Sexy Lap Dance Instructions For Women and Men

Have you ever wanted to have the confidence to give your spouse a sexy lap dance? I know the feeling. The first time I did a lap dance, I felt very awkward and didn’t know what to do. That’s why I put together lap dance instructions for a husband or wife to please their spouse. If you want to learn how to do a sexy lap dance, then this will help you!

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How to Do a Sexy Lap Dance

To get set up for a lap dance, here are the things you’ll need to do: 

1. Choose The Right Music

The first thing you need to do to prepare for a sexy lap dance is to choose the right music. Make sure you select a slow song so that you don’t move too quickly. Your body will automatically keep time with the music. 

Here are a few song titles you might want to consider.

  • Ed Sheeran – Thinking Out Loud
  • John Legend – All of Me
  • James Arthur – Say You Won’t Let Go
  • The Weekend – Earned It
  • Mariah Carey – Always Be My Baby

Whatever you choose, make sure you don’t pick something that will cause you to get distracted with the lyrics. You want to be able to focus on what you’re doing. 

2. Pick a Chair That is The Right Height 

If you are someone that is taller, then you might want to get a higher chair for your spouse to sit on. Shorter people will do better with a shorter chair. Also, avoid using a chair with arms or that is very bulky. It will limit your ability to sit on your spouse or straddle them. 

3. Set The Mood

Pick the place in your house that makes the most sense to dance for your spouse and then set the mood. Here are a few things you might do: 

  • Use low lighting- candles, a bedside lamp, or white Christmas lights.
  • Make the chair cozy – lay a soft blanket or material on the chair. 
  • Use fragrance in the room – candles, spray, or tart warmer. 

4. Decide What to Wear

Whether you go with lingerie or a sexy outfit, pick something you can move around in. Tight pants may make it hard to lift your legs or squat down. There are limited options for men’s lingerie, which is why I always suggest that men choose a sexy outfit. Going with an outfit is also a good option for women that don’t prefer traditional lingerie. 

4. Practice Ahead of Time

Doing a few run-throughs of your routine is going to help you feel more confident and sexier when you give your spouse a lap dance. It’s also a good idea to practice ahead so you can test out your song choice and the height of the chair. 

5. Take Control 

When it is time to give your spouse a lap dance, take control of the time together. Tell them what you want them to wear, where you want them to sit, etc. Come up with how you want to end your time together. Maybe you want to give your spouse oral sex or a hand job. Maybe you want to have sex with them or have extended foreplay. 

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Step By Step Sexy Lap Dance Instructions 

Check out this video I made with a few tips and instructions on how to give your spouse a lap dance.

Also, you can purchase the PDF with full step by step instructions in our shop on how to dance for your man or woman. Just go here to grab your copy of the instructions. 

Or you can check out this podcast interview I did on how to do a sexy lap dance.

Tips For Great Lap Dancing Moves

I know it can really take you outside of your comfort zone to do this for your spouse, but they will appreciate it! Keep in mind that your spouse loves you and they will feel cared for because you are doing something special for them. 

Here are a few more tips to keep in mind: 

  • Whatever you do, do it with confidence. 
  • It’s ok to smile or laugh. Have fun!
  • Move slowly and with purpose. There’s no reason to rush.  
  • Consider your size difference. This might mean you shouldn’t sit on your spouse’s lap. 
  • Alter the dance moves for your mobility. Anyone can give a lap dance!
  • You’re sexy. Act like it. 
  • Set aside a night to do this for your spouse and let them know you have a fun night planned for them. 

I hope that these tips and instructions will help you gain the confidence you need to try this with your spouse. 

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  1. I would like to learn how to give a sexy lap dance to my husband may be pole dancing classes close to my area for myself up for both of us as a couple.

    1. I’m sure you can find pole dancing classes in your area! the instructions I sell on my site are for a chair routine where your spouse sits in the chair and you dance around them.

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