A satisfied love life comes when you and your spouse master the art of giving pleasure and receiving it. It is important for the two of you to take turns giving and receiving. If you have the habit of your love life being one sided, then you are both severely missing out.
Both Parties Should Gain Pleasure From the Experience
I’m not saying that sex can’t ever be one person choosing to please the other without receiving
pleasure in return. I know that quickies can really be great for some couples, even if only one walks away reaching the top. However, that shouldn’t be the entirety of the encounters that you both have.
Take Turns Focusing on Each Other Before You Unite
Before you and your spouse have sex, you can start out by taking turns to focus on one another. It is really helpful when you are both ready for the lovemaking session before you begin if at all possible.
Take turns kissing on one another’s body and doing things that will please each other. One of you may already be in the mood, so you that person may consider focusing on the other to get them in the mood.
One Has to Go First- Because Let’s Be Real- Going Together is Hard
Let’s be real here for a minute- while it might be a really sexy idea that you guys will reach the top of physical pleasure together, it hardly happens. I’m not going to say it never happens, or that there aren’t couples out there that can’t achieve it. However, most couples really struggle to be in sync in this way.
Since it can be hard to be satisfied at the same time, then you and your spouse should take turns giving and receiving pleasure. You both need to decide whose turn it is first, and then who will get last.
The Benefit of Taking Turns
One of the reasons that it is so beneficial to take turns, is that you can focus on one thing at a time. It is very hard to focus on pleasing while being pleased. By taking turns, you can receive without guilt and give whole-heartedly.
If there are things that you desire your spouse to do for you, it will be easier for you to ask if you have taken the time to please them. On the other hand, when you know your needs are going to be met, it makes it easier to give freely.
Communication Goes Up
Communication is key when it comes to having a great sex life. You both will need to talk with one another while you are making love. When it is your turn to receive, you can share with your lover what you need from them. When it is your turn to give, you can take the instruction that your spouse gives you.
If it is your turn to receive, be sure to tell your lover when you reach the height of pleasure. This way, they will not be left guessing. It will also signal to them that it is their turn if you went first.
At the end of it, you both walk away knowing that the other person had their needs met. It is so important that you know if your lover felt satisfied by your time together.