Guys, you know I LOVE Valentine’s Day. I have had my house decorated for the last few weeks, because I just love it.
Maybe you think that since I have this huge love for the holiday, that we go big or go home when it comes to gift giving and the VDay date night.
Want to know the truth? We don’t go all out. Austin usually brings me a card (or makes one for me) and sometimes he comes with a balloon or chocolates. Since I love to decorate for Valentine’s, the homemade cards and balloons stay out all year.
I usually put together a nice at home date night and we enjoy intimate time together after the kids go to bed. Typically, I try to get a card for him and sometimes I’ll make something cute for him.
This year, our plans are to eat leftover steaks from a church fundraiser at our bistro table. What might happen after our dinner for two…well, I’ll never tell. 😉
Actually, I think we decided that we were going to count seeing Piff The Magic Dragon last weekend, as our Valentine’s date. It was basically decided after the fact, and that is ok!
Take the Pressure Off at Valentine’s Day
If you are married or single, I suggest you take the pressure off of this holiday. Don’t try to go out all or have huge expectations. That will just set everyone up for failure.
Be sure to check out the tips Jay Dee gives on how to take the pressure off on that day. I completely agree with him! There are some holidays around here that we work hard not to overdo it on.
I really appreciated what Jay Dee over at Sex Within Marriage had to say in his podcast this week. Clearly, there is a lot of pressure surrounding the holiday that I’m basically unaware of.
I mean…I see stuff on social media that leads me to believe that people get super disappointed about the day. I just don’t get it really. When I was growing up, my parents were pretty low key about the holiday in the way they celebrated it and how they handled it with us.
Although, I will say that some of my favorite cards and stuffed animals came from my daddy on Valentine’s when I was a kid. Then, when I was a teenager, Austin bought me things for the day also that I really loved. The one that still makes me laugh is he got one of those talking chihuahuas from Taco Bell one year. One of the dogs was holding a heart and it would say, “I think I’m in love”. It was way too cool.
Don’t Celebrate it if it Stresses You Out
The moment a holiday goes from being fun to stressing you out, it’s time to re-focus. It might mean that you need to just skip it. I know that this can be a bit difficult with Christmas, but with all of these smaller holidays, just don’t worry about it.
Of course, if you decide to not celebrate a holiday, you need to work it out with your spouse. It might not be that big of a deal to you, but they may get their feelings hurt.
Take yourself outside of what the world is doing or what the world has to say about Valentine’s, and decide what you and your spouse want to do to celebrate- or not celebrate.
I get it- not everyone wants pink and red hearts all over their house like I do. That is absolutely ok! You don’t have to be me. You don’t have to be what you see on commercials. You don’t have to be what you see other couples do. Just be you.
What about you? Do you love or hate Valentine’s Day?
Keelie is a mother of three amazing boys and married to her high school sweetheart, Austin. She spends her days running R5 Website Management, taking care of the home, and investing in her children. In her spare time, she loves to encourage married couples to grow deeper in their relationship and find joy in their marriage.