before you get in the bedroom? Those are the exact types of things you need to focus on before you can get to the place where you are thinking about switching up positions.

I suggest that you spend time working on the intimacy in your marriage before going any further.

Here are some things you might want to do spice things up:

Those are some of the things you can do to work toward building intimacy.

If your biggest reason for wanting to spice things up is because you are not orgasmic during your intimate times, then there are things you need to do. I have written two articles HERE and HERE that might help you out.

How to Get Excited in the Bedroom From Around the Web

I follow a lot of other marriage and sex bloggers. Here is a short roundup of some of my favorite blogs and their posts about spicing things up…remember, I said everyone has one?

Jay Dee From Sex Withing Marriage: How to Spice up Your Sex Life

Sheila From to Love Honor and Vacuum: Spice Up Your Marriage

J From Hot Holy and Humorous: Why Try More Than One Sexual Position

Lisa and Stu Grey From Stupendous Marriage: More Variety in the Bedroom and a Tip You Can Use Tonight

Julie From Intimacy in Marriage: Boring Sex? Here are 3 Tips

Switching it Up For Those That Don’t Know What to Expect

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If you just clicked this article to see if you were missing out on anything or to learn something new, I hope you found some valuable resources. Maybe you have read through here and realized there are some things you can do to make your intimate time more fun.

I know that not every sex position, toy, or foreplay move is right for everyone. I put together a list of questions to ask when deciding whether or not you should try a specific idea out in the bedroom. This will help you understand what is right for your marriage and what would be a turn off.

 

 

 

What About You? Do You Have Any Suggestions For Those Wanting to Get Excited With Their Spouse?

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Who Should Take the Lead in The Bedroom?

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Negotiating physical intimacy in marriage can be a really touchy topic, not only here on the blog but in real life conversations. Both people in the marriage have different physical needs, whether it be frequency, positions, or pursuit.

There is no doubt in your marriage, there are certain roles you and your spouse take the lead on. Maybe your spouse is the main person in charge of taking out trash. It doesn’t mean you never do, but they do it most often.

Just the same as chores are assumed by each person as being their main responsibility, the same happens with initiating in the bedroom. Most often, this takes place because one partner has a greater need for release then the other. That can cause them to always initiate and develop this pattern in the marriage.

Today, I want to take a look at who should lead in the bedroom.

Is There Anything In Scripture That Says Only The Man Should Initiate?

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For some people, they may point to places in the Bible that talk about men being the spiritual leader of the household. I do not personally interpret any of the scriptures to mean that this applies to sex.

If you feel that it is the man’s responsibility as the spiritual head of the home to make sure all sexual activities take place, then that is what is best for your marriage.

Since I don’t think that is what the scripture is implying, I have no problems with both genders leading equally or one more often than the other. 

Does Your Spouse Want You to Initiate?

This is a question you should ask your spouse. I can’t possibly presume to know what works in your relationship and what doesn’t. If I had to guess, I would say the answer is, yes, we all want the other person to initiate at times.

You can read what JD over at Sex Within Marriage has to say about his personal view of his wife initiating physical intimacy.

It is possible that your partner has already had this conversation with you. They may have shared with you that they would like you to come to them and initiate love making.

To a degree, their perspective may have a lot to do with how open you are when they ask for time together.

If you have a bad habit of telling your partner that you are not in the mood when they ask, they will stop asking as much. That doesn’t mean they don’t want to be with you, it just means they are tired of getting turned down. Can you really blame them?

Why is it Important That Both Take the Lead?

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This is my personal opinion of course, but I think that both people in the marriage should take the lead at times when it comes to sex. If you are having a hard time negotiating sex in the marriage, taking turns leading can solve some problems. 

Taking the Lead Increases Desires

When you pursue your spouse, you are admitting that you have sexual needs. It is very important in finding satisfaction in your love life if you admit that you have these needs. This gives you permission to allow the desires for your spouse to build up inside of you.

 

Show Your Spouse You Love Them Through Initiating

For your spouse, being pursued physically can be a sign of love. Now, I know this gets sticky in marriages. If you have a high sex drive and your spouse has a low sex drive, then being pursued can feel like a bother.

I encourage the low sex drive spouse to work on initiating more often, because that will help with a lot of the tension in the marriage. It will show your high sex drive spouse that you love them. Not only that, it will help you to have a higher libido.

Why I Had a Hard Time Initiating My Husband in Physical Intimacy

I’ve been married for over 12 years to my amazing husband, Austin. For well over half of our marriage, I never initiated sex, even if I was in the mood. 

There were several reasons that I struggled to go to him and admit my needs. For one thing, I was shy in this area. Not shy when he would come to me, but would have a hard time admitting I was in the mood and go to him.

Another reason I struggled to initiate was simply not knowing what to do when I did. I know I’m not alone in this, and I think that there are plenty of other women that feel this way. Without trying to be stereotypical, I think more men have a better handle on what they want in the bedroom than women do.

I felt embarrassed about admitting my needs and I wasn’t confident enough to pursue my sexual desires for my husband. 

What Changed For Me

Over the course of many years, it become apparent to me that my husband needed me to initiate our time together. This was a way he could feel reassured of my love for him. The same reason I would feel loved when he pursued me intimately. 

We were missing the mark with each other when it came to desire. It felt like he would ask me when it wasn’t a good time and that would cause me to say no. In turn, he would feel hesitant about asking me, so our frequency went down.

When I noticed we weren’t together as often as in the beginning, I knew I had to do something about it. That is what caused me to figure out how to initiate. 

Ever since I decided to take the lead sometimes, it has revolutionized our love life. It meets needs for my husband as well as for me.

I can’t decide for you whether or not you will take initiative in this area of your relationship. However, I encourage you to work on it if you never initiate. You might find that it really takes your intimacy to a new level.

Do You Initiate or Wait to Be Pursued?

How to Counsel a Friend that Wants a Divorce

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There comes a point in most couples relationships where they consider a divorce. Even if they aren’t ready to make the decision, the thoughts of divorce may come across their minds. When this happens, it is a sobering thought.

If you have been married for a long time, you have likely come across some situations that have caused you to reconsider your marriage choice. A lot of us have committed to our partners for life, so when we have these thoughts, we are devastated.

Considering Divorce as an Option

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Any number of circumstances can come along that will cause us to wonder if a divorce is in our future. You and your spouse may come to a point in your life where you have very different views that is driving a wedge between you.

Maybe you get to a place where you have drifted apart because of unresolved issues or general business. Lack of sex or an unsatisfied sex life plays into the distance. Other times, there are severe life circumstances that come about that cause you to be at odds with one another.

Whatever the reason for considering the divorce, it happens to the best of us. I don’t care how strong your marriage once was, there might come a day when you reconsider your choice to stay married. 

How to Counsel a Friend That Wants a Divorce

Maybe you are not at a place where you are currently considering divorce, but you have a friend that is. This is a difficult place to be in. You have to be careful how you navigate the conversations when you are talking.

One thing to remember when it comes to their marriage, is that they need to make the ultimate decisions. It is your job to be a sounding board and be the one to keep a level head.

They do not need you to swoop in and save the day in their relationship. You can’t do that even if you wanted to. That is the difficult thing about relationships, we are all responsible for making our own happen.

Practical Things You Can Do When Talking With Your Friend

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You can catch me over at Shape Mind Soul where I talk about how to help a friend on the verge of divorce. These are steps I’ve used when talking my friends that have considered divorce. 

Helping a Friend on the Verge of Divorce

There is no simple answer when it comes to negotiating a relationship. When you or your friend is going through this difficult time, I encourage you to seek God. He is the one that brings healing and reconciliation in relationships.

Whatever decision is made in the end, continue to love your friend and support them. If they weather the storm in their marriage, they will still need encouragement. If they chose to go with divorce, then they are going to need just as much support or more.

What is your advice for a friend that wants a divorce?