My husband and I dated for a little over five years. Once we got married I didn’t realize just how much different marriage would be. My now husband and I was very familiar with each other, but we still learned some new things about each other that first year.
1. Sharing Rooms Can Be Hard
My husband and I had never really shared rooms before and that can kinda made it hard. Especially delegating a place for everything. It can be difficult trying to find a happy medium.
2. Chores Are For Everyone
Once we got married we had to come up with a plan for getting the chores done. Living on your own is different because you are now responsible for the entire household. It is best to sit down and come up with a plan beforehand to save yourself some future trouble.
3. Sleeping in a Bed Together Is Hard
Depending on the personalities bed sharing can be hard. I am a light sleeper and my husband likes to squirm around more than I like. Some nights I still do not know how to handle his squirminess.
4. You Have to Clean up After Sex
Very seldom have I ever heard someone say that sex is messy. I’m not sure how I missed this fact. Once your lovemaking is over stuff can get very messy and you are going to need to clean up. I think Sheila breaks a lot of myths in her book, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.
5. Planning Your Holidays
My spouse and I used to spend all holidays with our own family without sharing. Holidays can cause a lot of conflicts when you first get married if you do not plan ahead. Planning out your holiday schedules and keeping your family informed will help keep the disagreements at bay.
6. We Both Have Unique Taste
I did not realize that once I was married I would have to figure out how to style rooms that suited the both of us. Decorating can be hard when you have different taste in style. Another hard one is cooking, especially if one has a much wider palette than the other.
7. They Say Opposites Attract
I have always heard that opposites attract, but it can be very difficult if your a morning person and your spouse is a night owl. There is a learning curve when it comes to the different personalities and learning how to work together. It will take time and patience.
That first year of marriage is spent learning everything about each other. Even with all the challenges, I did enjoy my first year of marriage!
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.