Sexy Lap Dance Instructions For Women and Men

Have you ever wanted to have the confidence to give your spouse a sexy lap dance? I know the feeling. The first time I did a lap dance, I felt very awkward and didn’t know what to do. That’s why I put together lap dance instructions for a husband or wife to please their spouse. If you want to learn how to do a lap dance, I have a routine for guys and for girls.

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Misconceptions About Lap Dancing

The first thing I want to mention about lap dancing is that you don’t have to spend much time on your spouse’s lap. Depending on your physical limitations, size differences, etc., you may not sit on their lap at all. There’s nothing specific you have to do to make your dance qualify as a “lap dance”. This is meant to be a fun, sensual time where you let yourself go and express your desire for your spouse.

Also, another thing I want to mention is that lap dancing doesn’t have to just be something a wife does for a husband. I think husbands can turn their wife on by dancing seductively for them. I’m not a fan of Magic Mike, but if all the hype has taught us anything, women enjoy watching men dance.

Hopefully, these tips will help both husbands and wives feel more comfortable dancing sensually for their spouse.

How to Set up For a Lap Dance

To get set up for a lap dance, here are the things you’ll need to do: 

1. Choose The Right Music

The first thing you need to do to prepare for a sexy lap dance is to choose the right music. Make sure you select a slow song so that you don’t move too quickly. Your body will automatically keep time with the music. 

Here are a few song titles you might want to consider.

• Ed Sheeran – Thinking Out Loud
• John Legend – All of Me
• James Arthur – Say You Won’t Let Go
• The Weekend – Earned It
• Mariah Carey – Always Be My Baby

Whatever you choose, make sure you don’t pick something that will cause you to get distracted with the lyrics. You want to be able to focus on what you’re doing. 

2. Pick a Chair That is The Right Height 

If you are someone that is taller, then you might want to get a higher chair for your spouse to sit on. Shorter people will do better with a shorter chair. Also, avoid using a chair with arms or that is very bulky. It will limit your ability to sit on your spouse or straddle them. 

3. Set The Mood

Pick the place in your house that makes the most sense to dance for your spouse and then set the mood. Here are a few things you might do: 

• Use low lighting- candles, a bedside lamp, or white Christmas lights.
• Make the chair cozy – lay a soft blanket or material on the chair. 
• Use fragrance in the room – candles, spray, or tart warmer. 

4. Decide What to Wear

Whether you go with lingerie or a sexy outfit, pick something you can move around in. Tight pants may make it hard to lift your legs or squat down. There are limited options for men’s lingerie, which is why I always suggest that men choose a sexy outfit. Going with an outfit is also a good option for women that don’t prefer traditional lingerie. 

4. Practice Ahead of Time

Doing a few run-throughs of your routine is going to help you feel more confident and sexier when you give your spouse a lap dance. It’s also a good idea to practice ahead so you can test out your song choice and the height of the chair. 

5. Take Control 

When it is time to give your spouse a lap dance, take control of the time together. Tell them what you want them to wear, where you want them to sit, etc. Come up with how you want to end your time together. Maybe you want to give your spouse oral sex or a hand job. Maybe you want to have sex with them or have extended foreplay. 

Here are tips for a husband to give his wife oral sex. 

Here are tips for a wife to give her husband a blow job. 

How to Do A Sexy Lap Dance Tutorial

Check out this video I made with a few tips and instructions on how to give your spouse a lap dance.

Also, you can purchase the PDF with full step-by-step instructions in our shop on how to dance for your man or woman. Just go here to buy your copy of the instructions for the dance I go over in this video. The videos below are not on the instructions. You can see the step by step below.

Or you can check out this podcast interview I did on how to do a sexy lap dance.

Lap Dancing Moves For Men

Here’s lap dance tutorial for guys that will give you some ideas of moves you can do for your wife.

Husband, you can really turn your wife on by giving her a lap dance. Again, think of all the hype of Magic Mike. Here’s how to give a lap dance as a guy.

• Wear comfortable jeans or pants and a tight tank top or T-shirt. Feel free to take your shirt off at any point.
• Start out by standing in front of her. Dance to the music by swaying back and forth, slowly bouncing up and down in a squat position, or whatever makes sense to you with the music. Just enjoy yourself and move to the beat.
• Face in front of her, straddle her legs in a squat (don’t sit on her), and thrust your hips toward her.
• Back away far enough from her so she can see you. Squat down with your hands running down your legs. When you stand back up, rub your hands up your body towards your chest.
• Come back to the chair, squat down, and lift up your legs high enough to straddle your legs. Thrust towards her while holding onto her legs.
• Unhook her legs from yours, stand up, and back away enough for her to see you. Slide to the right, then slide to the left. You can rub your hands up and down your body, grab your crotch, take off your shirt, whatever you are feeling.
• Straddle her again, but this time swirl your hips around like you are using a hula hoop. Take her hands and put them on your chest.
• End your dance by squatting down and kissing her and taking it as far as you like.

Lap Dance Routine For Women

Wife, your husband will love to be the center of attention during the dance, but don’t forget to focus on yourself. Use this time to enjoy your body as well as enjoy his. Here’s a short dance routine you can try.

• Start off dancing in front of your husband to the music. You can rub your hands up and down your body, turn around and bend over, sway back and forth…whatever makes you feel sexy. Focus your mind on feeling the music and expressing that emotion.
• Walk over to your husband slowly. Saunter your hips back and forth while tossing your hair.
• Once you get to the chair, grab his shoulders while you straddle his leg. Thrust your hips towards his body.
• Turn around and squat down on his lap as far as you want to go. Use his legs or the chair to hold yourself up while you swirl your hips. Use the same motion you would if you were hula hooping.
• Stand straight up, then bend over at the hips so your legs stay straight and your butt is towards your husband’s lap. Touch your feet or as far down as you can and run your hands up your legs as you stand up.
• Walk around the chair in either direction you choose while rubbing your husband’s chest.
• Once you get around the back of the chair, run your hands down his chest as far as you want to go.
• Sway back and forth while you stand behind him, rubbing your body against his back.
• Slowly walk around the side of your husband and sit down on his leg as far as you like. If you are able, sit all the way down and lay back. He will likely naturally hold your back up if you do that, but if not, use the edge of the chair to keep yourself from going too far back.
• Stand up, turn around and straddle one or both of his legs.
• End by kissing him and going as far as you want.

Tips For Great Lap Dancing Moves

I know it can really take you outside of your comfort zone to do this for your spouse, but they will appreciate it! Keep in mind that your spouse loves you and they will feel cared for because you are doing something special for them. 

Here are a few more tips to keep in mind: 

• Whatever you do, do it with confidence. 
• It’s ok to smile or laugh. Have fun!
• Move slowly and with purpose. There’s no reason to rush.  
• Consider your size difference. This might mean you shouldn’t sit on your spouse’s lap. 
• Alter the dance moves for your mobility. Anyone can give a lap dance!
• You’re sexy. Act like it. 
• Set aside a night to do this for your spouse and let them know you have a fun night planned for them. 

I hope that these tips and instructions will help you gain the confidence you need to try this with your spouse.