There are times when you go through major disconnect in your marriage. It can be for different reasons for everyone. I invited Jessica Barnes on to share with us a few things you can do to re-connect in your marriage.
Here’s what she has to say-
The secret to a long and happy marriage? It is different for everyone. I find that certain aspects of marriage are true for many couples. I think we can all find that the beginning of your marital journey is truly enjoyable. You love your life with one another and you’re making memories.
The honeymoon period can’t last forever, and life starts to be lived. It is at this point that some couples begin to crumble. The mundane that life can offer on a daily basis can become too much because we assume that our relationships should just work. But the truth is they don’t work without being nurtured by you.
So if you find yourself wondering where your sparkling relationship has gone then these tips should help you polish it right back again.
Remember to Communicate With Your Partner
One of the biggest problems couples can have is the lack of communication between one another. We can sometimes forget to even ask how the other person’s day was, taking for granted that perhaps they will communicate with us. No effort being made means neither of you can feel good.
Communication is talking, talking to one another. Talk about your day, your week, your dreams, and your lives. Much like you use to. Never forget the art of communication, it can be the fuel to a lasting relationship.
Enjoy Regular Couple Time
Couple time doesn’t have to be anything too saucy. It’s just about spending time with one another. That might be in the way of regular date nights where you head out as a couple. Or if leaving the house isn’t possible due to young children then segregating your evening and making time for one another then. Perhaps cooking a meal, having time away from your phones and computers and just spending time together.
Be Mindful of Significant Dates
Birthdays, anniversaries, the festive season, they are all milestones that we reach in our lives and as a couple. It’s at this point that we need to recognize our achievements together. Another year married, perhaps a house move or a new addition to the family. Embracing this and celebrating it, even in the way of an anniversary gift is important. We recognize personal achievements, so why shouldn’t we celebrate what we do as a couple or as a family?
Remember Why You Fell in Love
It’s so easy to let the grind of your daily routine take over and forget why you love that person you live with or are married to. But it’s nice to look back and be reminded of that. Often when spending time together, those flickers of personality shine through, and you are instantly taken back to moments earlier on in your relationship.
Separate Your Role With One Another
Finally, it isn’t easy to remember your an individual, when you might have a demanding life or young children to contend with. But part of the issue some couples face is not differentiating their time between their different roles. Remember that when at home you are a wife, husband, father or mother. That when you are working you are the boss or team member. Segregate your roles, and you will find your attention is much easily focused.