If you are looking for new sexual positions, I want to share with you a resource I trust. Christian Friendly Sex Positions is a great website that aims to share different positions you can try without porn or vulgar language. They have instructions that you can follow and basic graphics to help you figure out how to get in the right position.
They have hundreds of positions, but I wanted to highlight a few of them. I know it is really hard to pick new sexual positions because you have no idea how it’s going to turn out. My biggest suggestion to you about trying new things in the bedroom is that you and your spouse discuss it ahead of time. Go ahead and decide you’re going to try it, but if it doesn’t work, no hard feelings. It’s just fun to try new things.
Oral Sex Positions For Her
Here are a few different positions you can get into for giving and receiving oral. I know that a lot of couples can have some hangups when it comes to this. Here is a post I wrote about getting over the gross factor. Here are some tips for giving your wife oral.
Check out these positions for a wife to get into so her husband can provide clitoral stimulation:
Breakfast at Tiffany’s
This one allows you to prop yourself up and see what’s going on while your husband pleasures you. If you have a mirror in front of you, then you can see more than one angle. You could also use a handheld mirror near your vagina to see your husband’s tongue.
Blazing Saddles
In this position, you’ll sit on your husband’s chest with your butt facing his mouth. It allows for a different angle for him to pleasure you. Worried about how you smell down there? I recommend you use Lume Deodorant inside of your butt to reduce any bad smell down there.
Under the Sink
If you want a standing oral position, this can be a good idea. It allows you to put your leg over his shoulder to open your vagina up more and expose your clitoris. If you’re worried about falling over, just lean against a wall.
Tips to Please a Wife’s Clitoris
Need tips on how to give your wife better oral clitoral stimulation? Check out what El Furry from Married Christian Sex has to say about How to Rub a Clitoris.
Using a vibrator can really help you to bring your wife to orgasm if oral isn’t getting her there. If you’re looking for a good product, check out these vibrators at Married Dance.
Blow Job Sex Positions For Him
Giving your husband a blow job can be very intimate. If you want my top tips for a great blow job, check out this post I wrote. Here’s a video I did on tips for swallowing after giving your husband a blow job.
Here are a few positions to try:
Southern Exposure
The husband will lay on his back and pull his knees up towards his chest. The wife will get between his legs and pull his penis down slightly towards her to pleasure him.
Plumber
On this one, the husband will need to be careful how deep he goes or how hard he thrusts since he will be laying on top of his wife’s mouth, he’ll have to be mindful of how much he goes down. The wife can hold the base of the penis to help keep him from going down her throat. If you want to try and deep throat, you should be extremely cautious and only hold the position for a few seconds.
Blow Job Tips
Want some other tips on how to give your husband oral? Check out what J at Hot Holy Humorous has to say about it in her Oral Sex: How to post.
If you are having a hard time bringing your husband to orgasm through oral sex, you can try a sleeve. This is a good choice if you have never used one before: Mood Pleaser Massage.
Sex in a Chair or On Furniture
If you have the right type of chair, you can consider having sex while seated. With this intimate position, you will need to have one without arms, or you have the ability to get your legs through the armholes. Also, it needs to be short enough for you to sit on top of your spouse and still move.
Here are other positions on furniture:
Hobbyhorse
This face-to-face sex position is designed to be done on a rocking chair, but you’re going to have to have one that doesn’t have arms. Or, at the least, really big holes to put your legs through. If you don’t have a rocking chair that would work, you can try doing this on a chair and just rock back and forth as best as you can.
Packing the suitcase
Packing the suitcase is where the wife lays on her back and brings her knees up to her chest. She’ll have to be on the edge of the bed or chair for this. The husband enters her there and has the ability for deep penetration. But, if it is too deep, it can hurt her. I recommend the Ohnut product to keep him from going too deep.
Otto-man
This is similar to packing the suitcase, but the wife puts her legs higher behind her. It’s probably not something you’d be able to keep up with for long. So just put your legs as far back as you can for as long as you feel comfortable. Then bring them back down to a comfortable level.
Rear Entry
There are different positions you can get into to make rear entry or have anal sex a lot of fun. Here are a few you can try.
Husband On Top
Who says a guy on top sex position is not fun? These might be a few you will want to try.
Wife on Top
Here are a few wife on top positions you can do together.
Things to Keep In Mind When Trying a New Sex Position
I wanted to personally put together this list of positions you can try. There are a lot of positions out there that are impossible to do. I read the descriptions, and most of these seem fairly doable. Obviously, each couple will have its own challenges physically.
Before you and your spouse enter into your time of intimacy, pick out two or three things to try out. It is best to have these things decided on ahead of time so that you know exactly what you are going to do when you start your time of intimacy.
It is also a good idea to give yourself a little extra time for each new sex position. If you are trying out different things, you need to give yourself plenty of time to experiment.
Make Sure Your Sexual Needs Get Met
Since there is no way to guarantee that a new sex position will bring one or both of you to orgasm, be sure to meet one another’s sexual needs. If something isn’t working, just stop and do something different. You might end up just going back to the things that are old standbys, such as the missionary position, doggy style, or typical edge-of-the-bed play.
It is okay if you try stuff out that doesn’t work. The important thing is to be adventurous with your lover, and getting into different positions can be a great way to do that.
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2 comments
Wayne Boyer
When we got older it was so much easier to lengthen the intercourse time. It became a fun reason to “note the time.” No races here. 🙂 So a longer time demands position changes. It’s sorta built in that a couple needs to start in a “clit friendly” position, and then transition to others. We found great connection, by starting with a modified spoons, man under the wife’s need area. Almost forming a plus sign. With no withdrawal, this can transition to the real Spoons.
Keelie Reason
Thanks for the tips! I totally agree, focusing on direct stimulation of the clitoris will make all other sex positions feel so much better to a wife!