I will go ahead and tell you that I do not believe porn has had a healthy impact on sex in the slightest. I know there are many writers and people out there that think porn is not only acceptable but the best way to understand sexuality. I’m not one of those people, and here’s why. 

Pornography Has Changed Sex

Understanding Sex

First of all, I agree that people’s understanding of sex throughout the ages has not always been the best. I know that some think that because porn is gaining cultural acceptance, it shows people are more in tune with their sexuality. I believe that the acceptance of porn shows our severe lack of understanding of this intimate act. 

There are so many studies that show the devastating effects of porn on your brain. Please don’t take my word for it though. Check out Fight The New Drug to see what actually happens when you view these images and videos. 

As far as the idea of sex, I think that pornography has done a lot to damage our concept of this type of intimacy. 

True sexual intimacy and pleasure are about developing a close relationship with your lover and working to meet their needs. Pornography is much more self-focused than that. If you are using it as a way to climax, you no longer need your lover. You have replaced them with something else. 

Even if you view porn with your lover, it still negatively affects your view of sex. Most of what happens in these films are complete fantasy. Have you ever watched yourself being intimate in a mirror? Most often, the things that feel the best in sex does not look good on camera. What you are seeing in adult films is not real. 

What About the Future?

A whole generation of people is growing up believing that real sex looks like what is portrayed in these movies. To their dismay, they can’t understand why the acts they see on the internet do not feel good to their partners or even for themselves. 

The acts are mostly fantasy, but much of what is filmed is also highly degrading to women. One study showed that 88% of adult films had degrading acts taking place. Of those films, 90% of the degrading acts took place against women. And…there’s a lot of sex trafficking that takes place in porn. Not everyone that is in the film is actually there by choice. 

Sexual intimacy is not about gaining pleasure for yourself at the expense of your lover. When you view porn, that is very often what is happening. And there are many avenues a couple can go down for mutual sexual acts, fantasies, stimulation, and so on. There are products you can buy to get the night started, intimate clothes to switch things up, and even different positions and styles you can try for something new. But porn is not a safe mutual experience for you and your significant other. It’s dangerous and can bring lasting hurt to a relationship.

Pornography Has Changed Sex

I know that plenty of independent couples out there are filming their own porn and then releasing it. If that is the type of thing you watch, you might say it is healthier than the stuff being shown by filmmakers. Still, studies show that watching others be intimate causes less satisfaction in your sex life. 

For a long time, sex was an act that was done in secret. There was a lot of shame attached to it. Now, it is gaining cultural acceptance, which is very concerning. 

I am personally worried that the generations coming up will have no idea how to have fulfilling sex lives. They are relying so heavily on what they see on screen, and those actions will leave them feeling empty, unsatisfied, and disappointed. Which doesn’t help a relationship, marriage, or a couple’s future together.

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