Sexually fantasizing about your spouse can be a huge turn-on and a great way to increase sexual desire and get in the mood ahead of sex. Not everyone knows what to think about, so I put together sexual fantasy prompts that will get you started. These ideas aren’t just for those who don’t know how to fantasize…they can be great for sexy conversation starters for men and women, too!
If you are using the prompts to help you fantasize about your spouse, make your selections, close your eyes, and then play out the scenes. If you and your spouse are using these as foreplay together, you can write down your answers or say them out loud. Or you could tease your spouse with a few flirty texts inspired by these prompts while they are out of the room or away from the house.
Set The Stage For Your Sexual Fantasy
Go through this list of options for sexual fantasies to help you get a visual of what you are going to think about when you are fantasizing. Use this list as an inspiration. Maybe you have other ideas that come to mind than what I’ve written on the list.
Where Are You?
- Bedroom
- Hotel room
- Hot tub/pool
- Shower
- The backseat of a car
- Secluded beach
- Kitchen
- Living room
What Are You Wearing?
- Lingerie
- Sexy underwear
- Tight pants or shirt
- Short skirt
- Bathing suit
- Nothing
What Are You Doing?
- Sitting
- Standing
- Laying down
- Cooking
- Swimming
- Sleeping
What Can You Smell?
- Ocean air
- Food cooking
- Fragrant candle
- Cologne or perfume
- Massage oil
What Can You Hear?
- Soft music
- Waves or running water
- Sizzling from a stove
- Wind
- Traffic sounds
- Quiet
What Are They Wearing?
- Lingerie
- Tight clothes
- Sexy outfit
- Nothing
Sexual Fantasy Prompts
Now that you have decided on the setting for your fantasy, here are some specific prompts that will get you thinking about what they are doing to please you…and what you will do to please them. It’s ok if not all of your fantasies are doable. But it’s totally normal if they are! Thinking about sexual encounters you’ve had in the past is a great way to feel excited and increase sexual pleasure.
What Do You Want Them to Touch First?
- Butt
- Face
- Hair
- Back
- Breast or chest
- Arms
- Legs
- Vagina or penis
What Do You Want Them to Kiss First?
- Mouth
- Vagina or penis
- Nipples
- Stomach
- Back
- Butt
- Face
How Do You Want Them to Give You An Orgasm?
- Oral sex
- Handjob
- Intercourse
- Sex toy
What Part Of Their Body Do You Want to Touch First?
- Hair
- Face
- Chest
- Butt
- Back
- Legs
- Arms
- Vagina or Penis
What Part Of Their Body Do You Want to Kiss First?
- Lips
- Stomach
- Nipples
- Ears
- Penis or vagina
- Back
- Butt
How Do You Want to Give Them An Orgasm?
- Oral Sex
- Handjob
- Sex Toy
- Intercourse
Foreplay Ideas
If you are looking for more inspiration to fantasize about your spouse, here are specific foreplay ideas you can think about.
- Rub your breasts or chest across their body.
- Kiss your way up and down their legs.
- Drag a soft piece of cloth across their nipples and penis/vagina.
- Suck/kiss their ears, neck, and chest.
- Stimulate their nipples with your fingers or tongue.
- Use a vibrator to stimulate their penis or clitoris.
Here are other articles and products you can check out for ideas:
Foreplay moves that will actually turn you on.
Sexy truth or dare prompts.
Oral sex adventure game.
Sexy would you rather questions.
Hopefully, these prompts will help you think about your spouse in a sexual way. You can use these ideas to help you get in the mood or tease each other.
