One of the most common emails I get is from high drive wives that don’t have anyone else to talk to about the issues in their marriage. You are not alone! There are a lot of women that have husbands with lower drives. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about on either side.
Time to Think of Sex Drives Differently
First off, I want to encourage you to look at sex drives differently than what you have been told. My friend Jay Dee talks at length about responsive desire versus a spontaneous desire.
What you would consider a low drive spouse is usually a spouse that has a responsive desire. They don’t feel sexually turned on until something sexual is going on. A spouse with a spontaneous desire is usually considered a higher drive, because they are turned on when nothing sexual is happening.
If you are a high drive wife (or husband), you feel sexually excited throughout the day and crave sex. But, a spouse with a responsive desire needs seduction. They aren’t going to feel the desire for sex spontaneously when nothing is happening.
Resources For a Higher Drive Wife
Here’s a list of resources you can check out if you are a higher drive wife (or husband).
I just want to put this out there that if you are a high drive wife and need someone to bounce some ideas off of, send me an email to email@example.com. I have wives message me every month and tell me that they are struggling with this in their marriage. I’m always happy to chat.
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.