One of the most common emails I get is from high drive wives that don’t have anyone else to talk to about the issues in their marriage. You are not alone! There are a lot of women that have husbands with lower drives. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about on either side.
Time to Think of Sex Drives Differently
First off, I want to encourage you to look at sex drives differently than what you have been told. My friend Jay Dee talks at length about responsive desire versus a spontaneous desire.
What you would consider a low drive spouse is usually a spouse that has a responsive desire. They don’t feel sexually turned on until something sexual is going on. A spouse with a spontaneous desire is usually considered a higher drive, because they are turned on when nothing sexual is happening.
If you are a high drive wife (or husband), you feel sexually excited throughout the day and crave sex. But, a spouse with a responsive desire needs seduction. They aren’t going to feel the desire for sex spontaneously when nothing is happening.
Resources For a Higher Drive Wife
Here’s a list of resources you can check out if you are a higher drive wife (or husband).
I just want to put this out there that if you are a high drive wife and need someone to bounce some ideas off of, send me an email to firstname.lastname@example.org. I have wives message me every month and tell me that they are struggling with this in their marriage. I’m always happy to chat.