I have been married for over 18 years now to my amazing husband. It is imperative to me to find ways to show him how much I love him. Since we have been together for so long, it can sometimes get lost in the shuffle to show him I love him.
Remember in your dating years? If you were anything like me, I was always doing cutesy, little things to let him know I loved him. Now that I am busy with kids, work, and life responsibilities, those things can easily fall to the wayside.
Here are a few simple ideas you can do to show your spouse that you love them. It won’t take long to put these together, which is great for the busy couples out there.
Send a Flirty Text
You probably text your spouse over 100 times a day. Most of the time, these texts are functional, not lovey-dovey like they used to be.
Maybe you need them to stop and pick something up from the store on the way home. Shoot a quick text. Perhaps you need them to get the kids from school because you are running behind. Another quick text. It could be that you have no idea what to eat for dinner. Send a short text about your plans.
Since many of our texts tend to be practical, it will come as a nice surprise for your partner to get a flirty text from you. I’m not necessarily talking about sexting, but something fun, something you. Sexting might not be the best idea while they are at work, but something fun could be a nice surprise and treat for your partner.
If you want to do sexting, you can send a racier text through the Just Between Us app. It is a secure app for sexting or nudes.
I like to write a short message on a piece of paper and hold it up while taking a selfie. It is a fun way of delivering a message. I also like to take pictures of myself blowing kisses to him. Whatever you think is flirty, consider sending it to them.
Or you can send little short videos through Snapchat.
Make a Special Meal
Even if you cook most of the meals, you can always make something a little extra special. If you don’t cook the meals in your home, just the simple act of taking over dinner one night can convey love.
If you aren’t sure what your spouse wants to eat, then ask them ahead of time. If you want to keep it a surprise, you should hint around and figure out what they would like.
Whatever you choose to make, be sure to select something you can cook with confidence. However, if you burn it, your sweetie will be happy that you tried at all. Going out to dinner is just as much fun as someone making it for you.
Be Affectionate With Non-Sexual Touch
It is really important to show affection to your partner through non-sexual touch. You can focus on hugging, hand-holding, and kissing. I wrote a blog about ways to encourage your spouse, you can read about them here. And there are many more ways to show support, love, and affection for your partner, in non-sexual ways. All of these gestures convey love very quickly to your spouse.
If their love language is physical touch, it’s even more important to focus on physical gestures to show appreciation, support, and love. In this case, if you don’t engage in non-sexual touch, they can feel unloved or unsupported.
Of course, sex with your spouse is also a way of communicating love. However, if you skip out on the non-sexual touch, your partner might get the idea that all you want them for is sex.
A perfect marriage, a perfect life, or a perfect relationship doesn’t just happen overnight. It takes time, intentional giving, and intentional moments spent with each other. I read an amazing book, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, filled with various thoughts and suggestions on ways to help my marriage with my love, and ways to show affection and support for each other. I have loved viewing my spouse in an entirely new, positive, and loving way. And it’s changed our marriage for the better.
These are a few basic ways to be intentional about showing your spouse that you love them. If you have other ways that you like to show your spouse that you love them, be sure to leave your suggestion in the comments section. You can always find new and relevant blogs about intimacy and marriage on our site as well. I hope these ideas can help you and your spouse grow your relationship with each other.
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