How to a Survive a Season of Waiting in Marriage

How to Survive a Season of Waiting in Marriage

In honor of Mother’s Day, I invited Kelly from Kelly Cox at Home to come on and share with us a little bit about her journey to motherhood. She and her husband are in the process of adopting a child and as you can imagine, there are challenges that come along with it. Listen to what she has to say about how to survive a period of waiting in your marriage.

Here’s what she has to say- 

Let’s face it, waiting is hard. Have you ever experienced a season of waiting in your marriage? We certainly have. In fact, we’ve been in “wait mode” for quite a while.

A season of waiting has the potential to divide you as a couple or it can bring you closer together. We’ve chosen the latter! We live in a right now world and that makes waiting even harder at times.

Currently, my husband, Sean, and I are waitlisted to adopt our first child. (YAY!) To say the wait is tough is an understatement. We are hopeful, prayerful and joyful as we wait for THE call that will make us instant parents. (Truth be told, a little antsy at times too…)

The adoption process takes lots of time. We had to go through webinars, seemingly endless paperwork, appointments, home visits, training sessions and more. After we completed all of the application process, we joined the official wait-list. The real wait began at that point.

Sean and I are blessed with an amazing marriage and have so much fun just doing life together. We decided it was important to not lose “us” as we journey through the adoption. Our marriage is just too important and truly the top priority in our home.

We’ve been quoted 9 to 18 months before our adoption will take place but it could be longer or shorter time frame wise. We have no control over the details or timing. All we can do is sit tight and wait

Right now, we have all of the baby stuff together just in case. There’s bottles, wipes, diapers, a few clothes, and of course the crib and mattress. We chose the best of everything, like this mattress- check it out here to see the reviews.

We’ve learned how to “wait well” and here are a few ways we’ve pulled that off with the Lord’s help!

Waiting for a baby

5 Ways Your Marriage can Survive a Season of Waiting:

Don’t Stop Living

While you are in a season of waiting, you must keep living. Don’t put your life on a complete hold. Resolve ahead of time to “do this thing” together and don’t let the wait consume you.

We’ve waited for a child for what feels like a long time. Sean and I would have missed out on so many things if we’d just put our lives and marriage on hold. We believe that our marriage is our number one human relationship and it should be treated as such, no matter the season of life.

Pray a Bunch

We pray together as a couple every day. This has been helpful during this season of our lives. In a time where you feel unsure and like the waiting seems endless, a time of prayer and laying out those requests and praises together is truly time well spent.

Encourage Each Other

Sean and I try to support and encourage each other as we wait. On any given day, one of us could struggle with the unknown time frame with our adoption. Anything can trigger a feeling of concern, disappointment or frustration.

Be each other’s biggest support and blessing while you wait. Encouragement spurs you onward and will bless you and your marriage.

Be Good Listeners

Listening is essential for your marriage as you go through a season of waiting. Sometimes Sean or I just need to vent, cry or ramble. We feel uncertain of our future sometimes and like our life seems a little unsettled.

We’ve promised each other to always listen regardless if it’s the same old thing again and again. Consistently invest in each other and you’ll both feel valued and affirmed.

Avoid Complaining and Arguing

Try and handle the wait without complaining and arguing. What good does that kind of negativity do anywayStay positive and remember you’re in this thing together. If you grumble about the wait all the time, then discouragement is bound to set in.

Sean and I are joyfully wait-listed and have learned so much during this season of waiting. Our marriage has been strengthened, we’ve grown closer to God and have learned much about how to wait with a good attitude.

KCAH - compressedKelly is a Christ follower, blessed wife, mom to be and a lover of all things home. She blogs over at www.KellyCoxAtHome.com about her journey at home and passion for debt-free living. She hopes to encourage others in that goal, while sharing tips on how to manage and enjoy all things that make up HOME!

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