We all have disagreements with our spouse, sometimes more then others. You might go through a season of tension and spatting. When you and your spouse have had a time of tension, there are some things you can do to help you recover.
I invited Cathy Tribble on to share some of her thoughts on recovering from disagreements in marriage. Here’s what she has to say-
Even when there seems to be no science of happiness, there are certain tips that can help you to celebrate a happy relationship every day. Successful relationships are built around the celebration of tenderness, good news, and positive behavior.
For each to-do guide, there is also an opposite guide that teaches you what you should avoid, what types of behavior are not expected in a relationship. Everyone gets things wrong. What matters here is not to get it right every single time but to recognize when things have gone wrong and to take action before it is too late.
Happy marriages are known to fall apart on the basis of misunderstandings or lack of communication. So here are a few tips to get your moments of togetherness as smooth and enjoyable as they should, even if you’ve accidentally started off on the wrong foot.
Avoid I’m Sorry Jewelry
There are plenty of excellent reasons to give your darling a great chain to rock. Jewelry is always an appreciated gift in a relationship, whether it is a birthday, an anniversary or Valentine’s day. But jewelry should not be used as an apology for an argument.
A thousand of feelings can go into someone’s mind in only one second. They can be influenced by the weather, their health, how the day has been, previous experiences, etc. In short, when you say one thing, it’s not uncommon that your partner hears something else or gets the wrong end of the stick.
So it’s important to talk and resolve the issue BEFORE you revert to an expensive jewelry present. Otherwise, bling will become synonymous with arguments. You can be sure that nobody wants to look at their favorite necklace and be reminded of a previous row.
A Getaway Can Help You Reconnect
Romantic getaway are a great way of breaking the routine and getting more time together in a new destination. That’s why romantic getaway breaks are so exciting. It’s about discovering somewhere new together. The keyword here is TOGETHER.
Make sure that you strategically plan this outing to connect with your lover again. If you find that you have both been having a lot of spats lately, it might be good to have time away.
A Disagreement Is Not An Argument
Each one of you has personal thoughts, experiences, and desires. Therefore you can expect to disagree on many things in life. There is an essential distinction to make here: Disagreeing is not arguing. It simply means that you don’t share the same thought. You can explain yourself and show respect to your partner’s opinion at the same time.
Rich and successful relationships are not built by people who are identical in all aspects. They are built by people who know how to listen to and learn from each other. This is this exchange that creates continuous growth in your couple. So enjoy your disagreements and make the most of them in the most respectful way.